NO GOODY2SHOES 4 this one!! I need some bad*** advice...?

my bfs ex wife is trying to stir up so much trouble...he's completely blind to what she's doing she'll b all nice to him and kiss his familys a** and then told me she'll show me how it is and is since just trying to do ANYTHING to upset me from msging him all the time to becoming best friends with his sis and bro (while they were married she hated his siblings) what can i do? i dont wanna sit here and let her get away with it... i cant talk to him because he gets deensive and mad.. i wana piss her off and get back at her sorry all u nice ppl but this woman has hurt me enough.... i wanna give her a taste of her reciepeNO GOODY2SHOES 4 this one!! I need some bad*** advice...?
As soon as you ';give her a taste'; of her own medicine she has won! She is looking for a reaction from you. She is hoping to cause trouble between you and your boyfriend and you are letting her. Ignore her. It will drive her crazy!NO GOODY2SHOES 4 this one!! I need some bad*** advice...?
You want revenge? Set her up...get a male friend of yours that your bf doesn't know...have him find the ex, get her to sleep with him or suck his -----, take a pic, then send it to your bf. He will remember why he isn't with her and really hate her when he see's those pics. Or here is a website that might give you some ideas. http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/


or there are plenty of websites like this out there.
You might want to be careful or you will end up an ex also. This is something your bf has to deal with. IF there are kids involved with ex and your bf then theres nothing you can do really. You can put your foot down and tell your bf that he needs to have no contact with her and if he does (if theres no kids) then he needs to choose, you or her. You need to sit down with his bro and sis and let them know that the ex is playing games with them. YOu can record the ex saying to you what she does or have her on speaker phone while she spouts her crap and have your bf listen in. Until he does something about it though, she will continue .
What my wife did was this: (same thing happened with my X)





Kill her with kindness. Write her kind e-mails. And when she responds negatively you have proff that she is really a flat out b*tch! Eventually your husbands family will see who the real bad person is. It's not you, becasue you've been nothing but an adult, mature, and nice about it, but she is acting like a child and being manipulative. Only difference between your situation and mine is that I never stuck up for my X.





But you need to be the good , better person here. Let her continue to be the way she is. They will all see her true colors eventually. DONT stoop to her level. Jsut by being the bigger person and not showing her that it bothers you is the best thing you can do. She'll waste her time and energy trying to trip you up and will eventually fall flat on her own face.





She's playing dirty, you have to play just as dirty but YOU have to be smarter abotu how dirty you play. let your husband's family see who she really is by gatehring all the evidence that can not be fabricated but is genuinely from her, but do it slyly.





Again, be the biger more mature adult in this situation and in time, she will trip up and they will all see what a looser she really is!
You need to get out of that situation. Anything that causes that much trouble is not worth it. Do you really want to have to deal with that for the rest of your life? Be the bigger person and just leave.
The best way to hurt her is to make sure her plan fails. The best way to make sure her plan fails is to NOT do anything! No fighting with BF over her, no telling ANYBODY anything about her. Don't let her getting to you show at all. That will really upset her more than you getting all worked up, because you being upset is what she wants. Sounds like so far she is winning.
Be the better woman and ignore her.
try talking to him, tell him not to get mad and listen to you. ok enough nice sh**. try calling her and using a voice recorder get her saying those things to you then play the recording for him. he can't argue if he hears her for himself.
Seems that your bf wants his ex in his life and his family does too. I'm sorry to say that its something that you will definitely have to deal with. I need to tell you that you put this question out there wanting someone to tell you to kick her butt or how to get back at her but seriously things can be handled at a mature level. Tell them what she is saying if these conversations between you and her are on the phone find a way to record everything she says. Just know this if your bf gets defensive, argues and defends this woman then you need to break it off with him and move on seems that he still has a thing for her and refuses to let her go, but before you leave make sure they see her for the b!tch that she is. Good luck to you sweetie!!!!
Interesting! My father used to say...'keep your friends close but your enemies closer'....in other words, play her at her own game, get really over friendly with her and just when everyone thinks you love her to bits, ditch her. Tell your bf that she said something about his brother that you will never repeat. You decide what that is. Don't tell him for ages but make it something shocking that this ex wife is supposed to have said, cry some croc tears but show your loyalty to his family by having nothing more to do with her. Everyone will be wondering what it is she has said and because you were her 'best pal' and them dumped her suddenly, they will believe you....I feel guilty now...just read some of the other answers and they are all much better. Just ignore this....I got carried away. Your best of course to be the greatest gf in the world, fun, never moaning about the ex wife etc...that would also do it!!!! Sorry.
its not worth your time and energy ,you could be out having fun with friends drop her drama
Is she involved with someone? Maybe if you slept with her new man that would show her...oops but then you'd probably get dumped for cheating on your BF...





