my bfs ex wife is trying to stir up so much trouble...he's completely blind to what she's doing she'll b all nice to him and kiss his familys a** and then told me she'll show me how it is and is since just trying to do ANYTHING to upset me from msging him all the time to becoming best friends with his sis and bro (while they were married she hated his siblings) what can i do? i dont wanna sit here and let her get away with it... i cant talk to him because he gets deensive and mad.. i wana piss her off and get back at her sorry all u nice ppl but this woman has hurt me enough.... i wanna give her a taste of her reciepeNO GOODY2SHOES 4 this one!! I need some bad*** advice...?
As soon as you ';give her a taste'; of her own medicine she has won! She is looking for a reaction from you. She is hoping to cause trouble between you and your boyfriend and you are letting her. Ignore her. It will drive her crazy!NO GOODY2SHOES 4 this one!! I need some bad*** advice...?
You want revenge? Set her up...get a male friend of yours that your bf doesn't know...have him find the ex, get her to sleep with him or suck his -----, take a pic, then send it to your bf. He will remember why he isn't with her and really hate her when he see's those pics. Or here is a website that might give you some ideas. http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/
or there are plenty of websites like this out there.
You might want to be careful or you will end up an ex also. This is something your bf has to deal with. IF there are kids involved with ex and your bf then theres nothing you can do really. You can put your foot down and tell your bf that he needs to have no contact with her and if he does (if theres no kids) then he needs to choose, you or her. You need to sit down with his bro and sis and let them know that the ex is playing games with them. YOu can record the ex saying to you what she does or have her on speaker phone while she spouts her crap and have your bf listen in. Until he does something about it though, she will continue .
What my wife did was this: (same thing happened with my X)
Kill her with kindness. Write her kind e-mails. And when she responds negatively you have proff that she is really a flat out b*tch! Eventually your husbands family will see who the real bad person is. It's not you, becasue you've been nothing but an adult, mature, and nice about it, but she is acting like a child and being manipulative. Only difference between your situation and mine is that I never stuck up for my X.
But you need to be the good , better person here. Let her continue to be the way she is. They will all see her true colors eventually. DONT stoop to her level. Jsut by being the bigger person and not showing her that it bothers you is the best thing you can do. She'll waste her time and energy trying to trip you up and will eventually fall flat on her own face.
She's playing dirty, you have to play just as dirty but YOU have to be smarter abotu how dirty you play. let your husband's family see who she really is by gatehring all the evidence that can not be fabricated but is genuinely from her, but do it slyly.
Again, be the biger more mature adult in this situation and in time, she will trip up and they will all see what a looser she really is!
You need to get out of that situation. Anything that causes that much trouble is not worth it. Do you really want to have to deal with that for the rest of your life? Be the bigger person and just leave.
The best way to hurt her is to make sure her plan fails. The best way to make sure her plan fails is to NOT do anything! No fighting with BF over her, no telling ANYBODY anything about her. Don't let her getting to you show at all. That will really upset her more than you getting all worked up, because you being upset is what she wants. Sounds like so far she is winning.
Be the better woman and ignore her.
try talking to him, tell him not to get mad and listen to you. ok enough nice sh**. try calling her and using a voice recorder get her saying those things to you then play the recording for him. he can't argue if he hears her for himself.
Seems that your bf wants his ex in his life and his family does too. I'm sorry to say that its something that you will definitely have to deal with. I need to tell you that you put this question out there wanting someone to tell you to kick her butt or how to get back at her but seriously things can be handled at a mature level. Tell them what she is saying if these conversations between you and her are on the phone find a way to record everything she says. Just know this if your bf gets defensive, argues and defends this woman then you need to break it off with him and move on seems that he still has a thing for her and refuses to let her go, but before you leave make sure they see her for the b!tch that she is. Good luck to you sweetie!!!!
Interesting! My father used to say...'keep your friends close but your enemies closer'....in other words, play her at her own game, get really over friendly with her and just when everyone thinks you love her to bits, ditch her. Tell your bf that she said something about his brother that you will never repeat. You decide what that is. Don't tell him for ages but make it something shocking that this ex wife is supposed to have said, cry some croc tears but show your loyalty to his family by having nothing more to do with her. Everyone will be wondering what it is she has said and because you were her 'best pal' and them dumped her suddenly, they will believe you....I feel guilty now...just read some of the other answers and they are all much better. Just ignore this....I got carried away. Your best of course to be the greatest gf in the world, fun, never moaning about the ex wife etc...that would also do it!!!! Sorry.
its not worth your time and energy ,you could be out having fun with friends drop her drama
Is she involved with someone? Maybe if you slept with her new man that would show her...oops but then you'd probably get dumped for cheating on your BF...
I'm not being nice when I tell you to not stoop to her level. Mainly because you can't sink low enough to pizz her off so that she will stop.
What will happen is it will escalate until you get dumped because your man already has one psycho ex to deal with and he isn't going to want another psycho in his life.
The only thing you can do is ignore her and not let her get under your skin. If you can't do that, then maybe you should rethink being with him.
I'm assuming that there are children involved in which case she is ALWAYS NOW AND FOREVER going to be a part of your life for as long as you are with him. Through school, through college, through weddings, through grandchildren...she will be there as long as they share a genetic link through their children and grandchildren.
If you're past all of that and you are in this for the long haul, then work on forging your own relationship with his relatives so when she starts to bad mouth you they know she's a liar.
If there are no children involved: then your problem is with your man. Why is a crazy ex still a part of his life? Why doesn't he get a restraining order against her? Are they still married and he hasn't told you? Are they still having sex and he hasn't told you? If they are over then why is she behaving like a jealous girlfriend? Why is he getting defensive about it?
something is very fishy here...
BTW: NO MAN is worth the drama of a psycho ex. I don't care how good he is, that is my one personal deal breaker.
Revenge is a dish best served cold my dear. She is winning because she has your panties in a wad. The more you retaliate the more she wins.
The best way to get revenge is to look hot and be a great person that everyone loves. Go to the gym and work out, look your best all the time. Blow her off. There is a reason why she is an ex wife because they didn't work out.
Bad things to do? hmmmmm How about signing up her email address and physical address and phone for a bunch of promotions. She will get tons of calls and emails. LOL
That's all I got. I don't have ideas on how to waste your energy on energy suckers. Because they SUCK!
WARNING! If you do something to her that's even just the slightest bit mean, she's probably going to tell him that you're picking on her...even if you're only doing it self-defense. I would just sit there and enjoy being with your boyfriend...because that's what's going to get her goat! And when you're around his family, be nice to them. Then she'll have to hear from them, ';Oh, she's the nicest girl!'; I think that's where you'll get your true revenge.
ya um you need to discuss that w/ your BF! Cuz why the heck is he still talking to her in the first place? do they have kids together! or does he still have feelings for her?? CUT OFF ALL CONTACT BETWEEN THEM! If hes not ok w/ that then you need to move on...your just sloppy seconds! Hey you said no good two shoes! :)
I think she's doing this on purpose to make you look bad when you do retaliate. Then, she's made it inside the circle and can point out how evil a woman you are because you did a, b, and c. Don't give her the satisfaction. Just let her do her thing. As for your bf, just like my hubby when I tried to tell him how his ex was using him and manipulating him AND bragging to me about it when we were engaged...to which he said I was ';making it up'; because she'd never ';been that kind of person';....he found out the hard way. I stopped telling him OR listening to her, and he had to find out years later by it all blowing up on him. Boy was he mad. All I could do is say, ';I tried to tell you, but I was a liar.'; Just let them play their stupid games. If it's too much drama for you, or he is choosing her side, perhaps you need a new bf.
why don't you just leave that drama..? if your boyfriend gets all defensive then that should tell you all you need to know.
Friday, November 25, 2011
I messed up pretty bad..advice?
I am pmsing pretty bad, and said some pretty mean things to my boyfriend. I wish I could take the words back..
But, I don't know what to say.
He is trying to sleep right now..
I don't wanna break up and he has been talking about it.
Said he wasn't sure if he loves me anymore which he has been saying the last 3 or 4 days.
I've been starting a bunch of fights.
I don't know what to do.
I don't wanna lose him.
I know this is kind of a difficult question because
you don't know our situation very well but any help would be niceI messed up pretty bad..advice?
we all lose it at times , just try to go and do fun things together and things that make both of you happy , maybe get some time to yourself doing girl things , good luck
But, I don't know what to say.
He is trying to sleep right now..
I don't wanna break up and he has been talking about it.
Said he wasn't sure if he loves me anymore which he has been saying the last 3 or 4 days.
I've been starting a bunch of fights.
I don't know what to do.
I don't wanna lose him.
I know this is kind of a difficult question because
you don't know our situation very well but any help would be niceI messed up pretty bad..advice?
we all lose it at times , just try to go and do fun things together and things that make both of you happy , maybe get some time to yourself doing girl things , good luck
Ugg i feel so bad. advice please?
ok sorry ahead of time but this is probably going to be pretty long. so im almost 15 and a sophomore. ive never had a bf and guys really arent interested in me. im not ugly, i dont ask but people tell me im really pretty (sorry i dont want to sound conceited). im an a+ student and kind of a nerd, but not the stereotypical fanny pack and suspenders nerd. lol.... anyways it kind of doesnt matter to me and im just not ';interested'; in boys. im definately not a lesbian even though people sometimes say that i must be. like it seems crazy to me, i have the rest of my life to get a bf and i dont need one to be happy with myself. i feel really uncomfortable when people ask about who i like or who id go out with and stuff and they just dont seem to drop it when i say that i dont like anyone and dont want a bf...... sooo now heres the story.
sometimes guys flirt with me, but its just to mess around with me and they dont actually LIKE me. this is the only thing that ever happens so i kind of got used to it. there was this guy (hes older) who i dont like at all, very creepy, kind of stalkerish, not cute. He pretended to like me and went WAAAY too far with it. I started to get really uncomfortable and then today he said really loud I DONT LIKE YOU! i kind of figured he didnt b.c nobody ever does but it feels really bad that he was just doing it to make fun of me. i didnt really feel like talking when they were joking around and asked if they can just drop it (but nicely)... . they were really mean about it and told me i need to lighten up and learn to take a joke, which i tried to take really well even though it wasnt funny. i dont know, i just kind of feel like crap right now i just need some advice or something to make me feel better. maybe some people are in my situation????? thanks so muchUgg i feel so bad. advice please?
Hey hun! I am so sorry! I totally can understand. I was in a very similar situation. Dearest, at 15 the boys are still quite immature. I am currently 20 and have never had a boyfriend and I promise I am no lesbian! (although I must clarify, I have nothing against them) I am not going to say that I have never had a crush on a boy and that I haven't had my fair share of boys who have liked me, but here are a few things I think you need to be told (or reminded) about
1. You are 15, no matter what other people say it is perfectly normal, even healthy to not have a boyfriend yet. As you said, you have your whole life for dating, now you should continue to focus on your school and you will be preparing for your future. Get into a good college where the boys will be smart, mature, possibly more attractive, rational, and quite possibly wealthy :D
2. As I mentioned before boys at 15 are quite immature. The reason I never had a boyfriend in high school was because of this. You are probably like I was and just have the maturity level of a college student and thus it would make sense that older boys would be more appropriate for your mental level, but its illegal for you to really date them so just wait! It will be fabulous! Also, about the boys that just make fun of you, PLEASE don't let high school boys give you a bad feeling toward men in general. I promise, they get better as they get older!
3. Always remember that you are a wonderful person and you deserve a wonderful person. Don't settle just because it seems like the norm. You will be better off staying true to yourself!
Hope that helped! Good luck!Ugg i feel so bad. advice please?
if they do that, slap them. They cant slap you back coz theyd be sissy's :P and theyd get soooooooooooo embarassed.
Hope i helped
Vamos
awwww! don't feel bad! those guys are jerks! don't listen to them! they're stupid. and i love what you said about having the rest of your life to get a bf! i am not in this situation right now, but i think that you should just forget about it and move on. once you move on, those jerks will too. ignore them and sure enough they will get the point. to feel better you should go in your room and blast some awesome music. it could help you to just forget about it. i really hope that i helped... fell better girl!
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i understand. i'm 14 and never had a bf but about 90%of my school has. people always joke with me and call me the lezzy and stuff but i just simply not into hte whole dating thing and i'm too lazy to get up and put on makeup just to waste two hours at a movie with a guy when i could just hang out with my friends or chill at my house.
i think he was rude :P i'd just ignore it. the time will come when all of us normal girls will prevail!! MWAH HA HA
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1st of all, good for you to not be all ga ga over boys. If you are happy with yourself, by yourself you have achieved what most women wish they could. And your good self confidence is fantastic.
Be yourself, concentrate on your studies, get good grades so when you are out in the real world you won't have to depend on anyone.
As for your issue. I know it sounds cliche but just ignore it. Seriously. Don't engage these ';bullies'; at all. Don't look at them, don't say a word to them, pretend like there not there. They will eventually stop bothering you as they like to get your attention and get you going.
They may actually like you but because you are not in the ';popular circle'; they may be embarrassed to admit they find you attractive or a cool chick.
Don'tt sweat them and keep being you cuz in the end that is what matters and is respected. High School is just really tough and kids are so mean.
Umm, when was the last time someone walked around in suspenders and a fanny pack?
do u honestly think im gna read all that .......
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sometimes guys flirt with me, but its just to mess around with me and they dont actually LIKE me. this is the only thing that ever happens so i kind of got used to it. there was this guy (hes older) who i dont like at all, very creepy, kind of stalkerish, not cute. He pretended to like me and went WAAAY too far with it. I started to get really uncomfortable and then today he said really loud I DONT LIKE YOU! i kind of figured he didnt b.c nobody ever does but it feels really bad that he was just doing it to make fun of me. i didnt really feel like talking when they were joking around and asked if they can just drop it (but nicely)... . they were really mean about it and told me i need to lighten up and learn to take a joke, which i tried to take really well even though it wasnt funny. i dont know, i just kind of feel like crap right now i just need some advice or something to make me feel better. maybe some people are in my situation????? thanks so muchUgg i feel so bad. advice please?
Hey hun! I am so sorry! I totally can understand. I was in a very similar situation. Dearest, at 15 the boys are still quite immature. I am currently 20 and have never had a boyfriend and I promise I am no lesbian! (although I must clarify, I have nothing against them) I am not going to say that I have never had a crush on a boy and that I haven't had my fair share of boys who have liked me, but here are a few things I think you need to be told (or reminded) about
1. You are 15, no matter what other people say it is perfectly normal, even healthy to not have a boyfriend yet. As you said, you have your whole life for dating, now you should continue to focus on your school and you will be preparing for your future. Get into a good college where the boys will be smart, mature, possibly more attractive, rational, and quite possibly wealthy :D
2. As I mentioned before boys at 15 are quite immature. The reason I never had a boyfriend in high school was because of this. You are probably like I was and just have the maturity level of a college student and thus it would make sense that older boys would be more appropriate for your mental level, but its illegal for you to really date them so just wait! It will be fabulous! Also, about the boys that just make fun of you, PLEASE don't let high school boys give you a bad feeling toward men in general. I promise, they get better as they get older!
3. Always remember that you are a wonderful person and you deserve a wonderful person. Don't settle just because it seems like the norm. You will be better off staying true to yourself!
Hope that helped! Good luck!Ugg i feel so bad. advice please?
if they do that, slap them. They cant slap you back coz theyd be sissy's :P and theyd get soooooooooooo embarassed.
Hope i helped
Vamos
awwww! don't feel bad! those guys are jerks! don't listen to them! they're stupid. and i love what you said about having the rest of your life to get a bf! i am not in this situation right now, but i think that you should just forget about it and move on. once you move on, those jerks will too. ignore them and sure enough they will get the point. to feel better you should go in your room and blast some awesome music. it could help you to just forget about it. i really hope that i helped... fell better girl!
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i understand. i'm 14 and never had a bf but about 90%of my school has. people always joke with me and call me the lezzy and stuff but i just simply not into hte whole dating thing and i'm too lazy to get up and put on makeup just to waste two hours at a movie with a guy when i could just hang out with my friends or chill at my house.
i think he was rude :P i'd just ignore it. the time will come when all of us normal girls will prevail!! MWAH HA HA
*sorry if this is weird*
1st of all, good for you to not be all ga ga over boys. If you are happy with yourself, by yourself you have achieved what most women wish they could. And your good self confidence is fantastic.
Be yourself, concentrate on your studies, get good grades so when you are out in the real world you won't have to depend on anyone.
As for your issue. I know it sounds cliche but just ignore it. Seriously. Don't engage these ';bullies'; at all. Don't look at them, don't say a word to them, pretend like there not there. They will eventually stop bothering you as they like to get your attention and get you going.
They may actually like you but because you are not in the ';popular circle'; they may be embarrassed to admit they find you attractive or a cool chick.
Don'tt sweat them and keep being you cuz in the end that is what matters and is respected. High School is just really tough and kids are so mean.
Umm, when was the last time someone walked around in suspenders and a fanny pack?
do u honestly think im gna read all that .......
and dis is a rant not question - reported.
