Do you agree? : ';Concentration has slipped away... because your baby is so far away....';
Should you love the one you're with, if you can't be with the one you love? Wouldn't that mean you don't really love that person?Good advice or bad advice Poll:?
....I haven't been in such a dilemma so I have no opinion on this.....
Theoretically, I can say that it is not impossible for one, to love two people, each in a different way...Good advice or bad advice Poll:?
';Should you love the one you're with, if you can't be with the one you love?'; you can't make yourself love someone. I've tried. It doesn't work.. You can try to be content with someone. but your heart will never be happy if it loves another. Sometimes though, life is unfair, and we have to make choices and do what we think is right, and what is best for those involved.
I agree with Apples
Friday, July 30, 2010
I'm in a financial bind with 6 payday loans. Any advice? Have bad credit cannot get a bank loan to resolve.
Pay your bills and quit spending money on un-necessary items.I'm in a financial bind with 6 payday loans. Any advice? Have bad credit cannot get a bank loan to resolve.
You can make payment arangements with the payday loans. That way they wont take you to court!I'm in a financial bind with 6 payday loans. Any advice? Have bad credit cannot get a bank loan to resolve.
The ultimate answer is to spend less than you bring in. Therefore, if you're living in a house or apartment that is too expensive for you then move, pay your utilities on time, let all the luxuries go, like cable TV, cell phones, dinners and lunches out, clothes, make-up, movies, expensive meats at the grocery store, etc. Pay off your loans ASAP and resolve to never get yourself in this pickle again. Put yourself on a strict budget and stop living above your means.
Have a garage sale, sell blood/plasma, mow some lawns, pawn stuff, collect alum cans, clean houses, get a second or third job ...
You need to cut out all spending for anything but the absolute basics -- turn off the cable, the cellphone, etc. Cut way back on your groceries -- you can live on ramen noodles.
You have to scape up enough to start paying off those payday loans. Pay them off one at a time.
Part time job and stop shopping.
stop borrowing money at high rates -
You can make payment arangements with the payday loans. That way they wont take you to court!I'm in a financial bind with 6 payday loans. Any advice? Have bad credit cannot get a bank loan to resolve.
The ultimate answer is to spend less than you bring in. Therefore, if you're living in a house or apartment that is too expensive for you then move, pay your utilities on time, let all the luxuries go, like cable TV, cell phones, dinners and lunches out, clothes, make-up, movies, expensive meats at the grocery store, etc. Pay off your loans ASAP and resolve to never get yourself in this pickle again. Put yourself on a strict budget and stop living above your means.
Have a garage sale, sell blood/plasma, mow some lawns, pawn stuff, collect alum cans, clean houses, get a second or third job ...
You need to cut out all spending for anything but the absolute basics -- turn off the cable, the cellphone, etc. Cut way back on your groceries -- you can live on ramen noodles.
You have to scape up enough to start paying off those payday loans. Pay them off one at a time.
Part time job and stop shopping.
stop borrowing money at high rates -
Do you think ';it's your day, so do what you want'; can be bad advice?
It's fairly ubiquitous on here. But I'm not so sure I love the idea of considering my wedding day to be ';my'; day exclusively. Obviously the bride can't let her future mother-in-law or best friend or whomever boss her around until the wedding has no relationship to the event she imagined. But I think that can be managed without saying ';eff you Granny, I'm not wearing your stupid pearls.';
How do you mediate your own desires for your wedding with being respectful of your guests and the other people involved?Do you think ';it's your day, so do what you want'; can be bad advice?
It irritates the living crap out of me when I hear people say that. In my opinion the CEREMONY is about you and your fiance. The reception is for your family and your guests.
Absolutely, you need to compromise on some things. If you hate pearls, but love your grandmother, then you wear the pearls because it's important to her. I met with a couple on Sunday who told me about a wedding they had been to over the previous weekend. The mother of the groom is from Thailand, and has very garrish tastes. The bride had rented a nicely decorated card box, but her future mother in law still brought in this homemade box that was decorated with Christmas paper and covered in Christmas lights. The bride chose to let it go and enjoy her day. The Christmas card box sat next to the beautiful, elegant box on the gift table all night. I thought it was a great story, because there are a ton of people out there who would have let something like that ruin ';their day';, when it doesn't have to.Do you think ';it's your day, so do what you want'; can be bad advice?
Tradition decrees brides indulge their own desires while being respectful of their guests. Although there is a groom, family and a bunch of friends involved, the focus is always on the bride.
If you want to respect the things like the pearl situation, it can be accommodated by politely suggesting it would mean more to you if you saw her wearing them on your special day so you could see them always in the video or photos. Any situation can be addressed if done with tact.
Good luck, and congratulations!
By the way, the only time it is bad advice to tell someone that ';it's your day, so do what you want'; is if they suggest they are going to commit an illegal, immoral, or indecent act, like suicide or murder.
You can always tell them . . ';I will take your ideas and suggestions into consideration. I just haven't decided what is right or appropriate for OUR wedding yet.';
BAD suggestions or ideas from relatives and/or guests . .
Invite everyone you know to the bridal shower so the Bride can get ';lots of gifts.';
Only put expensive gifts on your bridal registry.
Take the gifts you don't like and return them for CASH.
Make your own bouquets and boutonnieres.
Make your own centerpieces.
Put off paying the caterer, DJ, photographer, and officiant as long as possible.
Don't tell the wedding cake baker the correct number of guests attending, make it about 25 people less (you pay ';by the slice';).
Have a friend hem your wedding gown or make alterations.
It's OK to serve beer in cans at your reception.
Ask all the wedding vendors for a discount in exchange for putting their names and telephone numbers on the ceremony program.
Tell the Bride and Groom's parents ';you can wear anything you want to the wedding.';
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Your taking the advice to literally. Its your day do what you want is meant to tell you to not be a doormat. To pick your battles carefully and not let someone else run what is you and your fiances wedding. It is your wedding(and his of course) not either of yours mothers, aunts, friends etc.
Do what you want to do but do be considerate of the people that you want to be there. Like if granny wants you to wear her pearls but you have your heart set on a silver cross maybe wear her pearls for the photos or for the rehearsal. Its about sticking to what is really important to you.
The most important quality that your family, and his family needs to respect from you is honesty. I wouldn't let anybody run an event like that for me, when it is traditionally your desicion to make the arrangments. Your input is the most important, and if they can't realize that, then maybe they should step aside, cause the fact is, it IS your day!!
I agree - it would only be 'your' day if you eloped and were the only ones there. As soon as other people are involved it becomes their day as well - maybe not quite as much as it is 'your' day but they are obviously still involved as soon as you invite them! As others have mentioned you just need to be curteous and carefully explain to others that you wish to do things differently than they do - and if you are the ones paying for it and organising it then you have the right to decide what you want to do.
Elizabeths answers was right on.
Yes it is usually bad advice! I really think that, if you are a gracious host and respect your guests from the bottom of your heart, then you will not run into problems with selfish desires.
There are two kinds of people in the Weddings section. Those who want to hear ';do you what you want';, and those who want to be a good host.
You create a totem pole of importantness for you and your fiance and only be the boss or stick to your guns about those things high up on the pole. Let other people have imput about those bottom things. Maybe you and your fiance are pumped about having a great DJ...then don't allow your cousin to insist on ';spitting some rhymes'; at your reception. If you could care less about cake, let your grandmother order some 7-tiered atrocity.....the art of compromise
I think a couple (bride AND groom) should do what they want and compromise when in disagreement. However, if others are helping pay for it then they will need to work with and compromise w/ them too. As far as dumb etiquette rules, well, that's what they are...dumb. The wedding party doesn't have much of a say either.
it's easy, it is done by being gracious and compromise..............and realizing it isn't just 'your day', like you said, it's your mom and dad's day; his mom and dad's day, the grandparents day...it is a day of family being with you and your fiance as you embark on your life adventure.
Be considerate, you can say no politely. My sister is getting married and I've had to tell a lot of our family what she wants or doesn't. If you aren't comfortable telling someone no, ask a relative too.
you can still get your wishes heard without being rude. Just remind them that it is your day and thank them for the offer anyway but you would prefer to do it your way.
Yeah it is, I mean what if you want to kill someone that doesn't mean you should do it.
yes it can be bad advice.......indeed it can.
Depends on the person you give it to.
It's all about compromise, baby...Because the thing is-it's not just the bride's day...nor is it just the bride %26amp; groom's day. It's a very delicate balance that has everything to do with giving everyone involved in wedding planning plenty of elbow room. Because this will really help make (or break!) your relationships with your future family...but it's a great way to start off on a really good foot, if you play your hand right.
First thing to do is figure out a general vision with your groom. That will already cause compromise. Be willing to entertain his ideas, and blend them together into one cohesive vision between you both. Then, figure out your priorities. What are the most important things to you and your groom? What things don't really matter? Those one or two top priorities are the ones you both can stand firm on. But, that being said-be willing to let the others helping you plan have a greater pull in those other decisions that don't matter as much. (For my fiance and I, food and photos were top priorities, so we've let our families have a lot of say in the cake, the decor, the flowers, etc.).
But approach those other details with great sincerity-like asking your mother in law, ';Hey-I'm sort of at a loss for flowers-what kinds do you like?'; or maybe invite both your mom and mother in law along for the cake tasting...so they can have their opinions heard too.
Good luck-it isn't always easy, but compromise is definitely worth it, and it can make wedding planning a lot of fun!