I'm not being nice when I tell you to not stoop to her level. Mainly because you can't sink low enough to pizz her off so that she will stop.





What will happen is it will escalate until you get dumped because your man already has one psycho ex to deal with and he isn't going to want another psycho in his life.





The only thing you can do is ignore her and not let her get under your skin. If you can't do that, then maybe you should rethink being with him.





I'm assuming that there are children involved in which case she is ALWAYS NOW AND FOREVER going to be a part of your life for as long as you are with him. Through school, through college, through weddings, through grandchildren...she will be there as long as they share a genetic link through their children and grandchildren.





If you're past all of that and you are in this for the long haul, then work on forging your own relationship with his relatives so when she starts to bad mouth you they know she's a liar.





If there are no children involved: then your problem is with your man. Why is a crazy ex still a part of his life? Why doesn't he get a restraining order against her? Are they still married and he hasn't told you? Are they still having sex and he hasn't told you? If they are over then why is she behaving like a jealous girlfriend? Why is he getting defensive about it?





something is very fishy here...





BTW: NO MAN is worth the drama of a psycho ex. I don't care how good he is, that is my one personal deal breaker.
Revenge is a dish best served cold my dear. She is winning because she has your panties in a wad. The more you retaliate the more she wins.





The best way to get revenge is to look hot and be a great person that everyone loves. Go to the gym and work out, look your best all the time. Blow her off. There is a reason why she is an ex wife because they didn't work out.





Bad things to do? hmmmmm How about signing up her email address and physical address and phone for a bunch of promotions. She will get tons of calls and emails. LOL





That's all I got. I don't have ideas on how to waste your energy on energy suckers. Because they SUCK!
WARNING! If you do something to her that's even just the slightest bit mean, she's probably going to tell him that you're picking on her...even if you're only doing it self-defense. I would just sit there and enjoy being with your boyfriend...because that's what's going to get her goat! And when you're around his family, be nice to them. Then she'll have to hear from them, ';Oh, she's the nicest girl!'; I think that's where you'll get your true revenge.
ya um you need to discuss that w/ your BF! Cuz why the heck is he still talking to her in the first place? do they have kids together! or does he still have feelings for her?? CUT OFF ALL CONTACT BETWEEN THEM! If hes not ok w/ that then you need to move on...your just sloppy seconds! Hey you said no good two shoes! :)
I think she's doing this on purpose to make you look bad when you do retaliate. Then, she's made it inside the circle and can point out how evil a woman you are because you did a, b, and c. Don't give her the satisfaction. Just let her do her thing. As for your bf, just like my hubby when I tried to tell him how his ex was using him and manipulating him AND bragging to me about it when we were engaged...to which he said I was ';making it up'; because she'd never ';been that kind of person';....he found out the hard way. I stopped telling him OR listening to her, and he had to find out years later by it all blowing up on him. Boy was he mad. All I could do is say, ';I tried to tell you, but I was a liar.'; Just let them play their stupid games. If it's too much drama for you, or he is choosing her side, perhaps you need a new bf.
why don't you just leave that drama..? if your boyfriend gets all defensive then that should tell you all you need to know.