Help i need really bad advice?
okay ive been together with my girlfriend for 3 months n she says she says she loves me alot n dat shes in love n i know im in love with her but i dont know i have doubt in her feeling the same way i feel and im worried about it but we do talk on the phone for 5 or 4 hours daily all night almost and text eachother all day but our for my birthday she says she dont wanna be with me and she said she would rather be hanging out with her friends dat day instead and im wondering if this is normal that she doesnt wanna be with me on the day of my birthday since she says she loves me alot and i have doubt in it can someone give me some advice because and is she really into me like she says she is ?? is it normal shed rather be with her friends on the day of my birthday?? of maybe could shes just be planning something ??? please i need advice from other girls im hurting inside cause of this should i worry?? what should i do??Help i need really bad advice?
You need bad advice? You've come to the right place.
If you're talking on the phone to your girlfriend for 4-5 hrs a day, then you need to get a life. Dependency is not sexy. Take a step back, develop your own interests, give her some space and her interest will return.Help i need really bad advice?
She might be planning a surprise party for you, or it might be that she has special and specific plans with her friends (not just routine hanging out).
Try not to worry about it.
thats sounds really odd that she dosent want ot seeu on ur birthday or maybe she is planning a suprise or present, dont really no if peopel on here dont no the person
You need bad advice? You've come to the right place.
If you're talking on the phone to your girlfriend for 4-5 hrs a day, then you need to get a life. Dependency is not sexy. Take a step back, develop your own interests, give her some space and her interest will return.Help i need really bad advice?
She might be planning a surprise party for you, or it might be that she has special and specific plans with her friends (not just routine hanging out).
Try not to worry about it.
thats sounds really odd that she dosent want ot seeu on ur birthday or maybe she is planning a suprise or present, dont really no if peopel on here dont no the person
High school GPA pretty bad advice please?
Hello i am in the 10th grade with a GPA of 2.55 bad i know i am going to go into the 11th grade and do alot better because for the past 2 years i have been a heavy marijuana user sadly o well,,, Like my question is i know i anit going to go to a great college but i will do really good for my undergrad is it possible to get into a better college for my MBA if i do good on the BA?? I plan to bring my high school GPA to atleast a 3.1 and im gonna study my butt off to get good SAT scores please help ((although i am good at math had B+ for the past 2 math courses and my stock market returns are spotless with average yearly returns in excess of 100%))High school GPA pretty bad advice please?
Yes, it is possible to get into a better school for your MBA if your college grades are really good, but you need to make sure you stay clean for the next 10 years or so. Your stock market returns won't help you if your grades are not good.High school GPA pretty bad advice please?
Yes, it's possible to go to a better university for your MBA and frequently, people do. You should probably stay in-state for school, save yourself and your parents some money, and do really well, then go to a better graduate program. 2.55 isn't amazing, but at least get it near 3.0 and focus on your SAT (and ACT) scores too, and join in clubs and sports if you can. Good luck!
it's great to set goals and all but you should accept whatever school you can get into and work on the weed habit. nothing sticks to a brain addled by drugs (in case you haven't noticed).
PS your stock market returns are largely good luck. don't get too full of your math skills
yes, it is possible to get into a good graduate program...as long as you do better in your undergraduate studies. Graduate addissions look at college GPA, letters of recommendation from professors and GRE scores
You need to first worry about getting into an undergrad institution. With the GPA you described, you won't be going anywhere great. My suggestion is go to a community college and transfer to a 4 year university afterwards. Community colleges accept everyone so you won't have a problem there.
Example: I'm from California, so I don't know how it is in other states, but a LOT of people go to community college, do well, and transfer to the UC system, which has some good schools, i.e. UCLA, Berkeley, San Diego. When you transfer, your high school grades and SAT scores won't matter. I suggest you talk to a guidance counselor at your school first.
Yes, it is possible to get into a better school for your MBA if your college grades are really good, but you need to make sure you stay clean for the next 10 years or so. Your stock market returns won't help you if your grades are not good.High school GPA pretty bad advice please?
Yes, it's possible to go to a better university for your MBA and frequently, people do. You should probably stay in-state for school, save yourself and your parents some money, and do really well, then go to a better graduate program. 2.55 isn't amazing, but at least get it near 3.0 and focus on your SAT (and ACT) scores too, and join in clubs and sports if you can. Good luck!
it's great to set goals and all but you should accept whatever school you can get into and work on the weed habit. nothing sticks to a brain addled by drugs (in case you haven't noticed).
PS your stock market returns are largely good luck. don't get too full of your math skills
yes, it is possible to get into a good graduate program...as long as you do better in your undergraduate studies. Graduate addissions look at college GPA, letters of recommendation from professors and GRE scores
You need to first worry about getting into an undergrad institution. With the GPA you described, you won't be going anywhere great. My suggestion is go to a community college and transfer to a 4 year university afterwards. Community colleges accept everyone so you won't have a problem there.
Example: I'm from California, so I don't know how it is in other states, but a LOT of people go to community college, do well, and transfer to the UC system, which has some good schools, i.e. UCLA, Berkeley, San Diego. When you transfer, your high school grades and SAT scores won't matter. I suggest you talk to a guidance counselor at your school first.
Filed as ';married'; on bad advice; how to fix without incurring big penalty?
I fully supported my girlfriend in 06 and 07; tax guy said I should file as ';married';; I wanted to use ';qualifying relative'; if possible.
She did not work at all those years nor was she claimed on anyone else's taxes. Problem is now I believe it will hurt her FAFSA financial aid eligibility (she wants to go back to school in Fall 09).
Also will I risk being audited for 06 and 07 if we both file in 08 as ';single';?
What should I do; I'm now unemployed, as of early 09, and getting aid for school would be really nice for both of us.
I really can't afford a tax penalty? How should I have handled my 07 and 07 returns (as well as my 08 return do in October)?Filed as ';married'; on bad advice; how to fix without incurring big penalty?
Filing illegally is not an excuse for failing to amend.
1. You amend back to single with a dependent. You lose both the other half of the joing deduction and the doubled tax brackets. Yes, you will owe when you are done.
2. FASFA will make you correct it.
3. Unless you live in one a few common law marriage states in which case, you may find you are now married.Filed as ';married'; on bad advice; how to fix without incurring big penalty?
You maybe able to do a amended return for those years. I don't want to give you any bad advice but talking with a CPA could get you straight. I don't know about this one but seeing how this person talked you into bad advice you may be able to talk to an IRS agent for advice. I hear some don't know what is going on but one time I was in trouble and the agent I talked to didn't burn we and told me what to do. I think you should check with a CPA for help. Some states have free legal advice let's hope the rightperson sees this. Whatever you do is double check everything I see plenty of bad advice people want to help but haven't got the right info you already know that there is so much misinformation going around and they believe whatever they are told. Lucklip cream
She did not work at all those years nor was she claimed on anyone else's taxes. Problem is now I believe it will hurt her FAFSA financial aid eligibility (she wants to go back to school in Fall 09).
Also will I risk being audited for 06 and 07 if we both file in 08 as ';single';?
What should I do; I'm now unemployed, as of early 09, and getting aid for school would be really nice for both of us.
I really can't afford a tax penalty? How should I have handled my 07 and 07 returns (as well as my 08 return do in October)?Filed as ';married'; on bad advice; how to fix without incurring big penalty?
Filing illegally is not an excuse for failing to amend.
1. You amend back to single with a dependent. You lose both the other half of the joing deduction and the doubled tax brackets. Yes, you will owe when you are done.
2. FASFA will make you correct it.
3. Unless you live in one a few common law marriage states in which case, you may find you are now married.Filed as ';married'; on bad advice; how to fix without incurring big penalty?
You maybe able to do a amended return for those years. I don't want to give you any bad advice but talking with a CPA could get you straight. I don't know about this one but seeing how this person talked you into bad advice you may be able to talk to an IRS agent for advice. I hear some don't know what is going on but one time I was in trouble and the agent I talked to didn't burn we and told me what to do. I think you should check with a CPA for help. Some states have free legal advice let's hope the rightperson sees this. Whatever you do is double check everything I see plenty of bad advice people want to help but haven't got the right info you already know that there is so much misinformation going around and they believe whatever they are told. Luck
I screwed up so bad.advice?
I can't even type this because I convinced myself this didn't happen. I screwed up really bad last night. I made the worst mistake of my life and now I'm lost. I don't know what to do. I can't sleep , I feel sick.
I cheated on my boyfriend. The best thing that ever happened to me. I'm not the kind of person who would cheat ever.
I was drunk last night at my best friends house. With her , her boyfriend and his best friend. Were all really good friends. My best friend has it in her head that my boyfriend is a bad boyfriend, doesn't treat me good etc. She's never met him. She just hears the bad stuff, when were fighting and when I'm venting. She kept telling me to hook up with Dave.
They left us alone in his bedroom. Being drunk we ended up having sex. A minute into it He asked me if I was ok and I sat up and Bawled my eyes out. Then I left. I told her when went I went home.
she keeps saying 'either you tell him or you break up with him.. you can't put him through that. She practically made me do it.
I know it's my fault Drunk or not. It is 100% my fault. It was my decision I know.But I can't hurt him. He's so good to me. It's not the fact that I'm scared he's going to break up with me.It's that, I can't put him through the pain.
i don't want to be without him, so i can't just break up with him. the sex lasted literally 2 minutes before i started bawling. but he was the only guy I ever had sex with. and now that's ruined. we were supposed to get married and have him be the only one.
I can't explain the guilt I feel right now. I wish I could take it back more then anything in the world.I can't live i screwed over the one person in my life that hasn't screwed me over. Ive been with him for three years. I'm seventeen , he's twenty.
I don't know what to do. I feel so bad, Advice please?I screwed up so bad.advice?
Would you rather he heard it from you now, or from someone else at a later date. Although it puts it off, it'll be far worse when he actually finds out. I would tell him. Let him know you're sorry. Then it's his call. If he leaves, let him. You've screwed up big time. However, if he loves you that much he should be able to look past it. If you don't tell him, I just get the impression your ';friend'; might let something slip to get rid of your boyfriend, something she seems to be trying already.
Edit: You don't mention whether you used a condom in your post, but if not you might want to get tested for stds just in case. It's unlikely, but something to be aware of just in case.I screwed up so bad.advice?
your going to have to hurt his feeings either way... but tell him the truth!! Tell him all that you wrote down here... i hope it works out 4 you :(
well, I've never met your bf either and I can say that he's a bad bf if he dumps you. You aren't in the right, even for a moment, but if he doesn't love you enough to get through this, then you deserve better anyway. A man who would hold things against you is no real man. but, let him have his anger, he does deserve that much, and then let it go from there. If he dumps you, know you're better off. Cause there are men in the world who would be willing to make it through this. And if you are willing to wait and look, you'll find one too.
Well, hiding it from him will be worse if he somehow does find out. Then you'll have hurt him twice - the act and the lying. If you tell him why you feel so bad and how you regret it, it'll be up to him to decide how to react.
Maybe you should change your profile info while you're at it:
';i rarely regret anything.';
The same thing happened to me in September except the guy I cheated with was my bestfriend and I told my boyfreind when I got home because the guilt overwhelmed me. But he forgave me. I was drunk and he was drunk and now we are past it. I think that you should tell. Honestly I thought about not telling but the guilt ate me alive..and I didn't wanna get married or have a child on a lie. I think that you shouls tell him and tell him how much he's means to you. One thing that that experience gave me was I realized how much I really cared for my boyfriend and how much I loved him. Either way you should tell him. I know that I hurt him b/c he remembered the exact day and I didn't. Good Luck.
I'm all about honesty usually but look, you're young you're going to make mistakes.If you reeeally regret it that much, why hurt him with the information, it's not need to know if it wont happen again.
Don't let it happen again, don't tell him and just forget it completely.
You're only 17 so relax a bit!!
You had the nerve to cheat? People like you make me absolutely SICK. there is no excuse for what you did to your bf. If you have any morals you will tell him directly what you did and do not sugarcoat it he will decide your fate. This is absolutely vulgar behaviour and no man should tolerate it you're lucky he isn't me. i'd slap you in the face and dump your *** on the sidewalk
ur a f*cking w*ore btw but if ur rlly srs ab getting married then dnt tell him nd go on with life
i feel bad 4 u i rlly do, but if ur 17 u shldnt be drinking or having sex! with anyone! and anyways u should seve sex for marriage!
I cheated on my boyfriend. The best thing that ever happened to me. I'm not the kind of person who would cheat ever.
I was drunk last night at my best friends house. With her , her boyfriend and his best friend. Were all really good friends. My best friend has it in her head that my boyfriend is a bad boyfriend, doesn't treat me good etc. She's never met him. She just hears the bad stuff, when were fighting and when I'm venting. She kept telling me to hook up with Dave.
They left us alone in his bedroom. Being drunk we ended up having sex. A minute into it He asked me if I was ok and I sat up and Bawled my eyes out. Then I left. I told her when went I went home.
she keeps saying 'either you tell him or you break up with him.. you can't put him through that. She practically made me do it.
I know it's my fault Drunk or not. It is 100% my fault. It was my decision I know.But I can't hurt him. He's so good to me. It's not the fact that I'm scared he's going to break up with me.It's that, I can't put him through the pain.
i don't want to be without him, so i can't just break up with him. the sex lasted literally 2 minutes before i started bawling. but he was the only guy I ever had sex with. and now that's ruined. we were supposed to get married and have him be the only one.
I can't explain the guilt I feel right now. I wish I could take it back more then anything in the world.I can't live i screwed over the one person in my life that hasn't screwed me over. Ive been with him for three years. I'm seventeen , he's twenty.
I don't know what to do. I feel so bad, Advice please?I screwed up so bad.advice?
Would you rather he heard it from you now, or from someone else at a later date. Although it puts it off, it'll be far worse when he actually finds out. I would tell him. Let him know you're sorry. Then it's his call. If he leaves, let him. You've screwed up big time. However, if he loves you that much he should be able to look past it. If you don't tell him, I just get the impression your ';friend'; might let something slip to get rid of your boyfriend, something she seems to be trying already.
Edit: You don't mention whether you used a condom in your post, but if not you might want to get tested for stds just in case. It's unlikely, but something to be aware of just in case.I screwed up so bad.advice?
your going to have to hurt his feeings either way... but tell him the truth!! Tell him all that you wrote down here... i hope it works out 4 you :(
well, I've never met your bf either and I can say that he's a bad bf if he dumps you. You aren't in the right, even for a moment, but if he doesn't love you enough to get through this, then you deserve better anyway. A man who would hold things against you is no real man. but, let him have his anger, he does deserve that much, and then let it go from there. If he dumps you, know you're better off. Cause there are men in the world who would be willing to make it through this. And if you are willing to wait and look, you'll find one too.
Well, hiding it from him will be worse if he somehow does find out. Then you'll have hurt him twice - the act and the lying. If you tell him why you feel so bad and how you regret it, it'll be up to him to decide how to react.
Maybe you should change your profile info while you're at it:
';i rarely regret anything.';
The same thing happened to me in September except the guy I cheated with was my bestfriend and I told my boyfreind when I got home because the guilt overwhelmed me. But he forgave me. I was drunk and he was drunk and now we are past it. I think that you should tell. Honestly I thought about not telling but the guilt ate me alive..and I didn't wanna get married or have a child on a lie. I think that you shouls tell him and tell him how much he's means to you. One thing that that experience gave me was I realized how much I really cared for my boyfriend and how much I loved him. Either way you should tell him. I know that I hurt him b/c he remembered the exact day and I didn't. Good Luck.
I'm all about honesty usually but look, you're young you're going to make mistakes.If you reeeally regret it that much, why hurt him with the information, it's not need to know if it wont happen again.
Don't let it happen again, don't tell him and just forget it completely.
You're only 17 so relax a bit!!
You had the nerve to cheat? People like you make me absolutely SICK. there is no excuse for what you did to your bf. If you have any morals you will tell him directly what you did and do not sugarcoat it he will decide your fate. This is absolutely vulgar behaviour and no man should tolerate it you're lucky he isn't me. i'd slap you in the face and dump your *** on the sidewalk
ur a f*cking w*ore btw but if ur rlly srs ab getting married then dnt tell him nd go on with life
i feel bad 4 u i rlly do, but if ur 17 u shldnt be drinking or having sex! with anyone! and anyways u should seve sex for marriage!
Did Sen. McCain Get Bad Advice on Foreclosures?
Sen. McCain made a proposal at the Town Hall Debate on how to deal with home foreclosures and said ';this my proposal, this is not Obama's proposal or President Bush's proposal!';
The benefit he wanted to give to homeowners requires an adjustment on the loan terms for a home but home loans are ';bundled'; together and each bundle is insured by the U.S. and each bundle is sold to buyers (mostly from foreign countries) who buy fractions of the bundle.
There is no way to unravel this and change the terms for each home buyer.
I read this in the Contra Costa Times newspaper, does the staff of Sen. McCain fail to read newspapers or was the Senator ';set up'; by one in his staff to look like he does not know what he is talking about.
I am talking about sabotage by a mole in his staff that is trying to undermine his campaign.
What do you think? Is this possible, likely, most unlikely or what?Did Sen. McCain Get Bad Advice on Foreclosures?
Most people still believe that one bank holds the mortgage. After all, one household is responsible for paying the mortgage, so one bank must be responsible for collecting the payment and foreclosing, if need be, right?