Yes it can be very poor advice. Here are some sample questions where it would be a wrong answer:
';I want to uninvite my aunt because she said something I didn't like. How can I do that?';
';What's the best way to ask for money in my wedding invitations?';
';My maid of honor hasn't dropped her whole life to do my bidding and I'm offended, how do I demote her?';
Questions where ';do what you want'; may be the best option:
';My bridesmaid said she won't wear blue but it's my favorite color and I'm paying for the dress. Should I tell her that it's my choice?';
';My mother is appalled that I want to wear a strapless gown. Should I change my dress style even though I love the one I picked?';
';I really want a candy buffet but my best friend says they're old hat and overdone. Can I still have one?';
While others' sensibilities are important, there is a fine line between indulging in one's own harmless wishes (that harm nobody) and being truly offensive to someone, or a whole group of someones.
I think at the end of the day it is ';your day';. Your elders can give great advice and suggestions, but their ideas can be a bit old fashioned especially this day and age, if you don't want to do what they say, you can politly say '; You know I have always had an idea of what my weeding will be like and I appreciet the adice and ideas abd will take some on board but most of the things I'd like to do my way';. Your saying how you feel without being rude or disrespectful.
I know I would not want to wear hand me downs and if you don't wnat to wear for eg: grannys pearls you can say to her that you will carry them in your purse as a good luck charm but you would prefer to wear (whatever you prefer) as that particular jewlery will match your dress, she will be happy and you will be happy.
Even if she takes ofense.....really you only get married once and you want to be happy with your decision when you look back on the photos you want to say ';oh I wore a beautiful dress and I'm glad I didn't wear nannas old pearls';. Get what I'm saying.
Anyway hope you have a great day on your special day. :)
How do you mediate your own desires for your wedding with being respectful of your guests and the other people involved?Do you think ';it's your day, so do what you want'; can be bad advice?
It irritates the living crap out of me when I hear people say that. In my opinion the CEREMONY is about you and your fiance. The reception is for your family and your guests.
Absolutely, you need to compromise on some things. If you hate pearls, but love your grandmother, then you wear the pearls because it's important to her. I met with a couple on Sunday who told me about a wedding they had been to over the previous weekend. The mother of the groom is from Thailand, and has very garrish tastes. The bride had rented a nicely decorated card box, but her future mother in law still brought in this homemade box that was decorated with Christmas paper and covered in Christmas lights. The bride chose to let it go and enjoy her day. The Christmas card box sat next to the beautiful, elegant box on the gift table all night. I thought it was a great story, because there are a ton of people out there who would have let something like that ruin ';their day';, when it doesn't have to.Do you think ';it's your day, so do what you want'; can be bad advice?
Tradition decrees brides indulge their own desires while being respectful of their guests. Although there is a groom, family and a bunch of friends involved, the focus is always on the bride.
If you want to respect the things like the pearl situation, it can be accommodated by politely suggesting it would mean more to you if you saw her wearing them on your special day so you could see them always in the video or photos. Any situation can be addressed if done with tact.
Good luck, and congratulations!
By the way, the only time it is bad advice to tell someone that ';it's your day, so do what you want'; is if they suggest they are going to commit an illegal, immoral, or indecent act, like suicide or murder.
You can always tell them . . ';I will take your ideas and suggestions into consideration. I just haven't decided what is right or appropriate for OUR wedding yet.';
BAD suggestions or ideas from relatives and/or guests . .
Invite everyone you know to the bridal shower so the Bride can get ';lots of gifts.';
Only put expensive gifts on your bridal registry.
Take the gifts you don't like and return them for CASH.
Make your own bouquets and boutonnieres.
Make your own centerpieces.
Put off paying the caterer, DJ, photographer, and officiant as long as possible.
Don't tell the wedding cake baker the correct number of guests attending, make it about 25 people less (you pay ';by the slice';).
Have a friend hem your wedding gown or make alterations.
It's OK to serve beer in cans at your reception.
Ask all the wedding vendors for a discount in exchange for putting their names and telephone numbers on the ceremony program.
Tell the Bride and Groom's parents ';you can wear anything you want to the wedding.';
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Your taking the advice to literally. Its your day do what you want is meant to tell you to not be a doormat. To pick your battles carefully and not let someone else run what is you and your fiances wedding. It is your wedding(and his of course) not either of yours mothers, aunts, friends etc.
Do what you want to do but do be considerate of the people that you want to be there. Like if granny wants you to wear her pearls but you have your heart set on a silver cross maybe wear her pearls for the photos or for the rehearsal. Its about sticking to what is really important to you.
The most important quality that your family, and his family needs to respect from you is honesty. I wouldn't let anybody run an event like that for me, when it is traditionally your desicion to make the arrangments. Your input is the most important, and if they can't realize that, then maybe they should step aside, cause the fact is, it IS your day!!
I agree - it would only be 'your' day if you eloped and were the only ones there. As soon as other people are involved it becomes their day as well - maybe not quite as much as it is 'your' day but they are obviously still involved as soon as you invite them! As others have mentioned you just need to be curteous and carefully explain to others that you wish to do things differently than they do - and if you are the ones paying for it and organising it then you have the right to decide what you want to do.
Elizabeths answers was right on.
Yes it is usually bad advice! I really think that, if you are a gracious host and respect your guests from the bottom of your heart, then you will not run into problems with selfish desires.
There are two kinds of people in the Weddings section. Those who want to hear ';do you what you want';, and those who want to be a good host.
You create a totem pole of importantness for you and your fiance and only be the boss or stick to your guns about those things high up on the pole. Let other people have imput about those bottom things. Maybe you and your fiance are pumped about having a great DJ...then don't allow your cousin to insist on ';spitting some rhymes'; at your reception. If you could care less about cake, let your grandmother order some 7-tiered atrocity.....the art of compromise
I think a couple (bride AND groom) should do what they want and compromise when in disagreement. However, if others are helping pay for it then they will need to work with and compromise w/ them too. As far as dumb etiquette rules, well, that's what they are...dumb. The wedding party doesn't have much of a say either.
it's easy, it is done by being gracious and compromise..............and realizing it isn't just 'your day', like you said, it's your mom and dad's day; his mom and dad's day, the grandparents day...it is a day of family being with you and your fiance as you embark on your life adventure.
Be considerate, you can say no politely. My sister is getting married and I've had to tell a lot of our family what she wants or doesn't. If you aren't comfortable telling someone no, ask a relative too.
you can still get your wishes heard without being rude. Just remind them that it is your day and thank them for the offer anyway but you would prefer to do it your way.
Yeah it is, I mean what if you want to kill someone that doesn't mean you should do it.
yes it can be bad advice.......indeed it can.
Depends on the person you give it to.
It's all about compromise, baby...Because the thing is-it's not just the bride's day...nor is it just the bride %26amp; groom's day. It's a very delicate balance that has everything to do with giving everyone involved in wedding planning plenty of elbow room. Because this will really help make (or break!) your relationships with your future family...but it's a great way to start off on a really good foot, if you play your hand right.
First thing to do is figure out a general vision with your groom. That will already cause compromise. Be willing to entertain his ideas, and blend them together into one cohesive vision between you both. Then, figure out your priorities. What are the most important things to you and your groom? What things don't really matter? Those one or two top priorities are the ones you both can stand firm on. But, that being said-be willing to let the others helping you plan have a greater pull in those other decisions that don't matter as much. (For my fiance and I, food and photos were top priorities, so we've let our families have a lot of say in the cake, the decor, the flowers, etc.).
But approach those other details with great sincerity-like asking your mother in law, ';Hey-I'm sort of at a loss for flowers-what kinds do you like?'; or maybe invite both your mom and mother in law along for the cake tasting...so they can have their opinions heard too.
Good luck-it isn't always easy, but compromise is definitely worth it, and it can make wedding planning a lot of fun!
Yes it can be very poor advice. Here are some sample questions where it would be a wrong answer:
';I want to uninvite my aunt because she said something I didn't like. How can I do that?';
';What's the best way to ask for money in my wedding invitations?';
';My maid of honor hasn't dropped her whole life to do my bidding and I'm offended, how do I demote her?';
Questions where ';do what you want'; may be the best option:
';My bridesmaid said she won't wear blue but it's my favorite color and I'm paying for the dress. Should I tell her that it's my choice?';
';My mother is appalled that I want to wear a strapless gown. Should I change my dress style even though I love the one I picked?';
';I really want a candy buffet but my best friend says they're old hat and overdone. Can I still have one?';
While others' sensibilities are important, there is a fine line between indulging in one's own harmless wishes (that harm nobody) and being truly offensive to someone, or a whole group of someones.
I think at the end of the day it is ';your day';. Your elders can give great advice and suggestions, but their ideas can be a bit old fashioned especially this day and age, if you don't want to do what they say, you can politly say '; You know I have always had an idea of what my weeding will be like and I appreciet the adice and ideas abd will take some on board but most of the things I'd like to do my way';. Your saying how you feel without being rude or disrespectful.
I know I would not want to wear hand me downs and if you don't wnat to wear for eg: grannys pearls you can say to her that you will carry them in your purse as a good luck charm but you would prefer to wear (whatever you prefer) as that particular jewlery will match your dress, she will be happy and you will be happy.
Even if she takes ofense.....really you only get married once and you want to be happy with your decision when you look back on the photos you want to say ';oh I wore a beautiful dress and I'm glad I didn't wear nannas old pearls';. Get what I'm saying.
