This is a wonderful experance and if you were on the pill its just ment to be, buying a house can wait your still young and now it will be a family home. I completely understand how your feeling right now as I to have had 2 unplanned pregnancys and this pregnancy was planned but for a few months later then it happened. There is a reason your baby has choosen to come now so you need to take a breather and enjoy it. Its alot easier said then done but its ment to be. With my son I was on the pill when I fell pregnant, and with my daughter I was on the pill and we used condoms, she was coming no matter how much protection we used its just a sign that baby's pick their parents and the time to come. We as parents are just hardly ever ready.
Please don't think your plans have been thrown out the window just postponed a little, Once you have your baby you will think what was life without them, Children are a blessing and Im not religious, Its just a lesson your ready to learn. your boyfriend and yourself will be doing it together so its a wonderful bond you will experance together, this will most proberly bring you closer and you will look at each other in a differnt light and relise the love you share. I believe you don't really understand love until you have a child, your love will grow and your both at a great age to experance this. The house will come its just now your prioitys have changed a little, thats a step down the ladder. Everything will be wonderful so think of it in a positive light and it will be a positive experancne, If you look at it in a negative light it will be more negative so its all in your control.
Enjoy your pregnancy because 9 months seems like a long time and its not, so enjoy every part of it its amazing. Make sure you are both there to experance the birth together it will change your relationship for the better. Good luck and Congratulations to you both.FREAKING OUT!! I just found out i'm pregnant, UNPLANNED, and was on the pill. Very bad timing, Any advice?
Im very glad I could be of some help to you. It's an amazing feeling becoming although overwelming its the best experance in life. Im sure you will be wonderful parents and you will have a beautiful baby. Good luck and I wish you all the best in your future happiness.
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Looks like it's time to get married and settle down. Might be a little sooner than you had planned but that's life. Why look at the birth of a child as having everything ';thrown out the window';. Start by changing your attitude. Your child needs you both to prepare for his/her arrival with positive thoughts of love and joy.
Well, you have two choices, keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption. I think this is something you two need to think over very carefully!
Just from personal experience, I was devastated when I found out I was pregnant with my first child. It was unplanned, and I was in a very bad marriage. I freaked out, cried, layed around, etc. for about a month. Then the idea of it all just got better and better. Even though the situation was not ideal, she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Never once have I been sorry that I ended up being pregnant. (and she is 8 now!) So, I guess what I am saying is that if you all truly love each otehr and want to be together, time will make it clear to you what you are supposed to do. Just because things don't work in the way we plan them to doesn't mean they aren't good things.
By the way, you can probably still afford to buy the house. Even if you don't have medical insurance, many hospitals will ';cut a deal'; with you. for example, some places will give you one total bill for all your visits, the delivery, etc., and discount it almost in half as long as you pay by the time the baby is born.
Best of luck to you both!
You and your boyfriend need to find someone to talk to. After you talk to one another about the options you would consider, try talking to the pastor of your church, a social worker, or another person you trust to have your best interests at heart. Know what your options are, and the consequences of each of your choices. Make sure that both the choice and the consequences are something that both you and your boyfriend are prepared to support one another in dealing with and managing emotionally. Being pregnant is a particularly emotional time and not always the most rational from a woman's perspective.
Most importantly, you and your boyfriend have to make a decision that will work for you both.
if you put the baby for adoption there are people out there waiting for babies . they will pay for the medical bills and all legal fees . good luck on your choice
There are many options for you to consider... one is if you are serious about not keeping the baby, you could talk about adoption
The baby will need loving parents, and if you are not ready and you are sure that you cannot ever raise this baby, then talk to someone who can help you with an adoption process. There are thousands of couples who are waiting for so long in long lines to adopt a baby to love in their family! I know of at least two couples personally... they would absolutely love to have a baby right now!
Take some time to talk about this seriously and honestly with your guy... make sure that you are not going to regret any kind of decision you might make about this baby... this will affect your entire life from now on... Good luck and best wishes! If you are religious, then pray about it too please... it will help you know what to do!
count to 10 all will be well
I am against abortion too. But I did have a friend that got pregnant. it was unplanned, she was on the pill, condom was used, and she took a morning after pill... well she got pregnant from all that. She is against it to. but she could not afford to be a baby into the world. Her bf could not pay anything either. They decided to get the abortion b/c they knew that they couldn't do it due to money. chrildren takes millions of dollars. Its been a year for them and they still dont regret it. they knew it was the best thing to do.
having babies is what happens when two people do it. It's a fact of life. You took your chances. And you won. That's why people tell you not to do it till you're married.
Ok, so it's time to look to the future. Go see the doctor, get your vitamins, etc. and while you're still able maybe do extra work and suggest he have two jobs and start making plans for what you two will need to support the new baby, and, of course, it would be best if you get married prior to the baby's arrival. The baby will be with you or 18 years, so start planning for their future. Choose a name, save your money. Skrimp now.