Of course, that's not how the system works anymore. Homeowners still send their mortgage payment to one place (instead of a fraction of the payment to hundreds of owners), since one company usually keeps the right to collect payments.
Most people just don't know that loans have been packaged, sliced, repackaged, resliced, and sold to foreign hedge funds, pension funds, and other investors. They just go about making their normal payment, thinking the bank they are sending money to actually owns their mortgage.
So McCsin was relying on the ignorance of the vast majority of American voters by putting forth a $300 billion proposal that would adjust mortgage balances and payment terms. It is difficult to lose an election by putting your faith entirely in the hostility of the people to hearing the truth. As long as the media does not mention the mortgage securities business over and over again, people will hold onto their old, outdated beliefs that their bank actually owns their mortgage.
It would be impossible to unravel the mortgage securities investments now. But now McCain seems to think that the government should buy these toxic securities, renegotiate the terms, package them, slice them, and sell them back to domestic and foreign investors, with all of us taking the losses on the loans.
Problem: mortgages were packaged and sliced up, with no one having a stake in the ultimate success or failure of the underlying loan.
McCain's solution: package and slice up these same mortgages, and resell them so that no one has a stake in their success or failure.
Makes sense.
ForeclosureFishDid Sen. McCain Get Bad Advice on Foreclosures?
You can change the terms of a mortgage. Yes they are sold, but what he is saying is that the US government would pay the difference between the original loan value and the renegotiated value.
It is a horrible idea.
he gets bad advice on just about everything.
What you imply may be possible, but surely the man should have used his own brain.
The benefit he wanted to give to homeowners requires an adjustment on the loan terms for a home but home loans are ';bundled'; together and each bundle is insured by the U.S. and each bundle is sold to buyers (mostly from foreign countries) who buy fractions of the bundle.
There is no way to unravel this and change the terms for each home buyer.
I read this in the Contra Costa Times newspaper, does the staff of Sen. McCain fail to read newspapers or was the Senator ';set up'; by one in his staff to look like he does not know what he is talking about.
I am talking about sabotage by a mole in his staff that is trying to undermine his campaign.
What do you think? Is this possible, likely, most unlikely or what?Did Sen. McCain Get Bad Advice on Foreclosures?
Most people still believe that one bank holds the mortgage. After all, one household is responsible for paying the mortgage, so one bank must be responsible for collecting the payment and foreclosing, if need be, right?
Of course, that's not how the system works anymore. Homeowners still send their mortgage payment to one place (instead of a fraction of the payment to hundreds of owners), since one company usually keeps the right to collect payments.
Most people just don't know that loans have been packaged, sliced, repackaged, resliced, and sold to foreign hedge funds, pension funds, and other investors. They just go about making their normal payment, thinking the bank they are sending money to actually owns their mortgage.
So McCsin was relying on the ignorance of the vast majority of American voters by putting forth a $300 billion proposal that would adjust mortgage balances and payment terms. It is difficult to lose an election by putting your faith entirely in the hostility of the people to hearing the truth. As long as the media does not mention the mortgage securities business over and over again, people will hold onto their old, outdated beliefs that their bank actually owns their mortgage.
It would be impossible to unravel the mortgage securities investments now. But now McCain seems to think that the government should buy these toxic securities, renegotiate the terms, package them, slice them, and sell them back to domestic and foreign investors, with all of us taking the losses on the loans.
Problem: mortgages were packaged and sliced up, with no one having a stake in the ultimate success or failure of the underlying loan.
McCain's solution: package and slice up these same mortgages, and resell them so that no one has a stake in their success or failure.
Makes sense.
ForeclosureFishDid Sen. McCain Get Bad Advice on Foreclosures?
You can change the terms of a mortgage. Yes they are sold, but what he is saying is that the US government would pay the difference between the original loan value and the renegotiated value.
It is a horrible idea.
he gets bad advice on just about everything.
What you imply may be possible, but surely the man should have used his own brain.
Gah, this sucks so bad. Advice?
If you read my questions yesterday, then you'll understand this.
Anyways,
So, the girl I like (I found out her name, just can't spell it :/), has a girlfriend :'(
The thing is, is that the girl she is dating doesn't seem to be... as in to it, as much as (lets call her C, cause that's the letter it starts with) C is in to it. I just don't want C to get hurt, or anything. And I know for a fact that I wouldn't be ignoring her like her current girlfriend is. I.e. C was crying after school one day because of someone saying something about her being a lesbian, and she is going to hell, etc. C's girlfriend was right there, and didn't even comfort her! She didn't say anything, just watched as other people talked to her, and calmed her down.
If she was my girlfriend, I'd be kicking that kid's @ss.
I don't know, the relationship doesn't seem to be going where it should be.
Is it just me, or am I just seeing the negatives because I really want to be with C?
Hmph, I hate high school. :(Gah, this sucks so bad. Advice?
Your not just seeing the negative, you just really care.Gah, this sucks so bad. Advice?
Sorry, I didn't read your questions yesterday. But if you just found out this girl's name, how much can you really like her?
Get to know her a bit more before you start judging her relationship.
You do not sound as if you really want to ';be with C'; but as if you want to protect her from all possible harm. Just do not get controlling!
Even though you like her, be there for her, as a friend and comfort and support her. Let her, on her own, reevaluate her feelings. I know I'm not giving you the answer you want, but now isn't the time for you to confuse her b/c she seems down. Instead of pursung her and telling her your feelings, comfort her and let her know you're someone she can depend on all the time. If you really like her, then make her happy, and trust me she'll eventually fall for you and share the same feelings! I speak from some experience, my best friend was in a similiar situation!!!
Yeah, high school sucks.
Her girlfriend sounds really inattentive, and uninterested in their relationship, so don't nudge her for a break up. It's high school; bad relationships don't last long. Since you just met her, get to know her a bit more before you get TOO involved. Make sure you're always one of the girls comforting C or ripping the guy's head off -- I stand up for people I care about as well as people I don't really know, so it might not look suspicious. Be there for her. Be her friend. They'll break up in due time.
Anyways,
So, the girl I like (I found out her name, just can't spell it :/), has a girlfriend :'(
The thing is, is that the girl she is dating doesn't seem to be... as in to it, as much as (lets call her C, cause that's the letter it starts with) C is in to it. I just don't want C to get hurt, or anything. And I know for a fact that I wouldn't be ignoring her like her current girlfriend is. I.e. C was crying after school one day because of someone saying something about her being a lesbian, and she is going to hell, etc. C's girlfriend was right there, and didn't even comfort her! She didn't say anything, just watched as other people talked to her, and calmed her down.
If she was my girlfriend, I'd be kicking that kid's @ss.
I don't know, the relationship doesn't seem to be going where it should be.
Is it just me, or am I just seeing the negatives because I really want to be with C?
Hmph, I hate high school. :(Gah, this sucks so bad. Advice?
Your not just seeing the negative, you just really care.Gah, this sucks so bad. Advice?
Sorry, I didn't read your questions yesterday. But if you just found out this girl's name, how much can you really like her?
Get to know her a bit more before you start judging her relationship.
You do not sound as if you really want to ';be with C'; but as if you want to protect her from all possible harm. Just do not get controlling!
Even though you like her, be there for her, as a friend and comfort and support her. Let her, on her own, reevaluate her feelings. I know I'm not giving you the answer you want, but now isn't the time for you to confuse her b/c she seems down. Instead of pursung her and telling her your feelings, comfort her and let her know you're someone she can depend on all the time. If you really like her, then make her happy, and trust me she'll eventually fall for you and share the same feelings! I speak from some experience, my best friend was in a similiar situation!!!
Yeah, high school sucks.
Her girlfriend sounds really inattentive, and uninterested in their relationship, so don't nudge her for a break up. It's high school; bad relationships don't last long. Since you just met her, get to know her a bit more before you get TOO involved. Make sure you're always one of the girls comforting C or ripping the guy's head off -- I stand up for people I care about as well as people I don't really know, so it might not look suspicious. Be there for her. Be her friend. They'll break up in due time.
Top 10 Pieces of Bad Advice to the Women on M&D?
Do you ever shudder (or laugh) at some of the advice that people are given on this board...these are my favorites:
NOT HELPFUL WITH HOUSEWORK AND KIDS
Advice: Go on strike
NOT HELPFUL WITH HOUSEWORK AND KIDS
Advice: Withhold sex
ABUSIVE:
Advice: Talk to him about your feelings
LOW LIBIDO, CHEATING ON YOU, IGNORES YOU
Advice: Cheat on him
NEED TO SPICE UP THE BEDROOM
Advice: Have a threesome
VIDEO GAME ADDICTION, PORN ADDICTION
Advice: Throw out the computer
VIDEO GAME ADDICTION, PORN ADDICTION
Advice: Join him
ABUSED NO MONEY FOR DIVORCE LAWYER
Advice: Stay and get a job to save for a lawyer
HIS TOO HIGH SEX DRIVE
Advice: Stop complaining and enjoy it
HIS TOO HIGH SEX DRIVE
Advice: Tell him to go pleasure himself
Other good ones you see?Top 10 Pieces of Bad Advice to the Women on M%26amp;D?
';I'M NOT HAPPY';
';You deserve to be happy';
I';M UNHAPPY BUT I HAVE CHILDREN
';Do not stay married for the children';
HE';S CHATTING ON THE INTERNET
';Emotional affairs are worse than sexual affairs';
WILL HE CHEAT AGAIN
';Once a cheater always a cheater';
And of course MY NUMBER 1 piece of BAD ADVICE for an already confused wife who is searching for love in the wrong place,
';Follow your heart.';Top 10 Pieces of Bad Advice to the Women on M%26amp;D?
Thanks Dude,
And never forget, FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
I have 3 children and I'm not happy in my marriage, Should I Ieave?
Advice: Yes, Life is to short to be unhappy.
Always love these responses, cause the leaving part involves a whole family and not just one person's unwillingness to try to be happy.
Yep!
I find it funny when for just about any problem on here at least one person will advise divorce. No wonder 1 in 3 marriages ends that way. No one is even willing to try!
HAVE TEN KIDS AND YOUR PARTNER WANTS MORE:
advice: by them a plasma
hehehehe!when my hubby ignores me for a video game i sing to him really loud he hates my voice but he always laughs and i win i get his attention!
This reminds me of a Dr. Phil episode this past week. The show was about women who had extremely low or non existent sex drives. It was determined and explained that sometimes the chemistry in the body can affect the desire for sex, and the women were very understanding of each other. However, I feel these same women would have a lot to say if this problem affected the men in their lives. He would probably be called everything from ';not a real man'; to ';a limp ^%$@ wuss';.
My point: most advice geared tward women, and men for that metter, is bias.
NOT HELPFUL WITH HOUSEWORK AND KIDS
Advice: Go on strike
NOT HELPFUL WITH HOUSEWORK AND KIDS
Advice: Withhold sex
ABUSIVE:
Advice: Talk to him about your feelings
LOW LIBIDO, CHEATING ON YOU, IGNORES YOU
Advice: Cheat on him
NEED TO SPICE UP THE BEDROOM
Advice: Have a threesome
VIDEO GAME ADDICTION, PORN ADDICTION
Advice: Throw out the computer
VIDEO GAME ADDICTION, PORN ADDICTION
Advice: Join him
ABUSED NO MONEY FOR DIVORCE LAWYER
Advice: Stay and get a job to save for a lawyer
HIS TOO HIGH SEX DRIVE
Advice: Stop complaining and enjoy it
HIS TOO HIGH SEX DRIVE
Advice: Tell him to go pleasure himself
Other good ones you see?Top 10 Pieces of Bad Advice to the Women on M%26amp;D?
';I'M NOT HAPPY';
';You deserve to be happy';
I';M UNHAPPY BUT I HAVE CHILDREN
';Do not stay married for the children';
HE';S CHATTING ON THE INTERNET
';Emotional affairs are worse than sexual affairs';
WILL HE CHEAT AGAIN
';Once a cheater always a cheater';
And of course MY NUMBER 1 piece of BAD ADVICE for an already confused wife who is searching for love in the wrong place,
';Follow your heart.';Top 10 Pieces of Bad Advice to the Women on M%26amp;D?
Thanks Dude,
And never forget, FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
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I have 3 children and I'm not happy in my marriage, Should I Ieave?
Advice: Yes, Life is to short to be unhappy.
Always love these responses, cause the leaving part involves a whole family and not just one person's unwillingness to try to be happy.
Yep!
I find it funny when for just about any problem on here at least one person will advise divorce. No wonder 1 in 3 marriages ends that way. No one is even willing to try!
HAVE TEN KIDS AND YOUR PARTNER WANTS MORE:
advice: by them a plasma
hehehehe!when my hubby ignores me for a video game i sing to him really loud he hates my voice but he always laughs and i win i get his attention!
This reminds me of a Dr. Phil episode this past week. The show was about women who had extremely low or non existent sex drives. It was determined and explained that sometimes the chemistry in the body can affect the desire for sex, and the women were very understanding of each other. However, I feel these same women would have a lot to say if this problem affected the men in their lives. He would probably be called everything from ';not a real man'; to ';a limp ^%$@ wuss';.
My point: most advice geared tward women, and men for that metter, is bias.
So things are really bad. Advice?
A year and a half ago I transferred to a college in a major city in my state. I really just wanted to get away from my life and meet new people (Really, a break-up with a boyfriend made me want to start a new life).. I came here and I still feel lost. This has been the worst time in my life. Things should be fun... I'm 22! I'm an attractive enough girl but i'm kind of shy and have little confidence. I have two friends. I have not done well in school either... I feel so horrible for disappointing my parents and wasting their money. I am close to suspension. I don't know if I should just take a break and work for a little bit?
I miss my life two years ago. It was better than it is now, but if i leave will I be even more of a failure for not making it work here?
I am always depressed and I cry a lot. I really don't know what to do.
I feel like I'm wasting my life away every single day... i want to enjoy life but don't really know how.So things are really bad. Advice?
Keep your chin up! You are young, you are pretty, you are smart, you can make decisions to improve your life without feeling like a failure. Everyone has 'valleys' in their life (trust me, I have had plenty of them), but there's always hope for a better tomorrow.
If you absolutely think you cannot be successful in your new location, then move back to your hometown and go to a smaller college. But don't stop going to school, because you need to get that out of the way while you are young. In the meantime, finish out this semester and make a promise to yourself that you're going to do bring your grades up, one day at a time.
Also, I believe when you get busy, you get better. If you want to enjoy life, you should try volunteering for something that will show you that you are worthy of love and respect and happiness. There are tons of nursing homes in every community; many residents of nursing homes never, ever get one single visitor. Why not call around and find a home with a resident (or two) with whom you can visit every Sunday? Read them the Bible, pray with them, sing to them, sing WITH them, or just do a puzzle if you don't feel comfortable doing those other activities. I am sure that if you visit one of these residents, the quality of both their lives and YOUR life will improve vastly and rapidly. It will give you something to do while you are mulling over the decision to go back home or stay and fight it out. Perhaps you might even find someone who can inspire you and give you some guidance! I guarantee you if you do this, your depression will lift and you will start to feel good again.
Don't give up! Take baby steps, they work!So things are really bad. Advice?
';Do in life what makes you happy';
Keep in mind. Also, if your going to try to allow a happy life for yourself, take a public speaking course for your shyness. Work on it a little. So, not so good education, what can U do about taht now to make U happi ??
(:
Ask God to come into your life :)
http://www.everystudent.com/features/gettingconnected.html
Taking a break may not be a bad idea. I think you should maybe see a therapist. I know a lot of women our age including myself who have been through the same thing. I think you should check out this book called ';20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction '; by Christine Hassler. You might be experiencing a quarter life crisis. Look up the term to get more familiar with it and see if it applies to you. Things will get better :-)!
omg don't worry!Don't waste your time crying,take that time to decide to think what to do.Don't worry you have confidence and thats what you really need.First try to make more friends by taking help from your two friends.If you start liking a man go for it but first just be friends and get to know him and then if you think he's right for you then don't be shy to tell him what you think of him just be confident and let it out or else it's too late....Then im sure you're gonna be really happy..hope i he helped!Be happy no time to cry you have busy life!:D and remember crying will not help!!
I've been there...and YES it is a good idea to work and just take a break from school. Not only will it help you to clear your head and maybe help you figure out what you want to do with your life but you will also have a lot of respect for your school work when you go back because you will realize that you do not want to work at a crappy job for ever!! In the end you will put your priorities first...school...family(which in your case ties in together sine you are using your parents money)...friends and THEN a relationship with a guy...I have seen too many of my friends (including myself when I was a freshmen, try to put a guy before those things and I wonder when they are going to realize that school and family should come first not friends and boyfriends) But, just realize you are not alone many many college aged girls do the same thing...some can manage all at once and some can not...sad thing is the ones that can not it usually takes something horrible to happen (like suspension) before they realize what they should put first. So please do yourself a favor and take a semester off...work...and then you will realize what is more important. Good Luck!
I miss my life two years ago. It was better than it is now, but if i leave will I be even more of a failure for not making it work here?
I am always depressed and I cry a lot. I really don't know what to do.
I feel like I'm wasting my life away every single day... i want to enjoy life but don't really know how.So things are really bad. Advice?