Anyway hope you have a great day on your special day. :)
OMG I MIGHT GET IN SERIOUS TROUBLE HELP HELP PLEASE COME I NEeD ADVICE BAD?
we have a program at our school called acelerated reading and me and this dude are in a contest to see who can get more points so i took some test and i got 68 points and i wanted to know how much points he had and he wouldent tell me so i tried to log in his name about 5 times and the password was wrong and he is now locked out what do i do i might get in troubleOMG I MIGHT GET IN SERIOUS TROUBLE HELP HELP PLEASE COME I NEeD ADVICE BAD?
Well first off the police will probably show up within 5 minutes and arrest you for trying to hack into your friends account! lol (jk) Your friend will have access to his account again so try not to worry. If he tries to log on right away he may see that someone has been trying to hack into it and suspect you. You should feel ashamed of yourself and never attempt this again.OMG I MIGHT GET IN SERIOUS TROUBLE HELP HELP PLEASE COME I NEeD ADVICE BAD?
Who will know? I like being honest, if they ask you about the problem, tell the truth. '; I was checking to see how many points my FRIEND had'; I have 68 points. ';I wish him the best'; This sure is a fun contest. Good luck and it will be OK. Good luck.
Turn yourself in to the Principal, you need to be excluded from the program for attempted tampering with his computer records. Maybe even expelled from school, OR reform school....OMG, your life is ruined.
would he know it was you?
NO
dont say anything. and if it comes up. DENY DENY DENY.
Well, usually it will only lock you out of your account for a few days. So hopefully he won't notice.
well usually if someone has an a AR account and someone tries to break in the account it will shut down. it does this because if you get the wrong password wrong 2 or3 times the system thinks that someone is trying to break in. because that person should know there password.
Do you realize that you posted this twice? And within 10 minutes of each post? The same people are going to see it. Just do what you were already told.
Sorry, but that's what you get for being nosey. When he said he didn't want to tell you, you should have just left it at that because it was HIS business. To be honest, if you DO get in trouble, YOU ASKED FOR IT.
You now have two options: don't say anything and let him do what needs to be done to get another password, OR be the bigger person and admit to your wrongdoing. I think you know which one you should do.
I would worry more about your spelling and grammar!
Why did you post this twice?
Well first off the police will probably show up within 5 minutes and arrest you for trying to hack into your friends account! lol (jk) Your friend will have access to his account again so try not to worry. If he tries to log on right away he may see that someone has been trying to hack into it and suspect you. You should feel ashamed of yourself and never attempt this again.OMG I MIGHT GET IN SERIOUS TROUBLE HELP HELP PLEASE COME I NEeD ADVICE BAD?
Who will know? I like being honest, if they ask you about the problem, tell the truth. '; I was checking to see how many points my FRIEND had'; I have 68 points. ';I wish him the best'; This sure is a fun contest. Good luck and it will be OK. Good luck.
Turn yourself in to the Principal, you need to be excluded from the program for attempted tampering with his computer records. Maybe even expelled from school, OR reform school....OMG, your life is ruined.
would he know it was you?
NO
dont say anything. and if it comes up. DENY DENY DENY.
Well, usually it will only lock you out of your account for a few days. So hopefully he won't notice.
well usually if someone has an a AR account and someone tries to break in the account it will shut down. it does this because if you get the wrong password wrong 2 or3 times the system thinks that someone is trying to break in. because that person should know there password.
Do you realize that you posted this twice? And within 10 minutes of each post? The same people are going to see it. Just do what you were already told.
Sorry, but that's what you get for being nosey. When he said he didn't want to tell you, you should have just left it at that because it was HIS business. To be honest, if you DO get in trouble, YOU ASKED FOR IT.
You now have two options: don't say anything and let him do what needs to be done to get another password, OR be the bigger person and admit to your wrongdoing. I think you know which one you should do.
I would worry more about your spelling and grammar!
Why did you post this twice?
Have you ever given anyone a ';bad advice'; rating in yahoo answers?
i only give a bad advice rating if i feel like the answer is offensive.Have you ever given anyone a ';bad advice'; rating in yahoo answers?
Yes, only because someone was being insensitive to the asker. I've found that most often people want a genuine answer, not a wise-crack answer from someone who doesn't have enough maturity to give a serious answer.Have you ever given anyone a ';bad advice'; rating in yahoo answers?
Yeah, me too just like you.
yeah if someone is being racist or just being rude or being a pervert!
Well if I don't like the answer yeah!!!
Yes, once. This guy assumed so much from my question and was down right rude to me. I didnt like is answer and didnt like his assumptions, so I gave him a thumbs down. I feel that if I cant say something nice to help the people, then I will not answer it. I feel that if people take the time to write questions (genuine real questions) then at least I can do is give them a realistic answer, not like jerks do.
I do if the answer does not in any way reflect an informed, coherent solution to the question or problem. I have seen some pretty crazy answers on here. Some of the people who answer do not have a clue about the category they are dealing with. If I don't know, I am not going to answer.
Same with me. If the question is stupid or bad, I make up something bad.
All the time.
I usually do it when there is bad advice givin.
yes
Yeah, it made me feel bad, but then my answer was picked as the best answer! So I guess they don't mean anything.stop pimples
Yes, only because someone was being insensitive to the asker. I've found that most often people want a genuine answer, not a wise-crack answer from someone who doesn't have enough maturity to give a serious answer.Have you ever given anyone a ';bad advice'; rating in yahoo answers?
Yeah, me too just like you.
yeah if someone is being racist or just being rude or being a pervert!
Well if I don't like the answer yeah!!!
Yes, once. This guy assumed so much from my question and was down right rude to me. I didnt like is answer and didnt like his assumptions, so I gave him a thumbs down. I feel that if I cant say something nice to help the people, then I will not answer it. I feel that if people take the time to write questions (genuine real questions) then at least I can do is give them a realistic answer, not like jerks do.
I do if the answer does not in any way reflect an informed, coherent solution to the question or problem. I have seen some pretty crazy answers on here. Some of the people who answer do not have a clue about the category they are dealing with. If I don't know, I am not going to answer.
Same with me. If the question is stupid or bad, I make up something bad.
All the time.
I usually do it when there is bad advice givin.
yes
Yeah, it made me feel bad, but then my answer was picked as the best answer! So I guess they don't mean anything.
IS this a good advice or bad advice?
Some one advised with this:
Think hard about a need in a person's life. Then think hard of how to fill it.
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Pleas Prove it with reference or results(impact) if you can.IS this a good advice or bad advice?
Good thinking will always over come the bad one.IS this a good advice or bad advice?
Good.
Think hard about a need in a person's life. Then think hard of how to fill it.
***
Pleas Prove it with reference or results(impact) if you can.IS this a good advice or bad advice?
Good thinking will always over come the bad one.IS this a good advice or bad advice?
Good.
Was it bad advice?
I recently advised a pal going through some problems, not to live in the past, to look to the future, and forget about past events, he took me literally, and was promptly and was promptly sacked as a history teacher at the local comprehensive do you think my advice was wrong?Was it bad advice?
haha...is that a joke?? You told him to forget about the past and his job was a history teacher?classic!Was it bad advice?
Look. you tried, you don't give the entire story, but as a concerned friend you tried to say something useful--we all try to do this---but we would probably be better minding our own business. You didn't do anything--he probably did it to himself---he's a big boy--he'll get over it
haha...is that a joke?? You told him to forget about the past and his job was a history teacher?classic!Was it bad advice?
Look. you tried, you don't give the entire story, but as a concerned friend you tried to say something useful--we all try to do this---but we would probably be better minding our own business. You didn't do anything--he probably did it to himself---he's a big boy--he'll get over it
Is This Bad Advice?
Actually i just wanted to know if other guys hate this too.
When a female asks what a guy means when he does or says something, then another female advises her to ignore him and act disinterested and make him 'persue' her?
Shi-tt-y advice isn't it.Is This Bad Advice?
I am not a guy I am a girl and My friend tried giving me advice like that in the past and I mean it just head games. I do not agree and the women that do it sometimes need to stand up and think for themselves. If you like a guy don't play games because he may get fed up and just leave and not be interested in you anymore and what if he was the one for the girl? YOu know...Hope you don't get more females like that! Good Luck!!!Is This Bad Advice?
Yes that is bad advice ! LOL
confusing
Women should never give women guy advice, they dont know how we think! We dont know either, so how do they?
playing hard to get works though
The chase is the best part my friend. You see, she needs to know that you will make the extra effort to win her. If she made it too easy, how would you ever respect her. Take this for example, you go out to a bar one night and meet a girl, you end up taking her home and having some XXX relations, how much respect do you have for this girl who made it so easy for you..you the wild hunter of woman kind. No I say, it is the challenging prey we seek, one cannot savor a victory if it was easily won. So sharpen your sword lad, and prepare your armor!! For now, all men ride to war!!!
I think it`s pretty crappy advice.
I mean, when guys pretend they`re not interested in me and don`t attempt to keep my attention, I just forget about them and find someone else to like.
So, I`d imagine it`s the same for guys and chasing girls.
The thing is, everyone wants to be chased, but that`s not at all possible.
Games are never good. Ever. Period.
i dont hate it. the more info the better
Actually, it's pretty good advice...if a guy can't be a Man then he's the one with the problem and the girl should give him the time he needs to make a mature decision as to if he wishes to pursue her or not...be a man not a mouse...
That's called ';playing hard to get';...men do it to women, women do it to men. It's dishonest and a waste of time. You either dig someone or you don't. Junior high games should be left in junior high.