Give the baby up for adoption, you might feel kinda bad, but you two are just kids. If you decide to keep the baby you should consider moving in with yours or his parents. You should probably get married soon because lots of jerks would leave a girl once a kid was in the picture. Good luck, I feel for you.
you arent married so go to the health dept %26amp; get put on medicaid
poof no more medical bills --even if you were married you may still qualify.take a deep breath %26amp; SLEEP as much as possible - start buying diapers - not too many size one - they grow out of those quick!! buy 2nd hand( exept the crib mattress or car seat) dont get sucked into the toy aisle - find a good consignment shop.expect the unexpected - nobodys life is planned for the next week much less the next year -- its not the end of the world -- its the beginning of a beautiful journey -- enjoy your newborn because they grow quicker than you can imagine.you will do fine because the baby needs you %26amp; did not ask to be here -- whether or not he/she was planned or not, all it needs is your love .good luck!
This is what happens when you have sex out of marriage. Your best bet is to give this child up! It sounds like both of you are way too young to have a child or have sex. If you are ready to have sex then you are ready to have a child. It is that simple. Sex is for married people only. You may want to wait until your boyfriend puts a ring on your finger.
Look sometimes you are given a gift on a day that is not your birthday, so enjoy it. If you are against abortion(and I agree with you there) then you only have two choices: keep or adoption. Look lots of people buy houses with a baby. And your life doesnt end. Its something that will enhance your life not detract from it. It appears like you are only looking at the negative and not looking at the positives. Good luck !!!
Seriously, your best option is an abortion. Your next best option is to give it up for adoption. NEVER keep a child you don't want.
Cool u will have ur house, baby, and hubby. relax it's not the end of the world, i don't think many people plann their kids, so just relax !!!!!! and it looks to me that u guys were enjoying each other very well for this to happened. GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS. every1 has tons of bills to pay so u wont b the first or last!!!
Well, you can do a few things... You can keep the baby, or put it up for adoption. There are ton's of couples out there that are ready to have a family but can't (personal experience i can't have kids but we are so ready)
Sometimes things happen for a reason, if this baby was able to be conceived while you were on the pill then maybe it is a blessing in disguise. Good Luck with what ever you decide.
Children are much more important than the inconvenience they cause. This is not obvious now. But, man, a few years from now you will be like, what the hell was I thinking back then. It's my CHILD! How could anything....ANYTHING be more important than that.
wait.. just relax. Let's do a reality check quick shall we.
What is stopping you from buying your house in six months?
All those medical bills? Ever heard of government hospitals and home birth?
Your future is still planned for the next year and now you just add one more thing to it. A baby. Yes its a big deal, I understand that but remember that a child fits into your life style - you dont fit into its. (to an extent).
Good luck i hope it all works out for you three
if you feel thet yiu are not ready i know you said you do not believe i abortion but please do not even thinck about it maybe you can work out something so you will beable to do every thing you planned if not you can give the baby up for adoption good luck to you me and my hubby would like to have the chance to say we are prego we have been tring 2 years and nothing
Well.. If you want to wonder who is rasing your child for the rest of your life than give it up for adoption. But what if this is the only child you could ever have... If you did not want a child you should not have done it. When someone makes the decision to have sex that is making the commitment that if something happens I will take the consequences of my actions. What if someone killed someone and the police said thats ok we can just give you up for adoption... Think about the child one day the adoptive parents are going to tell that child they were adoptive and they are going to think did my mom and dad not love me...
have the baby and enjoy the adddition. It seems like its gonna be a hassel right now, but the moment you hold that baby it will be worth it to you! Get insurance so you ahve low medical bills.
time to grow up, find a new way to have fun! kids are fun! its a new adventure that you're taking wit your man!
Having the child and putting it up for adoption is an option.
It may seem like everything is thrown out the window right now, but remember, everything happens for a reason. There is a time for everything under the sun. If you two are planning a future together, then I believe that when this baby is born, you both will be so happy, nothing else will matter. I think it will bring your relationship closer. This is an amazing journey that both of you will be able to experience together. When the baby is asleep, then you can have some quiet time together. I freaked when I became pregnant at 22. But I wouldn't change anything. Now I have three kids! :) So Calm down and cheer up! Your gonna be a mommy!!!!! Congratulations to both of you! Everything will be fine. One child really isn't that much of a financial strain, especially if you have a baby shower. Then most everything will be provided for you. Three kids is a financial strain! But I love them so much! Good Luck, everything will be fine. :)
How would you feel when your mother will tell you that we werent prepared when you came ? We should bought a more beautiful house hadnt you came out!
Some things come like a thief in the night. You should be prepared for the consequences.
Which is more important the house or the baby? You can just rent out first and save for the medical bills %26amp; buy a house later. Dont you know that the baby is heaven sent. Some couples are married for many years and are eager to have a baby but none came. You should be happy!
I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. At the time I thought it was the worst thing ever. I had to do things that I really didn't want to. But I promise everything will be okay! Right now its hard and I understand but it will get easier once the intial shock is over.
Raising a baby isn't easy and at times you might want to give up but just stick in there. Give it all you got! That baby now depends on you. I don't know if you have got to see the heart beat or an ultrasound but that is a miracle. I cried the first time I saw my baby and he actually looked like a baby and not like an alien.
make sure you invovle your boyfriend as much as possible. He may be scared but he is also excited! Having a baby is a wonderful experience. God put that baby here for a reasson and even though you may not be able to see it!! God has the bigger picture in his head! Good Luck! I'll pray for you!
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