Keep your chin up! You are young, you are pretty, you are smart, you can make decisions to improve your life without feeling like a failure. Everyone has 'valleys' in their life (trust me, I have had plenty of them), but there's always hope for a better tomorrow.
If you absolutely think you cannot be successful in your new location, then move back to your hometown and go to a smaller college. But don't stop going to school, because you need to get that out of the way while you are young. In the meantime, finish out this semester and make a promise to yourself that you're going to do bring your grades up, one day at a time.
Also, I believe when you get busy, you get better. If you want to enjoy life, you should try volunteering for something that will show you that you are worthy of love and respect and happiness. There are tons of nursing homes in every community; many residents of nursing homes never, ever get one single visitor. Why not call around and find a home with a resident (or two) with whom you can visit every Sunday? Read them the Bible, pray with them, sing to them, sing WITH them, or just do a puzzle if you don't feel comfortable doing those other activities. I am sure that if you visit one of these residents, the quality of both their lives and YOUR life will improve vastly and rapidly. It will give you something to do while you are mulling over the decision to go back home or stay and fight it out. Perhaps you might even find someone who can inspire you and give you some guidance! I guarantee you if you do this, your depression will lift and you will start to feel good again.
Don't give up! Take baby steps, they work!So things are really bad. Advice?
';Do in life what makes you happy';
Keep in mind. Also, if your going to try to allow a happy life for yourself, take a public speaking course for your shyness. Work on it a little. So, not so good education, what can U do about taht now to make U happi ??
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Ask God to come into your life :)
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Taking a break may not be a bad idea. I think you should maybe see a therapist. I know a lot of women our age including myself who have been through the same thing. I think you should check out this book called ';20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction '; by Christine Hassler. You might be experiencing a quarter life crisis. Look up the term to get more familiar with it and see if it applies to you. Things will get better :-)!
omg don't worry!Don't waste your time crying,take that time to decide to think what to do.Don't worry you have confidence and thats what you really need.First try to make more friends by taking help from your two friends.If you start liking a man go for it but first just be friends and get to know him and then if you think he's right for you then don't be shy to tell him what you think of him just be confident and let it out or else it's too late....Then im sure you're gonna be really happy..hope i he helped!Be happy no time to cry you have busy life!:D and remember crying will not help!!
I've been there...and YES it is a good idea to work and just take a break from school. Not only will it help you to clear your head and maybe help you figure out what you want to do with your life but you will also have a lot of respect for your school work when you go back because you will realize that you do not want to work at a crappy job for ever!! In the end you will put your priorities first...school...family(which in your case ties in together sine you are using your parents money)...friends and THEN a relationship with a guy...I have seen too many of my friends (including myself when I was a freshmen, try to put a guy before those things and I wonder when they are going to realize that school and family should come first not friends and boyfriends) But, just realize you are not alone many many college aged girls do the same thing...some can manage all at once and some can not...sad thing is the ones that can not it usually takes something horrible to happen (like suspension) before they realize what they should put first. So please do yourself a favor and take a semester off...work...and then you will realize what is more important. Good Luck!
Market Bottom? How can Analysts say that? bad advice maybe? Closer to their own Bottom more like.?
Some Market experts on TV are clearly expecting a market bottom any day now, clearly some of the have called THE BOTTOM several times already this year LOL. HEY, Even a broken clock is right twice per day, yes? they will be right too one day, or soonish. LOL
Here is my point, most experts agree that a market bottom in the past is always ahead of the economy by several months.
So if projections by the International Monetary fund (IMF) are looking at a 2 year downturn and housing Builders, Realtors are looking at 2 years before the market ceases going down and Ben Bernanke and Paulson are talking in years of recession, one of the worst recessions we will have known, Buffet and Soros are talking years of recession etc.
WHAT justification do the market experts have in even thinking that a bottom is imminently close and in so doing misleading investors into buying.
Clearly there is surely ONE Full Year of the market going down till January 2010 before we can start to re evaluate the market as possibly bottoming out.
I cannot see this Market bottoming until House prices have stabilized and Houses start selling again.
What do you think? 10 Points to the Best argument either wayMarket Bottom? How can Analysts say that? bad advice maybe? Closer to their own Bottom more like.?
I can't see any justification, other than people going by the graph of the last 100 years. But the fundamentals of the economy are different than they were 50, 20 years ago - the problems now are unique and global. I have yet to see one glimmer of good news - that this nation is NOT one of total debt - that our economy isn't debt.
The optimists are going by past numbers, but the logic doesn't make sense. What basis is there to think the economy will improve anytime soon? Perhaps equities will go up eventually - but I can't see any hope in the near future. But most people might ignore that part of your question and say that well it will ';eventually'; go up, therefore it must mean that VERY SOON, you will see a bottom. They are going by the past numbers, with no foundation, except that maybe they think 100 years is always going to repeat itself by some unknown variable.Market Bottom? How can Analysts say that? bad advice maybe? Closer to their own Bottom more like.?
The Dow Jones Industrial Average reached an all time high of 14,164 exactly one year ago. Today, it closed at 8579.
People are in a panic. They see the market drop over 600 points like it did today. And they decide to sell everything because they don't know how much lower it's going to go.
President Bush is going to be speaking at 10AM on Friday, 10/10/08. The 700 billion dollar bail out didn't help. The only thing left is to close the stock market for a few days or more.lip cream
Here is my point, most experts agree that a market bottom in the past is always ahead of the economy by several months.
So if projections by the International Monetary fund (IMF) are looking at a 2 year downturn and housing Builders, Realtors are looking at 2 years before the market ceases going down and Ben Bernanke and Paulson are talking in years of recession, one of the worst recessions we will have known, Buffet and Soros are talking years of recession etc.
WHAT justification do the market experts have in even thinking that a bottom is imminently close and in so doing misleading investors into buying.
Clearly there is surely ONE Full Year of the market going down till January 2010 before we can start to re evaluate the market as possibly bottoming out.
I cannot see this Market bottoming until House prices have stabilized and Houses start selling again.
What do you think? 10 Points to the Best argument either wayMarket Bottom? How can Analysts say that? bad advice maybe? Closer to their own Bottom more like.?
I can't see any justification, other than people going by the graph of the last 100 years. But the fundamentals of the economy are different than they were 50, 20 years ago - the problems now are unique and global. I have yet to see one glimmer of good news - that this nation is NOT one of total debt - that our economy isn't debt.
The optimists are going by past numbers, but the logic doesn't make sense. What basis is there to think the economy will improve anytime soon? Perhaps equities will go up eventually - but I can't see any hope in the near future. But most people might ignore that part of your question and say that well it will ';eventually'; go up, therefore it must mean that VERY SOON, you will see a bottom. They are going by the past numbers, with no foundation, except that maybe they think 100 years is always going to repeat itself by some unknown variable.Market Bottom? How can Analysts say that? bad advice maybe? Closer to their own Bottom more like.?
The Dow Jones Industrial Average reached an all time high of 14,164 exactly one year ago. Today, it closed at 8579.
People are in a panic. They see the market drop over 600 points like it did today. And they decide to sell everything because they don't know how much lower it's going to go.
President Bush is going to be speaking at 10AM on Friday, 10/10/08. The 700 billion dollar bail out didn't help. The only thing left is to close the stock market for a few days or more.
Mom and dads, what was the worst advice people gave you during pregnancy?
My wife and I are expecting our first in November and everyone is giving us really opinionated advice, some of it is obviously bad advice and everyone says something different. A lot of it sounds like old wives tales and some of the people have problems with their kids, but they still say it's the only way to go.
I'm asking for myself and because I'm writing a blog http://blog.almostadad.com for expectant fathers on what to expect during pregnancy and how to care for pregnant women. Your feedback will help other expectant dads, too!
Thanks!Mom and dads, what was the worst advice people gave you during pregnancy?
oh man. I'm 21 weeks pregnant and get asked all kinds of annoying questions and advised by many people who aren't even parents. A few of the questions I get that I cant stand are
1. Do you have morning sickness?? this irritates me because its usually asked by pregnant women or women who have had kids, and they ask it in a way that says hopefully you have it cause I had to suffer through it, or its asked by never been pregnant women in a I hope you have it cause I'm jealous that your pregnant way. It really irks everyone when I tell them I ha vent had it once ( and I'm not even lying)
2. do you know what your having(boy or girl) I know this is a common pregnancy question but OK, I know what the sonogramer TOLD me I was having, and I know what I think I saw, but its NEVER 100% sure. besides, if I wanted you to know, I would have told you by now. (its a girl!!)
3. I REALLY REALLY hate 'what are you gonna name the baby?' for many reasons, one is that I havent a clue. its the hardest decision Ive had to make in a long tome. the other reason is that WHEN i do pick out a name im telling very few people or even no one. only because ive known people who have had their hearts set on a name and after telling people what it was, changed their mind by the regection it got. when I pick out a name, im keeping it
ok enough with that part. the dads need to understand that pregnant women are crazy (though they must never actually call them crazy, at least not to their face) every women, even every time she is pregnant, is different. just because she was as sweet as pie with the 1st baby doesnt mean shes not gonna be pyshco chick with the 2nd!!Mom and dads, what was the worst advice people gave you during pregnancy?
lol i was told not to eat red grapes by an idiot Dr the purple kind because it would turn the baby's face red lol he is not a Dr anymore
I got two really bad pieces of advice. First, my husband's friend, Betty, didn't understand why I was worried that I'd smoked a pack a day before I found out I was pregnant. She said, ';I did cocaine with my kids and they're all okay!'; (My husband used to be...uh, a stoner. I never was, honest!) Betty actually tried to get me to drink some wine coolers with her to ';calm down.';
Second, *EVERYONE* told me to stock up on bottles and formula because I probably wouldn't be able to breastfeed.
worst advise, hmmm. that would definitely be when i was told to drink two to three alcoholic drinks a day, and not believe what the doctors said about alcohol and pregnancy. the alcohol would help me stay relaxed, and the baby would be calm when it was born. the nut-job said she drank through all of her pregnancies and the kids are great. obviously i didn't follow her advice!!!!
Oh that is awesome.. a father wanting to care for his pregnant wife... wish my husband thought of things like that. Ummm.. worst advice. Take it easy... yeah right... it is hard for a woman to take it easy especially when she has other children running around the house already or if you are like me you go to work and take your kids with you and watch them their as you work. Yeah thats a tuffy. Good Luck writing your blog.
The only bad thing I've heard is that you should always get an epidural. I react badly to pain meds so I'm opting out and everyone is telling me that I will regret it. If it saves me and my baby, no I won't. So glad to see men take an interest in their significants pregnancy.
Uhg, I could write a book on that...
I think one of the things I hated most was people telling me what to and not to eat...and how much.
The worst thing though, is my mother in law. She had only one kid, has never really been around other pregnant women or babies, and thinks her friend, who has had no kids but worked as a pediatric nurse, is the end all source of everything. She told me her labor story, what i'd feel what would happen (which was all wrong) and kept bragging that she didnt take any pain meds (which she did)
She also tried to make me feel like I should be a little miss Suzy homemaker...I had a horrible pregnancy riddled with morning sickness until half through the last trimester, premature labor, alot of stress...and she wanted me to be at home looking pretty in a sparkling house with a roast on the table, giving everything to the bread winner and not getting anything for myself.
One thing she NAGGED me about was staying upright after I ate, because I ha terrible morning sickness...but it made me miserabley uncomfortable and more likely to throw up if anything.
Another thing was everyone telling my to take the drugs...I wanted a drug free labor, but ended up so -annoyed- at everyone I took them and ended up stopping my labor (after having gone from three centimeters to 8 in an hour) and causing me to have a c-secion. I wasnt happy.
';Listen to your doctor';. This was the worst. My doctor was a jerk, and a moron. He's still convinced that babies cannot hear from inside the womb!
Its wonderful that you are doing this...one of my biggest problems was my husband not really getting involved in the pregnancy, your wife is really lucky.
We are expecting our first in October, and everyone keeps telling us to get rid of our cats...and that I won't want to breastfeed that I will switch to a bottle...and that I WILL take an epidural blah blah blah....everyone apparently knows me better than I know myself....and its OH SO ANNOYING.
Then there is my grandmother, who in addition to saying all of the things I already mentioned, makes me feel like crap by saying things like, IF YOU GO HAVE PICTURES MADE WHILE YOU'RE PREGNANT, TO SHOW OFF YOUR BELLY, CHLOE WILL HATE YOU WHEN SHE GETS OLDER. Like thats really appropriate....when my husband and I both want to have those pictures done! UGH!
Hi, well I'm a mother and wife with three kiddos and I think that the biggest advice you can ever give expectant parents is to take a lot of advice with a grain of salt..with my first I was scared so I wanted EVERYONE's opinion..I soon realized this wasn't working I was getting to stressed out. So when I really really needed a advice I chose a few family members as people I trusted to always ask or I would ask my pediatrician..they usually give you a real good medical unbiased thought about raising kids..but again nothing is set in stone..you may not always like to here opinions from the same person too...Also a trend I'm starting to see among child bearing woman is to opt out of the pain process of labor..I think I read somewhere that like 1 in 3 woman choose an epidural. I think it is out of fear that it is the worst pain you've ever fealt..and take it from me it's bad but I really was glad I did all natural three times...never had any problems all my children came out healthy not sleepy..so if your wife has doubts from what friends tell her just comfort her. I would not recommend a epidural at all...she will have back problems for the rest of her life. And also try to encourage her to breastfeed for longer than a year really get her excited that she will be feeding your child nourishing him/her.good luck and congrats.
When I was pregnant I left my daughters father, which was for the best. we get along famously now , which is funny because in the beginning all we did was fight over visitation and child support. Anyways... after i left him and before I gave birth he was dating this one girl and he , in all seriousness actually tried to tell me that based on her experience that I'll know I'm going into labor because I'll have to pee alot.. well with that said I told him, well i've been labor all 9 months because all I do is pee! .. She was a complete moron and had no children of her own or experience with babies. Needless to say I never took her seriously at all.. ever..
Mom of two.
Elyse born Nov 18, 2002
Sophie born June 25, 2006
The worst advice I ever got was to EAT. Everyone kept telling me to eat more. ';feeding two';. That's a joke.
I'm asking for myself and because I'm writing a blog http://blog.almostadad.com for expectant fathers on what to expect during pregnancy and how to care for pregnant women. Your feedback will help other expectant dads, too!
Thanks!Mom and dads, what was the worst advice people gave you during pregnancy?
oh man. I'm 21 weeks pregnant and get asked all kinds of annoying questions and advised by many people who aren't even parents. A few of the questions I get that I cant stand are
1. Do you have morning sickness?? this irritates me because its usually asked by pregnant women or women who have had kids, and they ask it in a way that says hopefully you have it cause I had to suffer through it, or its asked by never been pregnant women in a I hope you have it cause I'm jealous that your pregnant way. It really irks everyone when I tell them I ha vent had it once ( and I'm not even lying)
2. do you know what your having(boy or girl) I know this is a common pregnancy question but OK, I know what the sonogramer TOLD me I was having, and I know what I think I saw, but its NEVER 100% sure. besides, if I wanted you to know, I would have told you by now. (its a girl!!)
3. I REALLY REALLY hate 'what are you gonna name the baby?' for many reasons, one is that I havent a clue. its the hardest decision Ive had to make in a long tome. the other reason is that WHEN i do pick out a name im telling very few people or even no one. only because ive known people who have had their hearts set on a name and after telling people what it was, changed their mind by the regection it got. when I pick out a name, im keeping it
ok enough with that part. the dads need to understand that pregnant women are crazy (though they must never actually call them crazy, at least not to their face) every women, even every time she is pregnant, is different. just because she was as sweet as pie with the 1st baby doesnt mean shes not gonna be pyshco chick with the 2nd!!Mom and dads, what was the worst advice people gave you during pregnancy?
lol i was told not to eat red grapes by an idiot Dr the purple kind because it would turn the baby's face red lol he is not a Dr anymore
I got two really bad pieces of advice. First, my husband's friend, Betty, didn't understand why I was worried that I'd smoked a pack a day before I found out I was pregnant. She said, ';I did cocaine with my kids and they're all okay!'; (My husband used to be...uh, a stoner. I never was, honest!) Betty actually tried to get me to drink some wine coolers with her to ';calm down.';
Second, *EVERYONE* told me to stock up on bottles and formula because I probably wouldn't be able to breastfeed.
worst advise, hmmm. that would definitely be when i was told to drink two to three alcoholic drinks a day, and not believe what the doctors said about alcohol and pregnancy. the alcohol would help me stay relaxed, and the baby would be calm when it was born. the nut-job said she drank through all of her pregnancies and the kids are great. obviously i didn't follow her advice!!!!
Oh that is awesome.. a father wanting to care for his pregnant wife... wish my husband thought of things like that. Ummm.. worst advice. Take it easy... yeah right... it is hard for a woman to take it easy especially when she has other children running around the house already or if you are like me you go to work and take your kids with you and watch them their as you work. Yeah thats a tuffy. Good Luck writing your blog.
The only bad thing I've heard is that you should always get an epidural. I react badly to pain meds so I'm opting out and everyone is telling me that I will regret it. If it saves me and my baby, no I won't. So glad to see men take an interest in their significants pregnancy.
Uhg, I could write a book on that...