Its Yahoo Answers anything goes from what I read :)
yea, i cant stand that crap............but all girls are gonna do it (some more than others) so might as well get used to it.
can you share some of that 200$ you collected?
Games are not nice, so yes bad advice.
It's hard to understand why the game playing and childish note-passing. Just straight up say what you feel or ask what you want to know. If someone asks you ...be honest and say what you mean. The other is sooo jr. high.
When a female asks what a guy means when he does or says something, then another female advises her to ignore him and act disinterested and make him 'persue' her?
Shi-tt-y advice isn't it.Is This Bad Advice?
I am not a guy I am a girl and My friend tried giving me advice like that in the past and I mean it just head games. I do not agree and the women that do it sometimes need to stand up and think for themselves. If you like a guy don't play games because he may get fed up and just leave and not be interested in you anymore and what if he was the one for the girl? YOu know...Hope you don't get more females like that! Good Luck!!!Is This Bad Advice?
Yes that is bad advice ! LOL
confusing
Women should never give women guy advice, they dont know how we think! We dont know either, so how do they?
playing hard to get works though
The chase is the best part my friend. You see, she needs to know that you will make the extra effort to win her. If she made it too easy, how would you ever respect her. Take this for example, you go out to a bar one night and meet a girl, you end up taking her home and having some XXX relations, how much respect do you have for this girl who made it so easy for you..you the wild hunter of woman kind. No I say, it is the challenging prey we seek, one cannot savor a victory if it was easily won. So sharpen your sword lad, and prepare your armor!! For now, all men ride to war!!!
I think it`s pretty crappy advice.
I mean, when guys pretend they`re not interested in me and don`t attempt to keep my attention, I just forget about them and find someone else to like.
So, I`d imagine it`s the same for guys and chasing girls.
The thing is, everyone wants to be chased, but that`s not at all possible.
Games are never good. Ever. Period.
i dont hate it. the more info the better
Actually, it's pretty good advice...if a guy can't be a Man then he's the one with the problem and the girl should give him the time he needs to make a mature decision as to if he wishes to pursue her or not...be a man not a mouse...
That's called ';playing hard to get';...men do it to women, women do it to men. It's dishonest and a waste of time. You either dig someone or you don't. Junior high games should be left in junior high.
Its Yahoo Answers anything goes from what I read :)
yea, i cant stand that crap............but all girls are gonna do it (some more than others) so might as well get used to it.
can you share some of that 200$ you collected?
Games are not nice, so yes bad advice.
It's hard to understand why the game playing and childish note-passing. Just straight up say what you feel or ask what you want to know. If someone asks you ...be honest and say what you mean. The other is sooo jr. high.
I am almost 15 and i want to have a baby really bad so any advice (im not a whore either).?
I love babys and i want to have one sooo badly i guess its to have someone to love me as much as i love him or her because everyone im friends with and related to always tell me im a mistake and nobody will ever love me i act like it doesn't bother me but it dose it hurts alot im confused any advice.I am almost 15 and i want to have a baby really bad so any advice (im not a whore either).?
Ask mommy and daddy for a puppy. You are not ready for a child.I am almost 15 and i want to have a baby really bad so any advice (im not a whore either).?
You are way too young to make this mistake so early in life
Do you know that Jesus loves you more than anything there is? You are his baby... you are so perfect and beautiful to Him!!
Let go of the hurt, ask Him into your heart and into your life. Ask Him to take away all of those feelings and fill you with the love you are needing.
God created you and has been with you for your whole life, waiting for you to ask Him into your heart so He can show you His love. He will be your best friend.
Pray to Him right now, it will feel so good. You are not a mistake, you never were and never will be. You were made to do something BIG in this world girl. Someday you WILL be a beautiful amazing mother! You can teach your child about Christianity and all God has done for this you. But that time is not right now, you are too young for a baby.
Pray to Him, let him take the pain and fill your heart with His love.
You are not as ready as you think you are. How much do you *really* know about taking care of a baby? Do you know how much it costs? Do you know how much time it would take? You would barely have time for school (if that) let alone time to do anything on your own.
Which means that you wouldn't have time to learn to drive. Which means you couldn't get your license. Nor could you have a real sweet sixteen. You can't throw a big party when you've got a baby to take care of.
Also, having a baby won't solve your problems It will only make things worse, because you'll have more to worry about. If you have problems with the way your family/friends treat you,let them know that you're offended or upset. Don't have a kid. It will change the rest of your life. And fifteen is a young age to be making those kinds of decisions.
And I'm not an adult trying to talk you out of this. I'm the same age as you are. Just... please thing about the consequences.
my advice is your friends and family are dicks and dont you are wayyy to young to have a baby.simple and blunt.
Those sound like incredibly selfish reasons to have a child. At the age of 'almost 15', you are still too young to have a child. I bet you don't even have a good-paying job yet. You should finish school and get the sufficient qualifications to get a good job. You should find someone that you love very much - enough to have the commitment of carrying and having their child. This can't be done at the age of 15. You have the rest of your life to have a baby - right now at your age, you should just be thinking about having fun and enjoying the rest of your youth!!
You are too young for a baby. The friends and family that tell you that you are a mistake and that nobody will ever love you are NOT nice people. You should ditch the friends that tell you that. Babies are a lot of work. Carrying a baby in your belly for nine months and throwing up every day of your pregnancy is not a good time. You should focus on finishing school. Most boys your age are only interested in getting in your pants. They do not care about you or love you the way you want to be loved. Do not let boys use you for sex and get you pregnant. You will be the one left responsible if you do get pregnant.
Your teen years are a very stressful time. It's normal to feel like you don't fit in. Try to develop self esteem and feel confident in yourself. Join a club at school and make some friends. You might be able to volunteer at a hospital in the baby ward. There will be plenty of time to have a baby when you are older and have finished school. Maybe you can get a job babysitting after school.
Everybody goes baby-crazy at one point in their life :)
Ask for a pet you're not ready for a baby and you won't be able to give it the best life you can right now and you wouldn't want that would you?
Start babysitting!
First, I'd like to say, **** all of these judgmental assholes who are telling you you can't do this. God, it pisses me off that people will bash anyone's ideas if they're a little different. You can do whatever you want to do..as long as you're willing to step up to the plate. As long as you're willing to be an adult, miss parties to babysit, get a job, all that mess. Also, you'd have to deal with people thinking that you ARE a whore
I'm 15 and preggo..and I have to say I am a bit excited. So, I understand where you're coming from. Just please please don't rush. I have a boyfriend who I know loves me and I love him. And I know that even if we break up, he'll help me with the baby. That's so important - you can't do it alone. And there's a lot of issues with children without fathers. So think really hard about it.
If you find a boyfriend, and when you fall in love, think about this again. Talk to him about it, first. (And don't trick yourself into thinking you love him if you don't.)
To summarize:
1. Babies are amazing things, but they also suck. So think hard.
2. You NEED support..find a good and loyal guy.
3. Be ready to step up..and defnitely do some research. There's a lot of risks involved in young pregnancy. I'm so scared. 0_o
Good luck. Hope you make the right decision.
having a baby is not the solution to all your problems. you should probally talk to your parents. and if you have a baby you're just going to have pay the price of being a teenage mom. enjoy your life like other 15 year olds.
Clearly you are not stable. Why bring a child into this world? You are not ready! You haven't even mention a boyfriend! And a 15 you can barely get a good job. I mean you can't even drive, yet!
if you want someone to love, having a baby isn't the answer. Look for a very nice guy who will treats you well and that's how you'll find love. Don't have kid this young, then it will change you life and possibly ruin it, if they are your friends, then they wouldn't tell you those stuff. Everyone finds love, just got a look for it. :)
You are retarted
its not true. but a baby is a lot of hard work. and love doesnt by the baby food and a home. i know how much you want a baby and i understand. but im 17 and i have a 3 year old. hes a lot of work. you may want to wait until you have a good job and an education. and your own home. i wish you the best in your disition making
Yes, bringing a child into this world can be wonderful, and it is a blessing from God...
but the reality is that it's really hard... yes there's unconditional love for that baby, that doesn't make it easy, it's a huge responsibliy.
it's okay to think about because one day you'll have one...
but thats in the future.
should focus on your studies, so one day you can provide for your child...But your only 15, i'm not critising you, this is perfectly normal.
But just wait.
you'll know one day when the time is right.
;-)
Baby sit or adopt a sweet little dog or cat from an animal shelter. Saving the life of an animal is a much wiser decision than bringing a baby into existence when you're so young and unprepared and...just not ready.
I'm not going to tell you the obvious things. You'll get enough of that.
but think about it.
- your baby is not capable of ';loving';. babies do not know how to love so do not have a baby because you think that he or she will love you back.
- your baby will get made fun of when he or she is older because their ';friends'; will realize how young you are and you will known as a whore.
- your classmate will think your a whore.
- your parents will be disappointed in you.
- the baby will most likely not have a committed dad or will any boy want to have a baby with you at the age of 14
That's gotta be the worst reason to havea child.
The child may love you, but you already are unprepared to love it if you are only wanting it to fill a void in your life. You can't take care of a child the best at age 14. You need to wait until you are
a) over this need of someone to love
b) have a loving husband
c) able to financially provide for a baby.
Like the first answer said, get a puppy.