I think one of the things I hated most was people telling me what to and not to eat...and how much.
The worst thing though, is my mother in law. She had only one kid, has never really been around other pregnant women or babies, and thinks her friend, who has had no kids but worked as a pediatric nurse, is the end all source of everything. She told me her labor story, what i'd feel what would happen (which was all wrong) and kept bragging that she didnt take any pain meds (which she did)
She also tried to make me feel like I should be a little miss Suzy homemaker...I had a horrible pregnancy riddled with morning sickness until half through the last trimester, premature labor, alot of stress...and she wanted me to be at home looking pretty in a sparkling house with a roast on the table, giving everything to the bread winner and not getting anything for myself.
One thing she NAGGED me about was staying upright after I ate, because I ha terrible morning sickness...but it made me miserabley uncomfortable and more likely to throw up if anything.
Another thing was everyone telling my to take the drugs...I wanted a drug free labor, but ended up so -annoyed- at everyone I took them and ended up stopping my labor (after having gone from three centimeters to 8 in an hour) and causing me to have a c-secion. I wasnt happy.
';Listen to your doctor';. This was the worst. My doctor was a jerk, and a moron. He's still convinced that babies cannot hear from inside the womb!
Its wonderful that you are doing this...one of my biggest problems was my husband not really getting involved in the pregnancy, your wife is really lucky.
We are expecting our first in October, and everyone keeps telling us to get rid of our cats...and that I won't want to breastfeed that I will switch to a bottle...and that I WILL take an epidural blah blah blah....everyone apparently knows me better than I know myself....and its OH SO ANNOYING.
Then there is my grandmother, who in addition to saying all of the things I already mentioned, makes me feel like crap by saying things like, IF YOU GO HAVE PICTURES MADE WHILE YOU'RE PREGNANT, TO SHOW OFF YOUR BELLY, CHLOE WILL HATE YOU WHEN SHE GETS OLDER. Like thats really appropriate....when my husband and I both want to have those pictures done! UGH!
Hi, well I'm a mother and wife with three kiddos and I think that the biggest advice you can ever give expectant parents is to take a lot of advice with a grain of salt..with my first I was scared so I wanted EVERYONE's opinion..I soon realized this wasn't working I was getting to stressed out. So when I really really needed a advice I chose a few family members as people I trusted to always ask or I would ask my pediatrician..they usually give you a real good medical unbiased thought about raising kids..but again nothing is set in stone..you may not always like to here opinions from the same person too...Also a trend I'm starting to see among child bearing woman is to opt out of the pain process of labor..I think I read somewhere that like 1 in 3 woman choose an epidural. I think it is out of fear that it is the worst pain you've ever fealt..and take it from me it's bad but I really was glad I did all natural three times...never had any problems all my children came out healthy not sleepy..so if your wife has doubts from what friends tell her just comfort her. I would not recommend a epidural at all...she will have back problems for the rest of her life. And also try to encourage her to breastfeed for longer than a year really get her excited that she will be feeding your child nourishing him/her.good luck and congrats.
When I was pregnant I left my daughters father, which was for the best. we get along famously now , which is funny because in the beginning all we did was fight over visitation and child support. Anyways... after i left him and before I gave birth he was dating this one girl and he , in all seriousness actually tried to tell me that based on her experience that I'll know I'm going into labor because I'll have to pee alot.. well with that said I told him, well i've been labor all 9 months because all I do is pee! .. She was a complete moron and had no children of her own or experience with babies. Needless to say I never took her seriously at all.. ever..
Mom of two.
Elyse born Nov 18, 2002
Sophie born June 25, 2006
The worst advice I ever got was to EAT. Everyone kept telling me to eat more. ';feeding two';. That's a joke.
How to deal with a Dr giving bad advice?
I'm 23 weeks pregnant. I have a very VERY active baby. Strong too. My last prenatal appointment was on the 2nd. Th dr made note that during 6 months of pregnancy, I had gained too much weight, called me fat. I assured her I don't eat as much as you think. But still she told me to eat half as much, half as often. Stop drinkin juices and milk, drink water. I think she's quack but she's got the degree, so I listened. Then I didn't feel the baby move for 2 days. Went to the hospital, she's moving on te monitor, but I can't feel her. The dr telling me to eat much less, the baby is weak, and unable to make strong movements like she normally would. After the Hospitl staff telling me the Dr should have never told me to stop eating.. How do I now deal with what the doctor put me through? What would you do?How to deal with a Dr giving bad advice?
Ask to see a different doctor (it's your right), let them give you a once over and then tell them what you're doctor said and ask if this was sound advise. If your new doctor says the same thing, then you can rest assured that your doctor was right. But if they say something different, i'd change doctors, if that's possible. If it's not, carry on doing what you're doing and eating what you're eating (as long as it's healthy) and ignore what she said!! Of all the people to listen to when you're pregnant, listen to your midwife. Doctors, although they have the degree, don't specialise in pregnancy like midwives do, so listen to her!!!
I think it's awful that the doctor said you've gained too much weight. Even if you had, that's no reason for your baby to be kicking too much!!!! And if you have gained too much weight, unless it's around 1 to 2 stone more than you should, there's nothing wrong with you!! Is she sure it's YOU that's put on the weight and you've not just got a big baby? And therefore a big uterus, more water retention etc? And is she SURE it's your diet, and not something else, like maybe preeclampsia or something else? I hate it when you go to doctors and they say you've put on too much weight, and it MUST be your diet! It could be so many different other things, especially when you're pregnanat!How to deal with a Dr giving bad advice?
Well the only that you can really do is get a new Dr. Maybe even see if its grounds of a law suit! I was told that I hadn't gained enough weight, I was told to eat more... So I did and got GD. Now they want me to curve my eating habits! lol So I'm going to lose what they wanted me to gain... Dr's I tell you. Never know what they want!
I'm not a doctor, but I wouldn't think that's the best advice. You should alter your eating not stop! The baby needs milk and things like that. Maybe switch to skim, keep drinking juices but switch to all natural no sugar added...those kinds of options. Cook your foods differently that's all.
..And they never should of called you fat. Wrong wrong!
Maybe find a different doctor, keep eating the good stuff :)
The only thing you can do is just get yourself a new dr. and report report her to the appropriate pple.
But i can't understand why a dr. would tell you that. Your not fat, for crying out loud, your pregnant. My dr. told me i was now considered obese, but that was after my first pregnancy, not during. Your dr. is ignorant. Get yourself a new dr.
You ALWAYS have the option to decline recommended services when you disagree with your doctor, and obtain another opinion.
On something this drastic, you need that other opinion right away. And you don't have to return to any medical professional with whom you have such strong disagreement. As other posters have suggested -- it's time for a new doctor.
At your next doctor's appointment, tell your doctor what happened and let her know how you felt about her comments and advice. If she does not give you answers that you are happy with, go to another doctor. This is the most important thing you will ever do, you need someone in your corner that you can trust...
NEVER,go to that doctor again,and in the future,never let no body tell you to stop eating,milk is good for you babies bones,eat fruits,drink lots of water,eat healthy.Stay away from junk and drugs.
You will have a nice baby,have a safe delivery !!!
Get a new Dr. if your not comfertable w/her. How much did you gain??
She should havent called you fat......she should have asked you what you eat and how much. That was wrong..... I envey you because I would have slapped the ***** lol....
I say find a new doctor. I know you probably don't want to since you're already more than half way through your pregnancy, but do you really want this doctor delivering your baby????
I would file a report with the state board and find a new doctor ASAP. Just because a doctor tells you to do something doesn't mean don't trust your instincts. Listen to your body first.
Get a new Dr. you need to agree with the Dr. who will be deliver your baby.
This is a case of malpractice ! Get yourself a good malpractice attorney and sue!
Switch docs!
I lost my first little girl to bad Dr advice...personally I wish that pain on NO ONE. First of all Change doctors. Second write a letter of complaint to the administration of the hospital that stupid quack B**** is in and attach a letter from the new doctor about the state of the baby and how she may have endangered it. You might think that it's nothing but when you walk away and they tell you everything is fine...but then a few days later you lose her/him. It's devastating because you will always blame yourself for not knowing...and for listening to her even when you had doubts.
i also had a doctor tell me that I was getting too ';fat'; and gaining to much weight and it would be me that would have to get all this weight off after the baby (*funny thing she said this though, i worked at Dunkin Donuts at the time and she came driving through there almost every week to get her coffee and doughnut lol*).. I gained about 45 pounds with my first pregnancy and i know that was more than i should have but it was also less then i could have Ive heard of people who gained more.. it really upset me and hurt my feelings but i was to afraid to say anything to the hospital or the rest of the staff there because i was so embarrassed and i thought maybe they would think the same thing.. I never went back to that doctor and i talked to people who made me feel better and told me that i was doing fine! Definitely dont listen to this doctor! Eat what you need to for your baby!
After my Aunty nearly died of cancer(because a doctor got it wrong ) she taught me a very valuable lesson.
';Doctors are human ...they get it wrong....go with your gut....trust yourself....nobody knows your body like you do!';
She lived to tell me this because she fought to be heard..... she believed in herself and when the doctors didnt listen she MADE them.
She couldnt fix her problem without doctors help...but you can!
You can find a new doctor(who will support you) and you can do what is was that you were doing before to make your baby strong.
I am fat! I have carried two Healthy babies to term being fat. Big people have babies everyday....there are whole cultures who are large. They are still populated!
Being overweight and pregnant can have risks but a good doctor would have outlined these....not just called you fat.
Besides what one person thinks is fat varies.
EAT! Look after yourselve and your precious baby!
Get yourself a new doctor....just cause she has a degree does not make her right!
Is it possible that you misunderstood your doctors advice?? By cutting back on your food and juice intake, you would be making yourself weak, not the baby so quickly....the baby will get first choice of the nutrients for a while.....I think if you followed a healthy diet, lots of fruits, veggies, whole grains, yougart, etc. you would be fine and so would your baby.....First you said the doc said eat half as much and half as often....but then you say he said to stop eating....which is it...??? And if you did stop eating, then you are not a very smart woman.....common sense would tell you that it doesn't sound right.....Plus, if you can ask this forum what to do after the fact, you could have asked for opinions on that advice before you followed it!!
how dare she!!! you are never supposed to ';diet'; while prego and any real dr. would know that. I am not a dr, but a mother of 2 boys and i gained a lot of weight wit my last and my dr. loved it! I say go back to what your were doin at 1st to make your baby have his/her energy back, they need it. The baby weight will come off and the baby will be healthy and i would find another dr. ASAP!!!! Some dr.s are in it only for the money not the care of the patient. sounds like you were doin fine sweetie and your baby was enjoying you eating. Hope this helps and i hope you continue doin well!!!
if the baby is weakened or suffers permanent damage from the ';doctor';'s bad advice, get a lawyer and get a copy of your medical file. however, unless you severely restricted your caloric intake, 2 days should not make that much of a difference in the long run. go back to eating to meet yours and the baby's needs.
don't forget, your body will nourish the baby first. so whatever you eat will go to her, then the leftovers to you. so if you felt ok, then you probably didn't restrict your eating enough to harm her either.
This is exactly why I no longer go to people with degrees. Just because they are the ';experts'; does not mean that they are. Doctors and teachers and many others that take care of people are not treating people, they are treating the disease or by the book. Each individual is different and different things are for different people. It took me 35 years to realize and now have done my own research on things. People thumbs down me a lot, especially on my immunization answers, but I researched and found out. Doctors are NOT God and the government has scared us into things. You need to find another doctor or better yet, a midwife. I will keep you and your baby in my prayers.
Ask to see a different doctor (it's your right), let them give you a once over and then tell them what you're doctor said and ask if this was sound advise. If your new doctor says the same thing, then you can rest assured that your doctor was right. But if they say something different, i'd change doctors, if that's possible. If it's not, carry on doing what you're doing and eating what you're eating (as long as it's healthy) and ignore what she said!! Of all the people to listen to when you're pregnant, listen to your midwife. Doctors, although they have the degree, don't specialise in pregnancy like midwives do, so listen to her!!!
I think it's awful that the doctor said you've gained too much weight. Even if you had, that's no reason for your baby to be kicking too much!!!! And if you have gained too much weight, unless it's around 1 to 2 stone more than you should, there's nothing wrong with you!! Is she sure it's YOU that's put on the weight and you've not just got a big baby? And therefore a big uterus, more water retention etc? And is she SURE it's your diet, and not something else, like maybe preeclampsia or something else? I hate it when you go to doctors and they say you've put on too much weight, and it MUST be your diet! It could be so many different other things, especially when you're pregnanat!How to deal with a Dr giving bad advice?
Well the only that you can really do is get a new Dr. Maybe even see if its grounds of a law suit! I was told that I hadn't gained enough weight, I was told to eat more... So I did and got GD. Now they want me to curve my eating habits! lol So I'm going to lose what they wanted me to gain... Dr's I tell you. Never know what they want!
I'm not a doctor, but I wouldn't think that's the best advice. You should alter your eating not stop! The baby needs milk and things like that. Maybe switch to skim, keep drinking juices but switch to all natural no sugar added...those kinds of options. Cook your foods differently that's all.
..And they never should of called you fat. Wrong wrong!
Maybe find a different doctor, keep eating the good stuff :)
The only thing you can do is just get yourself a new dr. and report report her to the appropriate pple.
But i can't understand why a dr. would tell you that. Your not fat, for crying out loud, your pregnant. My dr. told me i was now considered obese, but that was after my first pregnancy, not during. Your dr. is ignorant. Get yourself a new dr.
You ALWAYS have the option to decline recommended services when you disagree with your doctor, and obtain another opinion.
On something this drastic, you need that other opinion right away. And you don't have to return to any medical professional with whom you have such strong disagreement. As other posters have suggested -- it's time for a new doctor.
At your next doctor's appointment, tell your doctor what happened and let her know how you felt about her comments and advice. If she does not give you answers that you are happy with, go to another doctor. This is the most important thing you will ever do, you need someone in your corner that you can trust...
NEVER,go to that doctor again,and in the future,never let no body tell you to stop eating,milk is good for you babies bones,eat fruits,drink lots of water,eat healthy.Stay away from junk and drugs.
You will have a nice baby,have a safe delivery !!!
Get a new Dr. if your not comfertable w/her. How much did you gain??
She should havent called you fat......she should have asked you what you eat and how much. That was wrong..... I envey you because I would have slapped the ***** lol....
I say find a new doctor. I know you probably don't want to since you're already more than half way through your pregnancy, but do you really want this doctor delivering your baby????
I would file a report with the state board and find a new doctor ASAP. Just because a doctor tells you to do something doesn't mean don't trust your instincts. Listen to your body first.
Get a new Dr. you need to agree with the Dr. who will be deliver your baby.
This is a case of malpractice ! Get yourself a good malpractice attorney and sue!
Switch docs!
I lost my first little girl to bad Dr advice...personally I wish that pain on NO ONE. First of all Change doctors. Second write a letter of complaint to the administration of the hospital that stupid quack B**** is in and attach a letter from the new doctor about the state of the baby and how she may have endangered it. You might think that it's nothing but when you walk away and they tell you everything is fine...but then a few days later you lose her/him. It's devastating because you will always blame yourself for not knowing...and for listening to her even when you had doubts.
i also had a doctor tell me that I was getting too ';fat'; and gaining to much weight and it would be me that would have to get all this weight off after the baby (*funny thing she said this though, i worked at Dunkin Donuts at the time and she came driving through there almost every week to get her coffee and doughnut lol*).. I gained about 45 pounds with my first pregnancy and i know that was more than i should have but it was also less then i could have Ive heard of people who gained more.. it really upset me and hurt my feelings but i was to afraid to say anything to the hospital or the rest of the staff there because i was so embarrassed and i thought maybe they would think the same thing.. I never went back to that doctor and i talked to people who made me feel better and told me that i was doing fine! Definitely dont listen to this doctor! Eat what you need to for your baby!
After my Aunty nearly died of cancer(because a doctor got it wrong ) she taught me a very valuable lesson.
';Doctors are human ...they get it wrong....go with your gut....trust yourself....nobody knows your body like you do!';
She lived to tell me this because she fought to be heard..... she believed in herself and when the doctors didnt listen she MADE them.
She couldnt fix her problem without doctors help...but you can!
You can find a new doctor(who will support you) and you can do what is was that you were doing before to make your baby strong.
I am fat! I have carried two Healthy babies to term being fat. Big people have babies everyday....there are whole cultures who are large. They are still populated!
Being overweight and pregnant can have risks but a good doctor would have outlined these....not just called you fat.
Besides what one person thinks is fat varies.
EAT! Look after yourselve and your precious baby!
Get yourself a new doctor....just cause she has a degree does not make her right!