P.s. You should also be vary wary of the guys you end up dating, because this need of yours to want to be loved so badly can very easily end you up in an abusive relationship. Go buy the book ';but i love him'; by Dr. Jill Murrayso you'll be able to recognize the warning signs..
i feel the same way, but im not crazy and want to have a kid. go on neopets or something take care of a virtual baby, your immaturity shows that you are clearly not ready to take care of something
I'm 15 too and yeah, frankly, anyone our age is too young to have a baby, but i know what you mean. One of the reasons that teenage girls have babies is because they want that feeling and security of an unconditional love, and they aren't getting it from a parent or a friend or a boyfriend, and it sucks. but its no reason to get pregnant and stop yourself from doing wonderful things the rest of your life. What i would do is find a regular part-time babysitting job, or even offer to do it for free. Then you get to spend 2 or 3 days a week with a baby/toddler, while helping out the mother, and most parents wont object to free babysitting :) also, i work in nursery on sundays, it helps me get my ';baby-fill'; b/c you get to smile and play and cuddle for an hr or two and then you get to give it back.
Hope this helped :)
How much will your child love you when your living in a box on the streets?
You do realize if you have a child you will have to drop out of school, and you won't be able to get a job right?
And don't think anyone is going to want to help you, they will all think your just a teenage mother, they won't want you.
1. You are not the 'Age of Consent', anywhere, on earth. Which means, you would allowing yourself to be raped(Statutory Rape).
2. Having a baby for the reason of wanting to be loved is ABSOLUTELY SELFISH
What are you thinking having a child will bring you love but it also brings alot more then that.No matter what anyone tells you its up to you to believe in yourself and not be brought down to levels like wanting a baby so that you can be loved.How will you support the baby because believe you me public assistance doesn't do crap how will you finish school because it sounds to me like you don't have a supportive family there is waaaaay more to being a parent and being 15 you don't know the half of it Im 27 and its still hard for me. I have witnessed teen pregnancy and the negativity that comes along with it it may seem that you really want it and that they are cute and love able and blah blah blah but the actuality is that its another human being just like you and needs to have not just a young mom but both parents that are stable enough to take care of it.Before you go trying to actually make this baby you really need to think about the long term and not just whats going right now. I hope you see that you have more then enough time to have a baby just take care of yourself and make sure that you grow up a little more so you can live your life as a child instead of bringing another child into the world.I don't mean to be rude just being honest..Take care sweetie I hope you make the right choice yours and that babies sake..
having a baby just because you want someone to love you unconditionally is not a good idea, especially at 15.
what kind of quality of life will you be able to give him/her? with a part time job at a fast food joint, and no high school diploma - not a very good one, and he/she may grow up to resent you for that- and that is exactly the opposite of what your looking for. I'll save you the you're too Young to have children or to have sex blah blah whatever speech., and just tell you this
at 15 your life has barley started. you haven't even gotten the freedom of being able to get in your car and drive to wherever you want to go yet, and if you have a baby, you will never have that freedom. it will never ever again be about you. you get your pay check from work, and are at the mall and see a REALLY cute top that looks amazing on you, you love it and you want it so bad, then all of a sudden your 9 month old baby starts to cry because he needs to be changed, and you've just run out of diapers, bye bye cute top, hello jumbo pack of diapers. three years down the road, your 18, and get asked out on a date by a really cute, nice guy that you're really into, but you can't find a sitter, now you have to stay home with your three year old instead of going out with this boy who you really liked.
The way your family is treating you hurts, i get it. i've been there, the best choice you can make right now, is to go to your school guidance counsellor and talk about it. they aren't there to judge you. they will let you talk, and give you advice, its great to know that someone cares enough to listen. please do that before you decide to get pregnant.
let yourself live your life. wait until you've been old enough to legally get into a bar, to find a man who loves you, unconditionally no matter what, who you want to spend the rest of your life with to make a child out of love, not in order to be loved.
i hope you consider everything i've just told you. Good luck
Honey, you are wayy to young to have a child. I know you think you Trust me when i was 13 i wanted a child so bad so i babysat a baby. I was so tired.
Sweaty, you are too young to have a baby. A 15 years old's body the girl is not prepare to have a baby, is not well developed. A baby is a big responsibility, not a toy. You probably feel lonely, it will be better to have a puppy, they need to be adopted. Don't pay any attention to all those jack *** who tell you you will never find somebody that love you. Be patience there will be someone there that love will love you. A baby at this time would kill you, they get sick very often, you have to get up in the middle of the night, you have to change diaper. Why don't you concetrate more in going to school. Please don't do such a mistake. A friend of mine had a baby, she was raped at 13 and she never could have any more babies. The best thing is to get a puppy, they love unconditionally, there are many puppies waiting for you, tell your parent how do you feel. Maybe they don't know. You are too young and you will have all the time in the whole world to have a baby. Remember that God get something for you, just rely on him. I will pray for you that you change your mind. I'm also feel lonely, My mother left when I was 9 years old I lost my father when I was 18. My mother died, my uncle, my father, my young sister all after one. What woud I do with the baby at this time. The baby is not going to make you happy, believe me. Talk to the counseling at school and tell them how you feel. I hope every thing will work for you and you listen and love yourself first. May God bless you.
You have plenty of time to worry about babies. Dont have 1 while still in high school, at least wait til your 19. You dont need someone to love you yet, youre only 15. Since your thinking of babies dont go out having sex. Youre too young.
What should you do?
You should wait, before you have a baby, wait until you're financially stable, you've got all your qualifications and a job.
Yeah you want a baby now, but soon enough you'll want to go out places with hem, but when you have a baby, your freedom is restricted - especially at a young age.
There's numerous reasons why you shouldn't try for a baby at 14.
Don't listen to them, ofcourse somene will love you.
To be honest i am a guy that is 18 i know 2 very close friends of mine that are either have a child or are expecting. For one you are to young and i don't mean anything by it. I cant think of a single guy who would want or who has the mental capacity to care for a child even at my age so I am going to tell u what i should have told my friends.
If you do love the person you want to have a child with then marry them and wait about 2 years just to see if it will work then have a kid.
just just have a baby just to get away from your parents because that is your reasoning u may have not said it but from what u said about them that at lest has some factor on your decision.
im really sorry that your family tells you things like that. no one should ever be put down like that, i am really sorry.
but as for having babies i would really ask you to reconsider that. its really hard having a baby at a young age. i had a little girl when i was 18 and a senior in high school. it was so hard getting up really early every morning to feed her then going to school and coming back home to take care of her and do my homework, then i had college to worry about to. its really hard and if you dont have anyone there to help you then it makes it extra hard. i know you are feeling really sad and hurt right now, but really this isnt the way to make things better.
it was hard at my age, but i know it will be even harder at your age to have a baby. you are so young and can do so many things, dont worry about what your friends tell you or your family, prove them wrong and show them you can do whatever you set your mind to. i know you are a smart girl and you arent a mistake!!! always remember that!!! be strong and i know things will work out for you, if you need anyone to talk to email me okay.
Ask mommy and daddy for a puppy. You are not ready for a child.I am almost 15 and i want to have a baby really bad so any advice (im not a whore either).?
You are way too young to make this mistake so early in life
Do you know that Jesus loves you more than anything there is? You are his baby... you are so perfect and beautiful to Him!!
Let go of the hurt, ask Him into your heart and into your life. Ask Him to take away all of those feelings and fill you with the love you are needing.
God created you and has been with you for your whole life, waiting for you to ask Him into your heart so He can show you His love. He will be your best friend.
Pray to Him right now, it will feel so good. You are not a mistake, you never were and never will be. You were made to do something BIG in this world girl. Someday you WILL be a beautiful amazing mother! You can teach your child about Christianity and all God has done for this you. But that time is not right now, you are too young for a baby.
Pray to Him, let him take the pain and fill your heart with His love.
You are not as ready as you think you are. How much do you *really* know about taking care of a baby? Do you know how much it costs? Do you know how much time it would take? You would barely have time for school (if that) let alone time to do anything on your own.
Which means that you wouldn't have time to learn to drive. Which means you couldn't get your license. Nor could you have a real sweet sixteen. You can't throw a big party when you've got a baby to take care of.
Also, having a baby won't solve your problems It will only make things worse, because you'll have more to worry about. If you have problems with the way your family/friends treat you,let them know that you're offended or upset. Don't have a kid. It will change the rest of your life. And fifteen is a young age to be making those kinds of decisions.
And I'm not an adult trying to talk you out of this. I'm the same age as you are. Just... please thing about the consequences.
my advice is your friends and family are dicks and dont you are wayyy to young to have a baby.simple and blunt.
Those sound like incredibly selfish reasons to have a child. At the age of 'almost 15', you are still too young to have a child. I bet you don't even have a good-paying job yet. You should finish school and get the sufficient qualifications to get a good job. You should find someone that you love very much - enough to have the commitment of carrying and having their child. This can't be done at the age of 15. You have the rest of your life to have a baby - right now at your age, you should just be thinking about having fun and enjoying the rest of your youth!!
You are too young for a baby. The friends and family that tell you that you are a mistake and that nobody will ever love you are NOT nice people. You should ditch the friends that tell you that. Babies are a lot of work. Carrying a baby in your belly for nine months and throwing up every day of your pregnancy is not a good time. You should focus on finishing school. Most boys your age are only interested in getting in your pants. They do not care about you or love you the way you want to be loved. Do not let boys use you for sex and get you pregnant. You will be the one left responsible if you do get pregnant.
Your teen years are a very stressful time. It's normal to feel like you don't fit in. Try to develop self esteem and feel confident in yourself. Join a club at school and make some friends. You might be able to volunteer at a hospital in the baby ward. There will be plenty of time to have a baby when you are older and have finished school. Maybe you can get a job babysitting after school.