Is it possible that you misunderstood your doctors advice?? By cutting back on your food and juice intake, you would be making yourself weak, not the baby so quickly....the baby will get first choice of the nutrients for a while.....I think if you followed a healthy diet, lots of fruits, veggies, whole grains, yougart, etc. you would be fine and so would your baby.....First you said the doc said eat half as much and half as often....but then you say he said to stop eating....which is it...??? And if you did stop eating, then you are not a very smart woman.....common sense would tell you that it doesn't sound right.....Plus, if you can ask this forum what to do after the fact, you could have asked for opinions on that advice before you followed it!!
how dare she!!! you are never supposed to ';diet'; while prego and any real dr. would know that. I am not a dr, but a mother of 2 boys and i gained a lot of weight wit my last and my dr. loved it! I say go back to what your were doin at 1st to make your baby have his/her energy back, they need it. The baby weight will come off and the baby will be healthy and i would find another dr. ASAP!!!! Some dr.s are in it only for the money not the care of the patient. sounds like you were doin fine sweetie and your baby was enjoying you eating. Hope this helps and i hope you continue doin well!!!
if the baby is weakened or suffers permanent damage from the ';doctor';'s bad advice, get a lawyer and get a copy of your medical file. however, unless you severely restricted your caloric intake, 2 days should not make that much of a difference in the long run. go back to eating to meet yours and the baby's needs.
don't forget, your body will nourish the baby first. so whatever you eat will go to her, then the leftovers to you. so if you felt ok, then you probably didn't restrict your eating enough to harm her either.
This is exactly why I no longer go to people with degrees. Just because they are the ';experts'; does not mean that they are. Doctors and teachers and many others that take care of people are not treating people, they are treating the disease or by the book. Each individual is different and different things are for different people. It took me 35 years to realize and now have done my own research on things. People thumbs down me a lot, especially on my immunization answers, but I researched and found out. Doctors are NOT God and the government has scared us into things. You need to find another doctor or better yet, a midwife. I will keep you and your baby in my prayers.
I think I've been given bad advice about breastfeeding.......?
I've got PND with my second baby. I had Post Natal Psychosis after my first so they're keeping a close eye on me. I'm on medication that they advise not to breastfeed on which is fine and I understand. I have been taking my meds and leaving it for the time recommended before feeding again which I believe to be safe.
Well, I have been having panic attacks in my sleep the last few nights and have been told to take Lorazepam before bed, not to feed during the night and then to express and dis-guard any milk in the morning.
In my mind and from the research done I thought that milk is constantly being filtered and so if I leave it for 6 hrs the milk would be rid of any med and would be safe for bub. Am I right or once the med is present in the milk does it need expressing off and dis-guarding?I think I've been given bad advice about breastfeeding.......?
Virtually all medications leave the breast milk as they leave your blood. There are a few exceptions, but I'm not going to get into that.
The bad advice is that Lorazepam in your milk requires avoiding nursing at all. Lorazepam is given directly to infants at doses higher than that which would be received from mom's milk. So particularly for a baby older than 3 months maternal lorazepam is absolutely no reason to avoid breastfeeding after taking it, etc.
http://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/cgi-bin/sis/se…
Summary of Use during Lactation:
Lorazepam has low levels in breastmilk, a short half-life relative to many other benzodiazepines, and is administered directly to infants. Lorazepam would not be expected to cause any adverse effects in breastfed infants with usual maternal dosages. No special precautions are required.
I think I've been given bad advice about breastfeeding.......?
I have also been told both: After I gave birth to my son (6 months old) I went out for a birthday party. I drank a few beers and was afraid to breastfeed. I know its not the same as the medication, but I was told that after 6 or so hours, the milk would rid itself of anything bad, but I was also told that I had to ';pump %26amp; dump';. This is a really good question so good luck and sorry I couldnt help.
There is a book called Medication and Mother's Milk this book has almost all medication in it and the recommendations related to breastfeeding. Call around and find someone with this book and get the straight facts from there.
Places to look
WIC, Hospital, Lactation consultant, La Leache League, Pharmacist, Pediatricians office
They prescribe these drugs, and say they are ok during pregnancy, yet not during breastfeeding??? wtf?, more of the drugs passes through the placenta, then through breastmilk.
Honestly, i'd say contact LLL or who-ever you have nearby, and ask them. They'd have more information on drug safety during breastfeeding then the doctor who prescribed the meds.
anything that you take in to your body gets to your milk as you said. But i think it stays in there till you get rid of the first and then after you pump the first time then it should be fine. The same when you have a beer or wine they tell you to pump and dump i would think it would be the same as with the meds. Im not a dr so do what you think is best.
Once it leaves your body it also leaves the milk - nothing ever ';stays'; in breast milk. It is filtered just like your blood. Here is a link to drugs and what their safety level is with breastfeeding. http://www.kellymom.com/health/meds/inde…
You are correct- your body filters your breastmilk. No need to express and discard.
You're right, you HAVE been given bad advice.
I take clonazepam for my anxiety, mostly at night, and I breastfeed throughout the night. I did research, and according to Dr. Hale's book and website, very very miniscule amounts actually make it into your breastmilk. It is much much less than 2%. I can even tell that the quantity going into my milk is not significant, by the fact that my son does not (and has not ever) displayed any signs of being given clonazepam (he does not get tired or floppy after breastfeeding).
Clonazepam and Lorazepam are in the same family, just that clonazepam has a much longer half life.
This is what Dr. Hale says about Lorazepam %26amp; Clonazepam:
http://66.230.33.248/discus/messages/56/…
Maybe you can ask the doc to switch you to clonazepam, since this seems to suggest that the longer half life can also prevent panic attacks? That's between you and your doctor though, just a suggestion.
ETA: If you would like to read more, here is a link to Dr. Hale's Breastfeeding and Medications Forum (there is a TON of information here on different drugs, I have found it very useful).
http://neonatal.ama.ttuhsc.edu/cgi-bin/d…
Nicole
You're right, your breastmilk isn't just in a ';holding tank'; ...It is being filtered constantly and depending on the ';toxin'; the amount found in breastmilk lessens with time.
You'd have to find the facts about the actual drug.
The only person I know of on this site that could give you a fully researched intelligent answer is Mystic Eye and I'm not sure she comes on all that often anymore...
I'll star the question and maybe she'll show up.
If not...see what you can find on http://www.kellymom.com
:)
***********
Oh there she is. :)
Yes, you have been given bad advice. It sounds like somebody basically guessed. You should be able to nurse as usual.
';Lorazepam has low levels in breastmilk, a short half-life relative to many other benzodiazepines, and is administered directly to infants. Lorazepam would not be expected to cause any adverse effects in breastfed infants with usual maternal dosages. No special precautions are required.';
http://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/cgi-bin/sis/se…
http://motherisk.ca/ can advise -- note telephone numbers -- and explain things to your doctor as well.
i thought it stills stays there, but iam no expert.
Well, I have been having panic attacks in my sleep the last few nights and have been told to take Lorazepam before bed, not to feed during the night and then to express and dis-guard any milk in the morning.
In my mind and from the research done I thought that milk is constantly being filtered and so if I leave it for 6 hrs the milk would be rid of any med and would be safe for bub. Am I right or once the med is present in the milk does it need expressing off and dis-guarding?I think I've been given bad advice about breastfeeding.......?
Virtually all medications leave the breast milk as they leave your blood. There are a few exceptions, but I'm not going to get into that.
The bad advice is that Lorazepam in your milk requires avoiding nursing at all. Lorazepam is given directly to infants at doses higher than that which would be received from mom's milk. So particularly for a baby older than 3 months maternal lorazepam is absolutely no reason to avoid breastfeeding after taking it, etc.
http://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/cgi-bin/sis/se…
Summary of Use during Lactation:
Lorazepam has low levels in breastmilk, a short half-life relative to many other benzodiazepines, and is administered directly to infants. Lorazepam would not be expected to cause any adverse effects in breastfed infants with usual maternal dosages. No special precautions are required.
I think I've been given bad advice about breastfeeding.......?
I have also been told both: After I gave birth to my son (6 months old) I went out for a birthday party. I drank a few beers and was afraid to breastfeed. I know its not the same as the medication, but I was told that after 6 or so hours, the milk would rid itself of anything bad, but I was also told that I had to ';pump %26amp; dump';. This is a really good question so good luck and sorry I couldnt help.
There is a book called Medication and Mother's Milk this book has almost all medication in it and the recommendations related to breastfeeding. Call around and find someone with this book and get the straight facts from there.
Places to look
WIC, Hospital, Lactation consultant, La Leache League, Pharmacist, Pediatricians office
They prescribe these drugs, and say they are ok during pregnancy, yet not during breastfeeding??? wtf?, more of the drugs passes through the placenta, then through breastmilk.
Honestly, i'd say contact LLL or who-ever you have nearby, and ask them. They'd have more information on drug safety during breastfeeding then the doctor who prescribed the meds.
anything that you take in to your body gets to your milk as you said. But i think it stays in there till you get rid of the first and then after you pump the first time then it should be fine. The same when you have a beer or wine they tell you to pump and dump i would think it would be the same as with the meds. Im not a dr so do what you think is best.
Once it leaves your body it also leaves the milk - nothing ever ';stays'; in breast milk. It is filtered just like your blood. Here is a link to drugs and what their safety level is with breastfeeding. http://www.kellymom.com/health/meds/inde…
You are correct- your body filters your breastmilk. No need to express and discard.
You're right, you HAVE been given bad advice.
I take clonazepam for my anxiety, mostly at night, and I breastfeed throughout the night. I did research, and according to Dr. Hale's book and website, very very miniscule amounts actually make it into your breastmilk. It is much much less than 2%. I can even tell that the quantity going into my milk is not significant, by the fact that my son does not (and has not ever) displayed any signs of being given clonazepam (he does not get tired or floppy after breastfeeding).
Clonazepam and Lorazepam are in the same family, just that clonazepam has a much longer half life.
This is what Dr. Hale says about Lorazepam %26amp; Clonazepam:
http://66.230.33.248/discus/messages/56/…
Maybe you can ask the doc to switch you to clonazepam, since this seems to suggest that the longer half life can also prevent panic attacks? That's between you and your doctor though, just a suggestion.
ETA: If you would like to read more, here is a link to Dr. Hale's Breastfeeding and Medications Forum (there is a TON of information here on different drugs, I have found it very useful).
http://neonatal.ama.ttuhsc.edu/cgi-bin/d…
Nicole
You're right, your breastmilk isn't just in a ';holding tank'; ...It is being filtered constantly and depending on the ';toxin'; the amount found in breastmilk lessens with time.
You'd have to find the facts about the actual drug.
The only person I know of on this site that could give you a fully researched intelligent answer is Mystic Eye and I'm not sure she comes on all that often anymore...
I'll star the question and maybe she'll show up.
If not...see what you can find on http://www.kellymom.com
:)
***********
Oh there she is. :)
Yes, you have been given bad advice. It sounds like somebody basically guessed. You should be able to nurse as usual.
';Lorazepam has low levels in breastmilk, a short half-life relative to many other benzodiazepines, and is administered directly to infants. Lorazepam would not be expected to cause any adverse effects in breastfed infants with usual maternal dosages. No special precautions are required.';
http://toxnet.nlm.nih.gov/cgi-bin/sis/se…
http://motherisk.ca/ can advise -- note telephone numbers -- and explain things to your doctor as well.
i thought it stills stays there, but iam no expert.
Is it ethically wrong to give bad advice online?
I've been on a few forums as well as Yahoo! Answers and I've found that there are a lot of people who will ask total strangers for very personal life advice. And after answering them, (particularly ones regarding relationships, personal hardships, and spirituality) for months and months now with my best suggestions, I want to do something different.
I want to give not just bad, but terribly awful advice to some of these ridiculous questions. I've even considered thinking out how I'll phrase them, to make sure they sound convincing and reasonable. That way, my bad advice might be taken to heart and acted out IRL.
On some level, I realize that taking advantage of the trust these people put into online communities filled with people they don't know isn't right, but I've just become burnt out by all this nonsense. So far, I haven't felt anything akin to shame or the like, just a few laughs and a feeling of justification that I am only guilty of contributing to the madness.
Am I wrong?Is it ethically wrong to give bad advice online?
I don't see anything wrong with it, if you really have the time to waste.Is it ethically wrong to give bad advice online?
If your intent is actually to cause someone to do the wrong thing and make their situation worse, then yes, I think it's wrong. You should spend your time doing something constructive, or even just waste your own time, rather than being destructive to others.
If your intent is just to get a few laughs by getting other people to take you seriously while you're really just mocking them, then you're just a lame, unoriginal troll, like hundreds of thousands before you.
Ya you are wrong. Some of the more ridiculous questions are asked by people not thinking straight because of there problems or maybe naive teenagers. If you dont want to give real advice dont give any. (I'm not judging you as I thought the same. It could be funny though)
No, you're being perfectly reasonable. Anyone with good morals and strong character would do the same. These people must learn a valuable lesson to not trust others, it's a lesson we all must learn.
So, how'd I do?
Yes, you are. It is wrong to give people that truly need help the worst advice you can manage, just for the sake of a good laugh.
Is it ethically or morally?
If you can answer this difference, then you got your answer.
i never give bad advice.... yes your wrong.
no, if people want to ask total stranges then its their fault. for all they know, they could be asking a 5 year old.
try it :)
will your conscience allow that? if so you have deeper questions to ask.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
yes. get a life
why embrace the Dark side?
if you are so burned out........then take a break........go read a good book.........why be hurtful? Doesn't that mess with your Karma? Doesn't what goes around, come around?
Of course, on the other hand, when you realize half the people here are in their 50's........pretending to be 13 year old girls.........well, yes, then you do start seeing the sheer insanity of it all, and your answers start shifting towards the snarky side..........when you see an OBVIOUSLY loaded question, asked by someone who is clearly NOT looking for advice.... clearly NOT 13........but just looking to start trouble, or get kinky answers and be a troll in general........in which case..........smart**** answers are what they are LOOKING for............so, yeah.........feel free, I guess.
I mean.....the political questions.............geesh.....why even ask them? The answer the people WANT is always in the question!
There's no point giving a real, opposing opinion or advice.......
same in some other topics.........and why people ask questions I could find the answer to in 5 seconds on Google is beyond me.
whats' the POINT of that? to get points and stars?
It's all just silly.......so.......yeah dude.......have fun.......whatever...........don't let it bother ya...............
Dear Stan,
What an arrogant, self-opinionated character you are! Of course, some of the questons will seem naive, badly-expressed, and sometimes ridiculous; but this does not mean you have to take advantage of the writer by deliberateyu misleading them. Many feel thnat they can talk or write about their personal problems on YA because they have the cloak of anonymity.Noone knows who they are so they feel that they can ask for all sorts of advice on intimate problems that they would never discuss even with their friends.
For you to take advantage shows a mean spirit. I do not believe that you are really like this. Perhaps a little more maturity would help. Try to make someone a little happier.
Anyone can tell lies! All you have to have is a good memory.
I want to give not just bad, but terribly awful advice to some of these ridiculous questions. I've even considered thinking out how I'll phrase them, to make sure they sound convincing and reasonable. That way, my bad advice might be taken to heart and acted out IRL.
On some level, I realize that taking advantage of the trust these people put into online communities filled with people they don't know isn't right, but I've just become burnt out by all this nonsense. So far, I haven't felt anything akin to shame or the like, just a few laughs and a feeling of justification that I am only guilty of contributing to the madness.
Am I wrong?Is it ethically wrong to give bad advice online?
I don't see anything wrong with it, if you really have the time to waste.Is it ethically wrong to give bad advice online?
If your intent is actually to cause someone to do the wrong thing and make their situation worse, then yes, I think it's wrong. You should spend your time doing something constructive, or even just waste your own time, rather than being destructive to others.
If your intent is just to get a few laughs by getting other people to take you seriously while you're really just mocking them, then you're just a lame, unoriginal troll, like hundreds of thousands before you.
Ya you are wrong. Some of the more ridiculous questions are asked by people not thinking straight because of there problems or maybe naive teenagers. If you dont want to give real advice dont give any. (I'm not judging you as I thought the same. It could be funny though)
No, you're being perfectly reasonable. Anyone with good morals and strong character would do the same. These people must learn a valuable lesson to not trust others, it's a lesson we all must learn.
So, how'd I do?
Yes, you are. It is wrong to give people that truly need help the worst advice you can manage, just for the sake of a good laugh.
Is it ethically or morally?
If you can answer this difference, then you got your answer.
i never give bad advice.... yes your wrong.
no, if people want to ask total stranges then its their fault. for all they know, they could be asking a 5 year old.
try it :)
will your conscience allow that? if so you have deeper questions to ask.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
yes. get a life
why embrace the Dark side?
if you are so burned out........then take a break........go read a good book.........why be hurtful? Doesn't that mess with your Karma? Doesn't what goes around, come around?
Of course, on the other hand, when you realize half the people here are in their 50's........pretending to be 13 year old girls.........well, yes, then you do start seeing the sheer insanity of it all, and your answers start shifting towards the snarky side..........when you see an OBVIOUSLY loaded question, asked by someone who is clearly NOT looking for advice.... clearly NOT 13........but just looking to start trouble, or get kinky answers and be a troll in general........in which case..........smart**** answers are what they are LOOKING for............so, yeah.........feel free, I guess.
I mean.....the political questions.............geesh.....why even ask them? The answer the people WANT is always in the question!
There's no point giving a real, opposing opinion or advice.......
same in some other topics.........and why people ask questions I could find the answer to in 5 seconds on Google is beyond me.
whats' the POINT of that? to get points and stars?
It's all just silly.......so.......yeah dude.......have fun.......whatever...........don't let it bother ya...............