Everybody goes baby-crazy at one point in their life :)
Ask for a pet you're not ready for a baby and you won't be able to give it the best life you can right now and you wouldn't want that would you?
Start babysitting!
First, I'd like to say, **** all of these judgmental assholes who are telling you you can't do this. God, it pisses me off that people will bash anyone's ideas if they're a little different. You can do whatever you want to do..as long as you're willing to step up to the plate. As long as you're willing to be an adult, miss parties to babysit, get a job, all that mess. Also, you'd have to deal with people thinking that you ARE a whore
I'm 15 and preggo..and I have to say I am a bit excited. So, I understand where you're coming from. Just please please don't rush. I have a boyfriend who I know loves me and I love him. And I know that even if we break up, he'll help me with the baby. That's so important - you can't do it alone. And there's a lot of issues with children without fathers. So think really hard about it.
If you find a boyfriend, and when you fall in love, think about this again. Talk to him about it, first. (And don't trick yourself into thinking you love him if you don't.)
To summarize:
1. Babies are amazing things, but they also suck. So think hard.
2. You NEED support..find a good and loyal guy.
3. Be ready to step up..and defnitely do some research. There's a lot of risks involved in young pregnancy. I'm so scared. 0_o
Good luck. Hope you make the right decision.
having a baby is not the solution to all your problems. you should probally talk to your parents. and if you have a baby you're just going to have pay the price of being a teenage mom. enjoy your life like other 15 year olds.
Clearly you are not stable. Why bring a child into this world? You are not ready! You haven't even mention a boyfriend! And a 15 you can barely get a good job. I mean you can't even drive, yet!
if you want someone to love, having a baby isn't the answer. Look for a very nice guy who will treats you well and that's how you'll find love. Don't have kid this young, then it will change you life and possibly ruin it, if they are your friends, then they wouldn't tell you those stuff. Everyone finds love, just got a look for it. :)
You are retarted
its not true. but a baby is a lot of hard work. and love doesnt by the baby food and a home. i know how much you want a baby and i understand. but im 17 and i have a 3 year old. hes a lot of work. you may want to wait until you have a good job and an education. and your own home. i wish you the best in your disition making
Yes, bringing a child into this world can be wonderful, and it is a blessing from God...
but the reality is that it's really hard... yes there's unconditional love for that baby, that doesn't make it easy, it's a huge responsibliy.
it's okay to think about because one day you'll have one...
but thats in the future.
should focus on your studies, so one day you can provide for your child...But your only 15, i'm not critising you, this is perfectly normal.
But just wait.
you'll know one day when the time is right.
;-)
Baby sit or adopt a sweet little dog or cat from an animal shelter. Saving the life of an animal is a much wiser decision than bringing a baby into existence when you're so young and unprepared and...just not ready.
I'm not going to tell you the obvious things. You'll get enough of that.
but think about it.
- your baby is not capable of ';loving';. babies do not know how to love so do not have a baby because you think that he or she will love you back.
- your baby will get made fun of when he or she is older because their ';friends'; will realize how young you are and you will known as a whore.
- your classmate will think your a whore.
- your parents will be disappointed in you.
- the baby will most likely not have a committed dad or will any boy want to have a baby with you at the age of 14
That's gotta be the worst reason to havea child.
The child may love you, but you already are unprepared to love it if you are only wanting it to fill a void in your life. You can't take care of a child the best at age 14. You need to wait until you are
a) over this need of someone to love
b) have a loving husband
c) able to financially provide for a baby.
Like the first answer said, get a puppy.
P.s. You should also be vary wary of the guys you end up dating, because this need of yours to want to be loved so badly can very easily end you up in an abusive relationship. Go buy the book ';but i love him'; by Dr. Jill Murrayso you'll be able to recognize the warning signs..
i feel the same way, but im not crazy and want to have a kid. go on neopets or something take care of a virtual baby, your immaturity shows that you are clearly not ready to take care of something
I'm 15 too and yeah, frankly, anyone our age is too young to have a baby, but i know what you mean. One of the reasons that teenage girls have babies is because they want that feeling and security of an unconditional love, and they aren't getting it from a parent or a friend or a boyfriend, and it sucks. but its no reason to get pregnant and stop yourself from doing wonderful things the rest of your life. What i would do is find a regular part-time babysitting job, or even offer to do it for free. Then you get to spend 2 or 3 days a week with a baby/toddler, while helping out the mother, and most parents wont object to free babysitting :) also, i work in nursery on sundays, it helps me get my ';baby-fill'; b/c you get to smile and play and cuddle for an hr or two and then you get to give it back.
Hope this helped :)
How much will your child love you when your living in a box on the streets?
You do realize if you have a child you will have to drop out of school, and you won't be able to get a job right?
And don't think anyone is going to want to help you, they will all think your just a teenage mother, they won't want you.
1. You are not the 'Age of Consent', anywhere, on earth. Which means, you would allowing yourself to be raped(Statutory Rape).
2. Having a baby for the reason of wanting to be loved is ABSOLUTELY SELFISH
What are you thinking having a child will bring you love but it also brings alot more then that.No matter what anyone tells you its up to you to believe in yourself and not be brought down to levels like wanting a baby so that you can be loved.How will you support the baby because believe you me public assistance doesn't do crap how will you finish school because it sounds to me like you don't have a supportive family there is waaaaay more to being a parent and being 15 you don't know the half of it Im 27 and its still hard for me. I have witnessed teen pregnancy and the negativity that comes along with it it may seem that you really want it and that they are cute and love able and blah blah blah but the actuality is that its another human being just like you and needs to have not just a young mom but both parents that are stable enough to take care of it.Before you go trying to actually make this baby you really need to think about the long term and not just whats going right now. I hope you see that you have more then enough time to have a baby just take care of yourself and make sure that you grow up a little more so you can live your life as a child instead of bringing another child into the world.I don't mean to be rude just being honest..Take care sweetie I hope you make the right choice yours and that babies sake..
having a baby just because you want someone to love you unconditionally is not a good idea, especially at 15.
what kind of quality of life will you be able to give him/her? with a part time job at a fast food joint, and no high school diploma - not a very good one, and he/she may grow up to resent you for that- and that is exactly the opposite of what your looking for. I'll save you the you're too Young to have children or to have sex blah blah whatever speech., and just tell you this
at 15 your life has barley started. you haven't even gotten the freedom of being able to get in your car and drive to wherever you want to go yet, and if you have a baby, you will never have that freedom. it will never ever again be about you. you get your pay check from work, and are at the mall and see a REALLY cute top that looks amazing on you, you love it and you want it so bad, then all of a sudden your 9 month old baby starts to cry because he needs to be changed, and you've just run out of diapers, bye bye cute top, hello jumbo pack of diapers. three years down the road, your 18, and get asked out on a date by a really cute, nice guy that you're really into, but you can't find a sitter, now you have to stay home with your three year old instead of going out with this boy who you really liked.
The way your family is treating you hurts, i get it. i've been there, the best choice you can make right now, is to go to your school guidance counsellor and talk about it. they aren't there to judge you. they will let you talk, and give you advice, its great to know that someone cares enough to listen. please do that before you decide to get pregnant.
let yourself live your life. wait until you've been old enough to legally get into a bar, to find a man who loves you, unconditionally no matter what, who you want to spend the rest of your life with to make a child out of love, not in order to be loved.
i hope you consider everything i've just told you. Good luck
Honey, you are wayy to young to have a child. I know you think you Trust me when i was 13 i wanted a child so bad so i babysat a baby. I was so tired.
Sweaty, you are too young to have a baby. A 15 years old's body the girl is not prepare to have a baby, is not well developed. A baby is a big responsibility, not a toy. You probably feel lonely, it will be better to have a puppy, they need to be adopted. Don't pay any attention to all those jack *** who tell you you will never find somebody that love you. Be patience there will be someone there that love will love you. A baby at this time would kill you, they get sick very often, you have to get up in the middle of the night, you have to change diaper. Why don't you concetrate more in going to school. Please don't do such a mistake. A friend of mine had a baby, she was raped at 13 and she never could have any more babies. The best thing is to get a puppy, they love unconditionally, there are many puppies waiting for you, tell your parent how do you feel. Maybe they don't know. You are too young and you will have all the time in the whole world to have a baby. Remember that God get something for you, just rely on him. I will pray for you that you change your mind. I'm also feel lonely, My mother left when I was 9 years old I lost my father when I was 18. My mother died, my uncle, my father, my young sister all after one. What woud I do with the baby at this time. The baby is not going to make you happy, believe me. Talk to the counseling at school and tell them how you feel. I hope every thing will work for you and you listen and love yourself first. May God bless you.
You have plenty of time to worry about babies. Dont have 1 while still in high school, at least wait til your 19. You dont need someone to love you yet, youre only 15. Since your thinking of babies dont go out having sex. Youre too young.
What should you do?
You should wait, before you have a baby, wait until you're financially stable, you've got all your qualifications and a job.
Yeah you want a baby now, but soon enough you'll want to go out places with hem, but when you have a baby, your freedom is restricted - especially at a young age.
There's numerous reasons why you shouldn't try for a baby at 14.
Don't listen to them, ofcourse somene will love you.
To be honest i am a guy that is 18 i know 2 very close friends of mine that are either have a child or are expecting. For one you are to young and i don't mean anything by it. I cant think of a single guy who would want or who has the mental capacity to care for a child even at my age so I am going to tell u what i should have told my friends.