Dear Stan,
What an arrogant, self-opinionated character you are! Of course, some of the questons will seem naive, badly-expressed, and sometimes ridiculous; but this does not mean you have to take advantage of the writer by deliberateyu misleading them. Many feel thnat they can talk or write about their personal problems on YA because they have the cloak of anonymity.Noone knows who they are so they feel that they can ask for all sorts of advice on intimate problems that they would never discuss even with their friends.
For you to take advantage shows a mean spirit. I do not believe that you are really like this. Perhaps a little more maturity would help. Try to make someone a little happier.
Anyone can tell lies! All you have to have is a good memory.
Who at Yahoo! do I contact to beg to to pull Penelope Trunk's (bad) advice column?
http://finance.yahoo.com/expert/article/鈥?/a>Who at Yahoo! do I contact to beg to to pull Penelope Trunk's (bad) advice column?
Wow. I think this artcile should have come out on April Fools Day. The only one of the ten that made any sense is number 4 - video resumes are ineffective. But rather than pulling the article, just rename it so that it can be appreciated as a farce.Who at Yahoo! do I contact to beg to to pull Penelope Trunk's (bad) advice column?
I'm glad others are with me....let's start the petition!!!
Wow. I think this artcile should have come out on April Fools Day. The only one of the ten that made any sense is number 4 - video resumes are ineffective. But rather than pulling the article, just rename it so that it can be appreciated as a farce.Who at Yahoo! do I contact to beg to to pull Penelope Trunk's (bad) advice column?
I'm glad others are with me....let's start the petition!!!
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I want my ex back really bad. advice please?
okay, so.
i used to go out with this guy and we always got on really well and i could tell him everything. thing is we broke up after 2 months due to a rocky patch. we didnt speak for over a month and when we started talking again i realized how much i still loved him!
we were talking one night and he was telling me how i was his best girlfriend he'd ever had and that he really regretted dumping me.
so i was really happy thinking ';oh, maybe he'll ask me back out?';
and i told him i liked him still.
then, about ten minutes later he asks my best friend out!
she liked this other guy %26amp; had listened to me for the past month telling her how much i loved him and wanted him back.
but she still said yes!
and now it's really awkward between all 3 of us.
thing is, i still really like this guy and want to be with him.I want my ex back really bad. advice please?
A lot of people believe that there are ways for getting your ex back!
There are some things you can do or not do that will increase your chances of getting back your ex.
Here is a great website on how to get your ex back. Check it out if you want to: http://www.exbackguides.com/I want my ex back really bad. advice please?
well that backstabbing whore that you call a friend is no friend of yours sweetie come on now why would your '; friend '; qo out with the boy you have feelings for eh? wow fck her, %26amp; i understand that you probably still like him so i think you should go and tell him that you like him and you think it wasz a real ***** move for him to qo and ask ur friend out
Yes, it is awkward. I am not sure what to do. You may want to work on his psychology - ultimately in love the mindset is what matters. You would require to tune it to a positive terrain.
Reading this would help:
http://www.get-your-ex-back.info
u missed ur chance, move on
go out get pissed and have some great sex u never knw what mght hapen hun just enjoy ur life babe
wow, well, it sounds like you did as much as you could. I mean, you flat-out told him how you feel and he STILL went and asked out someone else (your best friend, nonetheless). Look, just b/c he said you were the best gf he's ever had doesn't necessarily mean you'll still be the best gf in the course of his whole life. He's merely comparing you to all the other girls he's dated. While he think you were great, he probably wants to see if there could possibly be someone else out there. I think you just have to let him find out that you are truly the one for him. And, unfortunately, the only way he can do it is by dating other people and realize for himself that they don't compare to you. But, in meantime, you should also find out if there could possibly someone better for you.
Also, you need to kick your friend to the curb. What kind of person does that?!?! Oh yeah, someone who doesn't care or respect your feelings, that's who.lip cream
i used to go out with this guy and we always got on really well and i could tell him everything. thing is we broke up after 2 months due to a rocky patch. we didnt speak for over a month and when we started talking again i realized how much i still loved him!
we were talking one night and he was telling me how i was his best girlfriend he'd ever had and that he really regretted dumping me.
so i was really happy thinking ';oh, maybe he'll ask me back out?';
and i told him i liked him still.
then, about ten minutes later he asks my best friend out!
she liked this other guy %26amp; had listened to me for the past month telling her how much i loved him and wanted him back.
but she still said yes!
and now it's really awkward between all 3 of us.
thing is, i still really like this guy and want to be with him.I want my ex back really bad. advice please?
A lot of people believe that there are ways for getting your ex back!
There are some things you can do or not do that will increase your chances of getting back your ex.
Here is a great website on how to get your ex back. Check it out if you want to: http://www.exbackguides.com/I want my ex back really bad. advice please?
well that backstabbing whore that you call a friend is no friend of yours sweetie come on now why would your '; friend '; qo out with the boy you have feelings for eh? wow fck her, %26amp; i understand that you probably still like him so i think you should go and tell him that you like him and you think it wasz a real ***** move for him to qo and ask ur friend out
Yes, it is awkward. I am not sure what to do. You may want to work on his psychology - ultimately in love the mindset is what matters. You would require to tune it to a positive terrain.
Reading this would help:
http://www.get-your-ex-back.info
u missed ur chance, move on
go out get pissed and have some great sex u never knw what mght hapen hun just enjoy ur life babe
wow, well, it sounds like you did as much as you could. I mean, you flat-out told him how you feel and he STILL went and asked out someone else (your best friend, nonetheless). Look, just b/c he said you were the best gf he's ever had doesn't necessarily mean you'll still be the best gf in the course of his whole life. He's merely comparing you to all the other girls he's dated. While he think you were great, he probably wants to see if there could possibly be someone else out there. I think you just have to let him find out that you are truly the one for him. And, unfortunately, the only way he can do it is by dating other people and realize for himself that they don't compare to you. But, in meantime, you should also find out if there could possibly someone better for you.
Also, you need to kick your friend to the curb. What kind of person does that?!?! Oh yeah, someone who doesn't care or respect your feelings, that's who.
What do u think?good or bad advice?
HIDDEN TREASURE
I am tired of people thinking they know me
thinking they can help me
When they don't know whats wrong
They want to help me but they don't know how
They rather turn instead
They tell some one who they think can help
But she just thinks I am crazy
They think I cut and want to see my wrist
But I refuse and start to list
List the reasons why I say no
Because we all know
My wrist are to bad to be seen
And I don't want to make her mad
Because they she would tell on me
Tell my mom the whole story
The story of why I cut
The story of my high school life
How I spend it alone
At lunch and all the time
How I have no friends and wish I did
Or how I lost the ones I had
How they stabbed me in the back
How they got tired of me
And left me for the trash
But I learned that I am not trash
I am not the extra that no one needs
As they say one mans trash is some ones treasure
And I am just treasure just waiting to be foundWhat do u think?good or bad advice?
nice
I am tired of people thinking they know me
thinking they can help me
When they don't know whats wrong
They want to help me but they don't know how
They rather turn instead
They tell some one who they think can help
But she just thinks I am crazy
They think I cut and want to see my wrist
But I refuse and start to list
List the reasons why I say no
Because we all know
My wrist are to bad to be seen
And I don't want to make her mad
Because they she would tell on me
Tell my mom the whole story
The story of why I cut
The story of my high school life
How I spend it alone
At lunch and all the time
How I have no friends and wish I did
Or how I lost the ones I had
How they stabbed me in the back
How they got tired of me
And left me for the trash
But I learned that I am not trash
I am not the extra that no one needs
As they say one mans trash is some ones treasure
And I am just treasure just waiting to be foundWhat do u think?good or bad advice?
nice
I want this girl back so bad, advice please?
I went out with this girl for 2 years and 10 months. the first year and a half was great, but than i started verbally abuseing her. Calling her names when she got me mad, getting real angry, to controlling. It took her breaking up with me to realize all this. Since the breakup (3 weeks ago) I try to tell her how sorry i am, and that i have changed. I cant seem to get through to her, because she says she feels if we go back out then things will get bad again, she said she didnt want me back. I feel horrible for the way i treated her, i really do. I just want her back so I can proov that i am a new person, and that it wont happen again. What should i do?I want this girl back so bad, advice please?
give her some more time to let her realize that you have changed. just try to be her friend for now and maybe gradually try to make her see why she fell for you in the first place and that you still feel the same way for her. I want this girl back so bad, advice please?
Maybe she isn't meant for you! Maybe you need to be a new guy but prove it to someone new! Someone who you have stuff in common with and maybe you guys won't argue as bad. Usually people break up because it won't work. Move on with your life. You just need time to get over her. It will get easier.
yes i no of someone who was in the same situation except there was no abusing going on and the girl wanted him back in the end he got with another girl but that was for the best.i think that u should ask her out (as a friend) maybe to the movies or something, that way u are keeping it low.starting all over again. don't go to fast for her.
trust me
It takes longer than three weeks to become a new person. If you really care about her you'll give it time and let her see you've changed and accept that or not in her own time.
sorry...
its hard to get that relationship back
considering the way you treated her try to prove to her
you are kind without going out.
give her some more time to let her realize that you have changed. just try to be her friend for now and maybe gradually try to make her see why she fell for you in the first place and that you still feel the same way for her. I want this girl back so bad, advice please?
Maybe she isn't meant for you! Maybe you need to be a new guy but prove it to someone new! Someone who you have stuff in common with and maybe you guys won't argue as bad. Usually people break up because it won't work. Move on with your life. You just need time to get over her. It will get easier.
yes i no of someone who was in the same situation except there was no abusing going on and the girl wanted him back in the end he got with another girl but that was for the best.i think that u should ask her out (as a friend) maybe to the movies or something, that way u are keeping it low.starting all over again. don't go to fast for her.
trust me
It takes longer than three weeks to become a new person. If you really care about her you'll give it time and let her see you've changed and accept that or not in her own time.
sorry...
its hard to get that relationship back
considering the way you treated her try to prove to her
you are kind without going out.
Being good ruined my life! being bad advice needed?
I was such a good boy, did all my folks told me,held my hurt back when it needed so. now I don't know what I did it for. I'm always leftout of stuff, my parents don't ever take me anyway, I feel like an outcast.
I'm 18 and I know my life can't be over yet, but I have no resources and only a handfull of friends, please tell me how can I reverse my boring.
life. I feel Isolated and alone. I just want to do fun thingsBeing good ruined my life! being bad advice needed?
Why not try a youth group in a church.Being good ruined my life! being bad advice needed?
Everyone has felt that way. You need to overcome these feelings. Get into sports or exercise , drink more water. Your handful of friends, tells me that you are not isolated nor alone. Relieve your boredom with a healthy diet, increase exercise , improve your grades, study, visit the Library and read.Clean and redecorate your Room you will not have time to be bored. What is it that your friends are into ? The girls can wait until you have improved your self image, and outlook on life. Wow you have enough ideas from these answers to last you a lifetime, do choose the ones you will try.The Youth group at Church sounds like the most fun
For all you know, being good probably saved your life.. You don't know what being bad is like.. If you don't want your life to be boring, just hang out with your friends at bowling alley and bowl some balls.. If you don't have any friends, go make some friends at summer camps or at churches.. being good can be fun.. It's not the goodness fault that you are boring.. It's your fault.. I am not trying to talk down to you, I just don't want you to throw away your life and end up so badly with people with drugs, shoplifting and end up in jail.. It's not worth it.. because jail is boring, and even worse than your life right now..
joining youth club at church is a great way to have fun, trust me.. they are teens your age, 18, 19, etc.. and they do a lot of tons of fun.. It's amazing, they turn your life around, and you won't end up in jail.. and another great thing about it is that you can meet girl who has same values like you..
I don't really understand how being good ruined your life... and you don't have to be ';bad'; to have fun. If anything, being bad might actually get you in trouble.
Go out with your friends to different places... try going to concerts or any sporting event... you can meet a lot of new people there.
Another way to meet people and possibly gain more friends is by joining clubs or sports... that is, if you're still in high school or just starting college.
There are so many things you can do and have fun doing it without trying to be ';bad.';
Good luck.
tell yor parents that u are bored wit yor life and u shud start saving up for a trip somware and lieto yor parents about stuff to get money from them...also if u want to be bad...be loud and curse non-important people out...if some1 is getting on yor nerves be loud with watever u want to say and try to make every1 look....but try not top hthink about the fact that every1 is lukin think about how embarresed the person must be and then walk away....but if uve been gud all yor life then i wudnt advise this cause u probly dont have the rite voice,attitude,or swagg...u dont really nmeed a swagg but u rnt a pro so u shud try to find 1
well look at positive side, u do have a bunch of friends,,, go with them,,, dnt say no and stay alone ,,,,otherwise u will always be isolated,,,,
look jon some cricket,football coaching sessions or any art classes, or dancing,, or swimming,, join a gym a simplest thing u can do.
there u will make friends and keep in touch with those u have ,also u can make friends with friends of ur friends ,, expand ur social circle...
and u r bored,, basically with ur lifestyle... so do wat u always wanted to do but never did in life ,,start approaching life differently than before.....
like od anything ,,,, if u wished to wera fashionable clothes but tht abt looks ,try them and get a new hairstyle ,,or read books,,,go for morning walks in places where many people dothis,, there when u go for few days i am sure u will see few people reuularly ,,u will make atleast 1 or 2 friends more ,,,or even a group, well take ur friends too..
Change yourself. There is no magic formula for it. People perceive you the way you act.
Walk into a new environment and portray an air of confidence about you and that's what those people will see. You make your own life, find a social hotspot, or a bar and just start talking. Drunks are almost always friendly.
That's my problem too.It seems the only way to get out of this is to be yourself and to do a sport or something you like in the spare time.This way you will make more friends and learn new things.And also be a bad boy when is needed and raise your confidence.
Well You Dont Have To Be Bad To Have Fun :)
Just Let Lose And Take A Break From Being So Good But Dont Turn Into A Lil Devil Lol.
Have You Tried Drinking With Friends?
Trying To Meet A Girl?
Go To A Club?
18 Is A Good Age And Life Isnt Over Still Plenny Of Fun To Have Just Go Out With These Handful Of Friends And See What They Get Up To
Good Luck
Hope Some Fun Comes Your Way
x
:)
go to a dance club see if yup can sneak in and what you can get away with its exilirating and one hell of an adrenaline rush and also try to be more outgoing with people in general and dont be afraid to talk to anybody cuz people are people and social by nature
Join some clubs - bicycle club, toastmasters, car clubs. Or take some classes - pottery class, photography class, etc. Enroll in college. Volunteer at church, food bank, etc.
You are young - you can make your life into anything you want.
Learn an insturment, join a Jazz band, Move to New York, Chicago, LA and gig around. You'll meet so many people that you'll forget about your boring hometown and move toward a higher plane of reality.
You have to define ';fun things'; and ';good boy'; what are your parents expecting of you in order to be good? Is it too much? Are they allowing you to do anything fun? You have to make sure you draw a distinct line between fun and stupid.
Your 18...if your finished school, get a job and move out on your own..Most 18 yr olds don't want to hang out with their parents so go live your life and hang out with your friends... and keep on being good because bad doesn't pay off and you could end up in jail
It is possible to have the best of both worlds. And people will love you for it. You just have to be looking at the problem in the right way.
It may be there way of making you independent and not dependent on them. Perhaps you need to talk to your parents. There could easily be an answer to their abaondonment.
your 18, your parents probably think that you can do things for yourself now.
Look at women and women will look at you, think about shagging a horny wench and you never know it might come true.
military.. marine corps.. u will have a blast their.. always doing something.. and your alwasy going to have a adrenaline rush...
explore your body, explore your taint
You sound like your having a horny moment. Calm down and dont do anything stupid -_- be a good boy :]
I seem to be similar to you. Join clubs, its always good. I'm not your average kid either, you go to a martial arts club most of the adults there are good people. You'll find some crap where ever you go :( shame I know. you can have an in depth conversation with them. Or something else..maybe guitar or another hobby.
When people say ';get out there'; what they really mean is just go and do it....
I'm just giving examples of what you should do, I hope, just forget what people will think and say hi to someone you've never spoken to - not a random stranger you'll never see again but someone in a college class or university you see around. If you come over relaxed and at ease and just start talking something like ';hi I'm XXXXX...what classes do you take'; if they tell you to get lost, nothing lost - unless they stalk you -%26gt; pick them wisely. if they respond be agreeable at first. say they reply with ';yeah I do physics, biology and geology'; even if you're rubbish at them (this goes for anything you ask about) establish a connection ( you may want to reword) ';ah, thats pretty cool man, I don't find those so easy, numbers and such escape me like anything. but thats pretty neat.'; If you want to make friends, keep talking on that line. Don't ask things that will put them on the spot like ';do you work?'; ';yes'; ';I do too..how much do you earn? I earn 拢/$/70 a week'; that'll make one of you feel inferior and less likely to talk again. once you've established common ground invite them some where. comedy, music, skate park, yours to play some amazing game...that usually works.
thats also great for pulling ;)
I'm 18 and I know my life can't be over yet, but I have no resources and only a handfull of friends, please tell me how can I reverse my boring.
life. I feel Isolated and alone. I just want to do fun thingsBeing good ruined my life! being bad advice needed?