If you do love the person you want to have a child with then marry them and wait about 2 years just to see if it will work then have a kid.
just just have a baby just to get away from your parents because that is your reasoning u may have not said it but from what u said about them that at lest has some factor on your decision.
im really sorry that your family tells you things like that. no one should ever be put down like that, i am really sorry.
but as for having babies i would really ask you to reconsider that. its really hard having a baby at a young age. i had a little girl when i was 18 and a senior in high school. it was so hard getting up really early every morning to feed her then going to school and coming back home to take care of her and do my homework, then i had college to worry about to. its really hard and if you dont have anyone there to help you then it makes it extra hard. i know you are feeling really sad and hurt right now, but really this isnt the way to make things better.
it was hard at my age, but i know it will be even harder at your age to have a baby. you are so young and can do so many things, dont worry about what your friends tell you or your family, prove them wrong and show them you can do whatever you set your mind to. i know you are a smart girl and you arent a mistake!!! always remember that!!! be strong and i know things will work out for you, if you need anyone to talk to email me okay.
I think my girlfriend likes me more than I like her. What do I do? Is this bad? Advice?
Honestly, the person in the relationship that likes the other less has the most power.
It's up to you how you choose to use that power.I think my girlfriend likes me more than I like her. What do I do? Is this bad? Advice?
Definitely bad. It may be time to cool things down between the two of you if she has bigger plans for your relationship than you do.
Then again- maybe she feels the same way about you, or is more expressive with her feelings than you are.
Best thing you can do is sit her down and talk with her. Make sure you two are on the same page as far as the relationship is concerned, and that she isn't expecting more than you are willing to give.
Good luck..I think my girlfriend likes me more than I like her. What do I do? Is this bad? Advice?
get to know who she really is as a human being, get to know deeper emotional things about her and you will create an attachment of understanding. Sometimes girls go a little crazy when they have a boyfriend and start acting kind of obsessive. It'll dwindle down with time but enjoy it while it lasts because if you get rid of her, you will feel really lonely.
Ask for some time apart or to yourself. Maybe tell her that. Have a clear understanding of your relationship between both of you.
this could be bad if you plan to break up with her
talk to her and tell her that she shouldn't obsess over her
and i feel as though i like my boyfriend more than he likes me...stop pimples
It's up to you how you choose to use that power.I think my girlfriend likes me more than I like her. What do I do? Is this bad? Advice?
Definitely bad. It may be time to cool things down between the two of you if she has bigger plans for your relationship than you do.
Then again- maybe she feels the same way about you, or is more expressive with her feelings than you are.
Best thing you can do is sit her down and talk with her. Make sure you two are on the same page as far as the relationship is concerned, and that she isn't expecting more than you are willing to give.
Good luck..I think my girlfriend likes me more than I like her. What do I do? Is this bad? Advice?
get to know who she really is as a human being, get to know deeper emotional things about her and you will create an attachment of understanding. Sometimes girls go a little crazy when they have a boyfriend and start acting kind of obsessive. It'll dwindle down with time but enjoy it while it lasts because if you get rid of her, you will feel really lonely.
Ask for some time apart or to yourself. Maybe tell her that. Have a clear understanding of your relationship between both of you.
this could be bad if you plan to break up with her
talk to her and tell her that she shouldn't obsess over her
and i feel as though i like my boyfriend more than he likes me...
Do you ever intentionally give bad advice?
i do because its funnyDo you ever intentionally give bad advice?
Shame on you! Tsk Tsk. Tsk When I read the question, I took a personal inventory figuring there must have been a time when I had intentionally given bad advice. I must report that I never have, to my recollection. Now this inventory exercise gave me a feeling of goodness and satisfaction, which lasted about 2 minutes... Almost instantly I provided myself with the reason for not being a ';bad advice giver';. I love to give advice. And more importantly, I want to be correct when I do it. My ego would never allow me the freedom to mess around like that. I was immediately thrown into despair. Why can't I control my own life, Damn it!Do you ever intentionally give bad advice?
Absolutely not as I care about people!
No...never, not intentionally anyway!
No. Thats not nice.
Shame on you! Tsk Tsk. Tsk When I read the question, I took a personal inventory figuring there must have been a time when I had intentionally given bad advice. I must report that I never have, to my recollection. Now this inventory exercise gave me a feeling of goodness and satisfaction, which lasted about 2 minutes... Almost instantly I provided myself with the reason for not being a ';bad advice giver';. I love to give advice. And more importantly, I want to be correct when I do it. My ego would never allow me the freedom to mess around like that. I was immediately thrown into despair. Why can't I control my own life, Damn it!Do you ever intentionally give bad advice?
Absolutely not as I care about people!
No...never, not intentionally anyway!
No. Thats not nice.
Have you ever taken any bad advice on Y!A?
no never doHave you ever taken any bad advice on Y!A?
not sure what you mean, do you mean have i taken notice of bad advice? well no cause i always double check, but i suppose if you dont check you could end up in trouble. if i answer i always make sure i am giving the correct advice, by counter checking, in sites or getting a book out to make sure, but i am not sure other people take that amount of trouble. my advice is do not believe all you read on yahoo, because often its only someone elses opinion. check it out, lolHave you ever taken any bad advice on Y!A?
Actually no, I know bad advice when I see or read it.
No, but I've seen bad advice given out many times.
No i dont read bad stuff cuase i cant.
yea jerk faces this is a community for right answers!
no:)
YES and I want my money back........uh what
not sure what you mean, do you mean have i taken notice of bad advice? well no cause i always double check, but i suppose if you dont check you could end up in trouble. if i answer i always make sure i am giving the correct advice, by counter checking, in sites or getting a book out to make sure, but i am not sure other people take that amount of trouble. my advice is do not believe all you read on yahoo, because often its only someone elses opinion. check it out, lolHave you ever taken any bad advice on Y!A?
Actually no, I know bad advice when I see or read it.
No, but I've seen bad advice given out many times.
No i dont read bad stuff cuase i cant.
yea jerk faces this is a community for right answers!
no:)
YES and I want my money back........uh what
Have you ever given bad advice on purpose?
only on here
OK OK and to my sister in law, but come on she is meanHave you ever given bad advice on purpose?
yea. there was this 14 year old girl who WANTED to have a baby so i told her to. i know, im a horrible evil person. muahaha!Have you ever given bad advice on purpose?
Someone learned the hard way not to insult me and then ask me how to do something.....
Peace.
if there really pigheaded i tell them the truth and sometimes that hurts more than anything
yes,,, gotta do what you gotta do to get the ';W';
That Rhymes lol
depends on situation
Yes.
no but apparently all advice i give is bad
I don't think so. lol.
But mebe.
:)
nope
no
yeah....
no, but that would be mean
OK OK and to my sister in law, but come on she is meanHave you ever given bad advice on purpose?
yea. there was this 14 year old girl who WANTED to have a baby so i told her to. i know, im a horrible evil person. muahaha!Have you ever given bad advice on purpose?
Someone learned the hard way not to insult me and then ask me how to do something.....
Peace.
if there really pigheaded i tell them the truth and sometimes that hurts more than anything
yes,,, gotta do what you gotta do to get the ';W';
That Rhymes lol
depends on situation
Yes.
no but apparently all advice i give is bad
I don't think so. lol.
But mebe.
:)
nope
no
yeah....
no, but that would be mean
Just asking so I can give other people this advice but..What is the best way to get rid of bad breath?
First, know where the bad breath comes from. If it is from the mouth, then try and practice superior oral hygiene (regular brushing, flossing and scraping of tongue) and using effective dental products. So if your bad breath is still there, try and consult your dentist because it may be chronic or a sign of something wrong with your health. Whatever the cause, best to find a cure for it quick than wait for the consequences.Just asking so I can give other people this advice but..What is the best way to get rid of bad breath?
the best thing to do is to build up the best defense which is saliva. keeping the mouth hydrated and salivated can keep bad bacteria at minimum, which is the cause of bad breath. having a good program of dental and oral hygiene can keep the mouth clean and healthy. visit you dentist to ask for proper advice and treatments. for more tip in eliminating bad breath visit http://www.oramd.comJust asking so I can give other people this advice but..What is the best way to get rid of bad breath?
clean your teeth regularly, brush your tongue and use a mouthwash
Bad breath is caused often because you haven't brushed and flossed well .If you don't keep teeth and gums free of the bacterial buildup, they'll start to cause odor as the bacteria rot leftover food particles in your mouth. A few seeds of cardamom chewed for a brief while will clear your mouth of bad breath. Chew parsley leaves,which are sure to keep your breath fresh. More useful remedies at http://useinfo5.blogspot.com/
brush teeth and tounge, flossing is good too, you can also try chewing some gum after you smoke (if you're a smoker), drinking a tall glass of water after you eat sometimes gets my food down so i dont taste it when i'm breathing. ALSO sometimes bad breath CAN be a stomach problem. there is also toothpaste out now specifically for bad morning breath.
hoped that helped.