Why not try a youth group in a church.Being good ruined my life! being bad advice needed?
Everyone has felt that way. You need to overcome these feelings. Get into sports or exercise , drink more water. Your handful of friends, tells me that you are not isolated nor alone. Relieve your boredom with a healthy diet, increase exercise , improve your grades, study, visit the Library and read.Clean and redecorate your Room you will not have time to be bored. What is it that your friends are into ? The girls can wait until you have improved your self image, and outlook on life. Wow you have enough ideas from these answers to last you a lifetime, do choose the ones you will try.The Youth group at Church sounds like the most fun
For all you know, being good probably saved your life.. You don't know what being bad is like.. If you don't want your life to be boring, just hang out with your friends at bowling alley and bowl some balls.. If you don't have any friends, go make some friends at summer camps or at churches.. being good can be fun.. It's not the goodness fault that you are boring.. It's your fault.. I am not trying to talk down to you, I just don't want you to throw away your life and end up so badly with people with drugs, shoplifting and end up in jail.. It's not worth it.. because jail is boring, and even worse than your life right now..
joining youth club at church is a great way to have fun, trust me.. they are teens your age, 18, 19, etc.. and they do a lot of tons of fun.. It's amazing, they turn your life around, and you won't end up in jail.. and another great thing about it is that you can meet girl who has same values like you..
I don't really understand how being good ruined your life... and you don't have to be ';bad'; to have fun. If anything, being bad might actually get you in trouble.
Go out with your friends to different places... try going to concerts or any sporting event... you can meet a lot of new people there.
Another way to meet people and possibly gain more friends is by joining clubs or sports... that is, if you're still in high school or just starting college.
There are so many things you can do and have fun doing it without trying to be ';bad.';
Good luck.
tell yor parents that u are bored wit yor life and u shud start saving up for a trip somware and lieto yor parents about stuff to get money from them...also if u want to be bad...be loud and curse non-important people out...if some1 is getting on yor nerves be loud with watever u want to say and try to make every1 look....but try not top hthink about the fact that every1 is lukin think about how embarresed the person must be and then walk away....but if uve been gud all yor life then i wudnt advise this cause u probly dont have the rite voice,attitude,or swagg...u dont really nmeed a swagg but u rnt a pro so u shud try to find 1
well look at positive side, u do have a bunch of friends,,, go with them,,, dnt say no and stay alone ,,,,otherwise u will always be isolated,,,,
look jon some cricket,football coaching sessions or any art classes, or dancing,, or swimming,, join a gym a simplest thing u can do.
there u will make friends and keep in touch with those u have ,also u can make friends with friends of ur friends ,, expand ur social circle...
and u r bored,, basically with ur lifestyle... so do wat u always wanted to do but never did in life ,,start approaching life differently than before.....
like od anything ,,,, if u wished to wera fashionable clothes but tht abt looks ,try them and get a new hairstyle ,,or read books,,,go for morning walks in places where many people dothis,, there when u go for few days i am sure u will see few people reuularly ,,u will make atleast 1 or 2 friends more ,,,or even a group, well take ur friends too..
Change yourself. There is no magic formula for it. People perceive you the way you act.
Walk into a new environment and portray an air of confidence about you and that's what those people will see. You make your own life, find a social hotspot, or a bar and just start talking. Drunks are almost always friendly.
That's my problem too.It seems the only way to get out of this is to be yourself and to do a sport or something you like in the spare time.This way you will make more friends and learn new things.And also be a bad boy when is needed and raise your confidence.
Well You Dont Have To Be Bad To Have Fun :)
Just Let Lose And Take A Break From Being So Good But Dont Turn Into A Lil Devil Lol.
Have You Tried Drinking With Friends?
Trying To Meet A Girl?
Go To A Club?
18 Is A Good Age And Life Isnt Over Still Plenny Of Fun To Have Just Go Out With These Handful Of Friends And See What They Get Up To
Good Luck
Hope Some Fun Comes Your Way
x
:)
go to a dance club see if yup can sneak in and what you can get away with its exilirating and one hell of an adrenaline rush and also try to be more outgoing with people in general and dont be afraid to talk to anybody cuz people are people and social by nature
Join some clubs - bicycle club, toastmasters, car clubs. Or take some classes - pottery class, photography class, etc. Enroll in college. Volunteer at church, food bank, etc.
You are young - you can make your life into anything you want.
Learn an insturment, join a Jazz band, Move to New York, Chicago, LA and gig around. You'll meet so many people that you'll forget about your boring hometown and move toward a higher plane of reality.
You have to define ';fun things'; and ';good boy'; what are your parents expecting of you in order to be good? Is it too much? Are they allowing you to do anything fun? You have to make sure you draw a distinct line between fun and stupid.
Your 18...if your finished school, get a job and move out on your own..Most 18 yr olds don't want to hang out with their parents so go live your life and hang out with your friends... and keep on being good because bad doesn't pay off and you could end up in jail
It is possible to have the best of both worlds. And people will love you for it. You just have to be looking at the problem in the right way.
It may be there way of making you independent and not dependent on them. Perhaps you need to talk to your parents. There could easily be an answer to their abaondonment.
your 18, your parents probably think that you can do things for yourself now.
Look at women and women will look at you, think about shagging a horny wench and you never know it might come true.
military.. marine corps.. u will have a blast their.. always doing something.. and your alwasy going to have a adrenaline rush...
explore your body, explore your taint
You sound like your having a horny moment. Calm down and dont do anything stupid -_- be a good boy :]
I seem to be similar to you. Join clubs, its always good. I'm not your average kid either, you go to a martial arts club most of the adults there are good people. You'll find some crap where ever you go :( shame I know. you can have an in depth conversation with them. Or something else..maybe guitar or another hobby.
When people say ';get out there'; what they really mean is just go and do it....
I'm just giving examples of what you should do, I hope, just forget what people will think and say hi to someone you've never spoken to - not a random stranger you'll never see again but someone in a college class or university you see around. If you come over relaxed and at ease and just start talking something like ';hi I'm XXXXX...what classes do you take'; if they tell you to get lost, nothing lost - unless they stalk you -%26gt; pick them wisely. if they respond be agreeable at first. say they reply with ';yeah I do physics, biology and geology'; even if you're rubbish at them (this goes for anything you ask about) establish a connection ( you may want to reword) ';ah, thats pretty cool man, I don't find those so easy, numbers and such escape me like anything. but thats pretty neat.'; If you want to make friends, keep talking on that line. Don't ask things that will put them on the spot like ';do you work?'; ';yes'; ';I do too..how much do you earn? I earn 拢/$/70 a week'; that'll make one of you feel inferior and less likely to talk again. once you've established common ground invite them some where. comedy, music, skate park, yours to play some amazing game...that usually works.
thats also great for pulling ;)
Should I feel bad??? Advice?
Should I feel bad??? Advice?
im currently involved in my high schools club called make a wish for communtiy service hours.since im short on hours i volunteer on every activity out there..so tonight i decided to go to a pizza resturant fundraiser thing so i can get hours and im bringing my family (5 people) with me becuz that way i get more.. last event i went to another resturant with my family for the same reason..all we do is eat there..my dad paid for our food and were a lot of people so now he is not happy that he has to pay money again btw were not rich so were kinda in debt and i told my dad we dont have to pay and go but hes like no were doing this for u i feel really bad like its my fault..and i told my grandma to come and she said that ur poor dad hes always spending if we were going to this then we shouldve went to that! i dont know what to do?? i feel soo guilty.
srry last sentence when i was talking about what my grandma said..she said we shouldnt keep going to theseShould I feel bad??? Advice?
You can do it, just don't drag your family in it if it makes you feel bad.Should I feel bad??? Advice?
meh , dont stress it .
maybe come up with the money and pay him back : )
You shouldn't feel bad or guilty...you're doing something worth while for the community and fulfilling a requirement for school. Your dad is trying to be supportive of your efforts.
My advice would be to go to the fundraiser tonight with your family since you already made a commitment to do so. But in the future, be very selective about the activities you sign up for. There must be other activities that don't involve bringing the entire family and paying a lot of money. Look for activities like visiting residents in a Nursing Home or offer to collect cans and turn over the money to your Make A Wish Club. If there's nothing for you to try then start making suggestions to the club and offer to get the ball rolling. Good luck.
Well sweetie, your trying to help people and thats great, and you told your dad that he didnt have to if he didnt want to right? That makes it his choice. You shouldnt feel bad, your not doing this to hurt anyone on purpose, kind of the opposite actually. You should feel so proud because one person makes a big difference in the world and your doing just that. Tell your grandmother that you asked your dad if he wanted to or not and that you didnt want him to spend his money and he said that he did, also maybe you can talk to your dad. But dont feel bad, sweetie this isnt your fault.
you should have no shame in this...cuz you told your dad. yet he doesn't listen.
so this is the dads fault.
hmm if its a conflict that bad i would decide not to go. you'll feel better in the long run
First of all, I would like to congratulate you for being able to squeeze all that information into 2 sentences. I don't think I'd be able to pull that off.
OK, so your family's in debt but your dad is willing to spend when it comes to helping you out... And you feel bad for making him do this and that. How about not asking your family for help?
im currently involved in my high schools club called make a wish for communtiy service hours.since im short on hours i volunteer on every activity out there..so tonight i decided to go to a pizza resturant fundraiser thing so i can get hours and im bringing my family (5 people) with me becuz that way i get more.. last event i went to another resturant with my family for the same reason..all we do is eat there..my dad paid for our food and were a lot of people so now he is not happy that he has to pay money again btw were not rich so were kinda in debt and i told my dad we dont have to pay and go but hes like no were doing this for u i feel really bad like its my fault..and i told my grandma to come and she said that ur poor dad hes always spending if we were going to this then we shouldve went to that! i dont know what to do?? i feel soo guilty.
srry last sentence when i was talking about what my grandma said..she said we shouldnt keep going to theseShould I feel bad??? Advice?
You can do it, just don't drag your family in it if it makes you feel bad.Should I feel bad??? Advice?
meh , dont stress it .
maybe come up with the money and pay him back : )
You shouldn't feel bad or guilty...you're doing something worth while for the community and fulfilling a requirement for school. Your dad is trying to be supportive of your efforts.
My advice would be to go to the fundraiser tonight with your family since you already made a commitment to do so. But in the future, be very selective about the activities you sign up for. There must be other activities that don't involve bringing the entire family and paying a lot of money. Look for activities like visiting residents in a Nursing Home or offer to collect cans and turn over the money to your Make A Wish Club. If there's nothing for you to try then start making suggestions to the club and offer to get the ball rolling. Good luck.
Well sweetie, your trying to help people and thats great, and you told your dad that he didnt have to if he didnt want to right? That makes it his choice. You shouldnt feel bad, your not doing this to hurt anyone on purpose, kind of the opposite actually. You should feel so proud because one person makes a big difference in the world and your doing just that. Tell your grandmother that you asked your dad if he wanted to or not and that you didnt want him to spend his money and he said that he did, also maybe you can talk to your dad. But dont feel bad, sweetie this isnt your fault.
you should have no shame in this...cuz you told your dad. yet he doesn't listen.
so this is the dads fault.
hmm if its a conflict that bad i would decide not to go. you'll feel better in the long run
First of all, I would like to congratulate you for being able to squeeze all that information into 2 sentences. I don't think I'd be able to pull that off.
OK, so your family's in debt but your dad is willing to spend when it comes to helping you out... And you feel bad for making him do this and that. How about not asking your family for help?
Is rehab that bad? ADVICE PLEASE HELP!!?
heyyy
my bf is kinda mkaing me go to rehab soon...or thats what he says but im really starting to believe and im scared. im going for cutting and bulemia. and i dont know what to expect. so any adive would be great. thanksIs rehab that bad? ADVICE PLEASE HELP!!?
Wow, good for your boyfriend--he really cares for you a LOT if he is taking on the responsibility of telling your parents about this horrible time you're going through.
Rehab is NOT BAD. But it's work. Therapy can be tiring, because you have to talk about yourself and your feelings and your past, and many people (especially those who are troubled) try not to 'feel' and try not to look too hard at their past or at their problems--it's much easier to just hope it away.
You'll do group therapy almost every day, and you will have individual meetings with a doctor. You might also do art therapy or music therapy--which is actually kind of fun!
There are restrictions, depending on what type of rehab you go to. You probably won't be able to leave on your own, and if you're on suicide watch, you won't be allowed to go anywhere alone (not even the bathroom) and will have 'room checks' every 15 minutes or so. However, this is not true of all rehabs--especially private (not state-run) ones--and you might very well not be in that position.
Your boyfriend and parents can visit, of course.
You know how the hardest things in life often turn out to be the best? This will happen for you. Going to rehab will be hard, but being healthy in the end will be worth it.
Also, rehab might be fun. Sounds totally weird, right? But I went to outpatient rehab and it wasn't bad at all...I learned how to deal with things much better, I bonded with the other patients, and music and art therapy was really fun haha.
Best of luck. Stay strong!Is rehab that bad? ADVICE PLEASE HELP!!?
I had to go for anorexia about a year ago. Of course its frightening and uncomfortable, but after a while it becomes more bearable. You meet some really great people, which, since you are all going through the same experience, makes the process easier. The real challenge is staying healthy once you get out of rehab and are not forced to do what you are supposed to. Best of luck.
Oh my God; fifteen? Well it can't be that bad! I've never been to rehab but I've definitely been down a suicidal road more than once and honestly, what could be worse than what you're going through right now??? Rehab is supposed to be helpful. What could be better than being surrounded by people who want you to feel good? I mean...I'm only twelve so I guess I'm not one to talk but you...I don't know. It just doesn't seem fair that your life is just beginning and you're worrying about things like this. My advice is to get rehab over with and then move on in your life. It's just a puzzle piece in what's before you; don't worry, you're not weird or a freak. You just need a little help before you can support yourself. Crutches. Think of rehab as crutches.
It might be a little difficult at times, but if you need it, you must go. Then you will be healthier and feel much better. Please go, and btw are you parents aware of all this? I don't know how old your boyfriend is, but he cannot get you put in a hospital, or outpatient rehab.
no its not bad at all, of course you are scared but i was too and it became very helpful to me and I have stopped everything i have done. so it really can help you if you let it!
Good Luck with everything
You are confused....
Cutting yourself and bulemia = bad...
Rehab = good
Another example....
Cocaine = bad
Rehab = good
understand?
my bf is kinda mkaing me go to rehab soon...or thats what he says but im really starting to believe and im scared. im going for cutting and bulemia. and i dont know what to expect. so any adive would be great. thanksIs rehab that bad? ADVICE PLEASE HELP!!?
Wow, good for your boyfriend--he really cares for you a LOT if he is taking on the responsibility of telling your parents about this horrible time you're going through.
Rehab is NOT BAD. But it's work. Therapy can be tiring, because you have to talk about yourself and your feelings and your past, and many people (especially those who are troubled) try not to 'feel' and try not to look too hard at their past or at their problems--it's much easier to just hope it away.
You'll do group therapy almost every day, and you will have individual meetings with a doctor. You might also do art therapy or music therapy--which is actually kind of fun!
There are restrictions, depending on what type of rehab you go to. You probably won't be able to leave on your own, and if you're on suicide watch, you won't be allowed to go anywhere alone (not even the bathroom) and will have 'room checks' every 15 minutes or so. However, this is not true of all rehabs--especially private (not state-run) ones--and you might very well not be in that position.
Your boyfriend and parents can visit, of course.
You know how the hardest things in life often turn out to be the best? This will happen for you. Going to rehab will be hard, but being healthy in the end will be worth it.
Also, rehab might be fun. Sounds totally weird, right? But I went to outpatient rehab and it wasn't bad at all...I learned how to deal with things much better, I bonded with the other patients, and music and art therapy was really fun haha.
Best of luck. Stay strong!Is rehab that bad? ADVICE PLEASE HELP!!?
I had to go for anorexia about a year ago. Of course its frightening and uncomfortable, but after a while it becomes more bearable. You meet some really great people, which, since you are all going through the same experience, makes the process easier. The real challenge is staying healthy once you get out of rehab and are not forced to do what you are supposed to. Best of luck.
Oh my God; fifteen? Well it can't be that bad! I've never been to rehab but I've definitely been down a suicidal road more than once and honestly, what could be worse than what you're going through right now??? Rehab is supposed to be helpful. What could be better than being surrounded by people who want you to feel good? I mean...I'm only twelve so I guess I'm not one to talk but you...I don't know. It just doesn't seem fair that your life is just beginning and you're worrying about things like this. My advice is to get rehab over with and then move on in your life. It's just a puzzle piece in what's before you; don't worry, you're not weird or a freak. You just need a little help before you can support yourself. Crutches. Think of rehab as crutches.
It might be a little difficult at times, but if you need it, you must go. Then you will be healthier and feel much better. Please go, and btw are you parents aware of all this? I don't know how old your boyfriend is, but he cannot get you put in a hospital, or outpatient rehab.
no its not bad at all, of course you are scared but i was too and it became very helpful to me and I have stopped everything i have done. so it really can help you if you let it!
Good Luck with everything
You are confused....
Cutting yourself and bulemia = bad...
Rehab = good
Another example....
Cocaine = bad
Rehab = good
understand?
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