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It covers effective homes remedies for curing bad breath, gum disease and allied problems.
the best thing to do is to build up the best defense which is saliva. keeping the mouth hydrated and salivated can keep bad bacteria at minimum, which is the cause of bad breath. having a good program of dental and oral hygiene can keep the mouth clean and healthy. visit you dentist to ask for proper advice and treatments. for more tip in eliminating bad breath visit http://www.oramd.comJust asking so I can give other people this advice but..What is the best way to get rid of bad breath?
clean your teeth regularly, brush your tongue and use a mouthwash
Bad breath is caused often because you haven't brushed and flossed well .If you don't keep teeth and gums free of the bacterial buildup, they'll start to cause odor as the bacteria rot leftover food particles in your mouth. A few seeds of cardamom chewed for a brief while will clear your mouth of bad breath. Chew parsley leaves,which are sure to keep your breath fresh. More useful remedies at http://useinfo5.blogspot.com/
brush teeth and tounge, flossing is good too, you can also try chewing some gum after you smoke (if you're a smoker), drinking a tall glass of water after you eat sometimes gets my food down so i dont taste it when i'm breathing. ALSO sometimes bad breath CAN be a stomach problem. there is also toothpaste out now specifically for bad morning breath.
hoped that helped.
http://badbreathhomeremedies.blogspot.co鈥?/a>
It covers effective homes remedies for curing bad breath, gum disease and allied problems.
Do you think it should be ILLEGAL for an attorney to give out wrong or bad advice and still get paid for it!?
I dont get paid if I dont Fix my clients radars and equip on their Yachts,I cant just look at the guy and charge him for failure, Most owners/captains will just throw me off the boat if I did that,Wht should attorneys be any different!!Do you think it should be ILLEGAL for an attorney to give out wrong or bad advice and still get paid for it!?
Barristral Immunity is becoming a issue: In commonwealth countries there is a tendency to say no immunity in civil cases in negligent preparation. The real issue is that : whether it would run the risk of double jeopardy. Its very hard to see the differences between a lawyer and other professional persons. Again this is a negligence issue and there is a general shift away from such immunity. Personally I'm all for it, not because its fair but because I'm a law student and it is in my best interest to keep it.Do you think it should be ILLEGAL for an attorney to give out wrong or bad advice and still get paid for it!?
Yes because an attorney should be honest. If the information is wrong and does not help you, you should not have to pay for it.
You're damn right.
Uuuummmm,I'm still 13...I dont really know bout those things..lol..i know what u thinking,';If ur 13 and cant answer this,y did u click on this question???';..lol..right?
But I am mostly doin this just 'cause I am bored I guess,but now that I think of it,I guess i just wanna do this to get on yo nerves..lol
Bush doesn't lose his salary for giving wrong advice and making wrong decisions, so how can you do it to a lawyer, whose decisions do not throw the whole world into turmoil?
Actually, attorneys are in a pretty tight spot when it comes to bad advice, bad advocacy, etc.
There is a two-inch-thick manual of ABA Approved Rules of Professional Conduct for Lawyers that includes rules about diligence, competency, giving bad advice, etc. If any of these rules are breached, a lawyer could be reported by a client or fellow lawyer to the state bar association. If the association's review turns up evidence that the lawyer in question is guilty of bad lawyering, he or she could very well be disbarred for his or her conduct.
The threat of being disbarred (and there are so many ways to be disbarred) keeps a lawyer on alert about what sort advice he or she is giving and whether or not the lawyer is doing everything is his or her legal power to fight for his client.
If you share a client-attorney relationship with an attorney and you give him a retainer for a legal task, and he performs that task below the standards he should or give grossly bad advice, then you should consider reporting him to his firm or the state bar association.
well they shouldn't, but where do you go to complain ,an other lawyer? they all in bed together. they cover for each other for free and know all the loop holes ,so you could not win anyway. sad isn't it...
can you prove someones advise isnt sincere,could you find a lawyer to represent that to thew courts
Barristral Immunity is becoming a issue: In commonwealth countries there is a tendency to say no immunity in civil cases in negligent preparation. The real issue is that : whether it would run the risk of double jeopardy. Its very hard to see the differences between a lawyer and other professional persons. Again this is a negligence issue and there is a general shift away from such immunity. Personally I'm all for it, not because its fair but because I'm a law student and it is in my best interest to keep it.Do you think it should be ILLEGAL for an attorney to give out wrong or bad advice and still get paid for it!?
Yes because an attorney should be honest. If the information is wrong and does not help you, you should not have to pay for it.
You're damn right.
Uuuummmm,I'm still 13...I dont really know bout those things..lol..i know what u thinking,';If ur 13 and cant answer this,y did u click on this question???';..lol..right?
But I am mostly doin this just 'cause I am bored I guess,but now that I think of it,I guess i just wanna do this to get on yo nerves..lol
Bush doesn't lose his salary for giving wrong advice and making wrong decisions, so how can you do it to a lawyer, whose decisions do not throw the whole world into turmoil?
Actually, attorneys are in a pretty tight spot when it comes to bad advice, bad advocacy, etc.
There is a two-inch-thick manual of ABA Approved Rules of Professional Conduct for Lawyers that includes rules about diligence, competency, giving bad advice, etc. If any of these rules are breached, a lawyer could be reported by a client or fellow lawyer to the state bar association. If the association's review turns up evidence that the lawyer in question is guilty of bad lawyering, he or she could very well be disbarred for his or her conduct.
The threat of being disbarred (and there are so many ways to be disbarred) keeps a lawyer on alert about what sort advice he or she is giving and whether or not the lawyer is doing everything is his or her legal power to fight for his client.
If you share a client-attorney relationship with an attorney and you give him a retainer for a legal task, and he performs that task below the standards he should or give grossly bad advice, then you should consider reporting him to his firm or the state bar association.
well they shouldn't, but where do you go to complain ,an other lawyer? they all in bed together. they cover for each other for free and know all the loop holes ,so you could not win anyway. sad isn't it...
can you prove someones advise isnt sincere,could you find a lawyer to represent that to thew courts
Did i give bad advice?
i told a dear friend that is being abused by her husband to go to a womens shelter. is it just shelter for awhile, or do they have real resources to help? and is she really safe there?Did i give bad advice?
No! You gave her some good sound advise.
Yes she will get the resources for help and she will be safe as long as you don't tell her husband where she is.Did i give bad advice?
Well she'd be safer there than w/ her husband! U did the right thing, I think so anyways :)
I don't know about all shelters. Different shelter probably are different from the other. But .. after the shelter, then what ??
GOOGLE the hotline help lines for abuse. They may be of assistance.
No you gave her the best advice you could and hopefully everything will work of for her.
the shelters are great..They do help..well it depends on the one you go to..But 9 times out of 10 they give alot of help...tell your friend to keep her head up...good luck
no, i beleive that you avice was good. a woman should never have to put up with that. and yes, womens shelters have resources. they can help her get on her feet, give her support , all kinds of beneificial things. just make sure that the shelter offfers those things, most do. so God bless.
you gave good advice but its up to her to take the advice or not
You told her the right thing. She is safe there and they can help her. They know where all of the resources are and can tell her what to do.
no that is great advice... the refuge will give her protection, support and all the necessary advise and counselling to help her physically and emotionally, they will give her all the assistance she needs to move on with her life...stop pimples
No! You gave her some good sound advise.
Yes she will get the resources for help and she will be safe as long as you don't tell her husband where she is.Did i give bad advice?
Well she'd be safer there than w/ her husband! U did the right thing, I think so anyways :)
I don't know about all shelters. Different shelter probably are different from the other. But .. after the shelter, then what ??
GOOGLE the hotline help lines for abuse. They may be of assistance.
No you gave her the best advice you could and hopefully everything will work of for her.
the shelters are great..They do help..well it depends on the one you go to..But 9 times out of 10 they give alot of help...tell your friend to keep her head up...good luck
no, i beleive that you avice was good. a woman should never have to put up with that. and yes, womens shelters have resources. they can help her get on her feet, give her support , all kinds of beneificial things. just make sure that the shelter offfers those things, most do. so God bless.
you gave good advice but its up to her to take the advice or not
You told her the right thing. She is safe there and they can help her. They know where all of the resources are and can tell her what to do.
no that is great advice... the refuge will give her protection, support and all the necessary advise and counselling to help her physically and emotionally, they will give her all the assistance she needs to move on with her life...
I hurt my back really bad, any advice?
I lifted my 35lb sister yesterday and pulled a muscle. It wasn't bad @ the time, but now its just extrememly painful. Last night i was laying in my bed and i sat up and i believe i pulled another muscle. i couln't sleep @ all. I had to lay flat on my back which is not comforatble for me, and i tried pain relievers, hot bath, heating pad, ice pack, the whole 9 yards. It hurts to breathe and i can hardly move. Any advice @ all? I'm willing to try anything now.I hurt my back really bad, any advice?
Ice - 20 minutes on - 20 minutes off continue for a couple of days and Ibprofen - 2 every 4 - 6 hours. Your muscle is inflamed - Ibprofen is an anti-inflamatory. Pain pills only mask it - not cure it.I hurt my back really bad, any advice?
Dude all I can say is that just try noo to move i mean if you pulled probably two muscles last night i mean i pulled a leg muscle in weightlifting and ya i put icyhot oon it and some thermalcare patches that helped me maybe you should try it..and pobably move around a lil bit i mean i told you not to but just try mooving a lil bit but not way too much and if it keeps hurting the next few days then go to the doctor's office and see wat he says it could b more serious than wat u expect it is right now...
take care girl
love ya like a sis
-skittlez
It definately sounds like you pulled a muscle in your lower back when you lifted your sister. There is a chance that when you sat up last night, you overcompensated for your back and possibly pulled a chest muscle or a muscle in your side that would cause you to have the difficulty with your breathing. If you can feel a swollen area, chances are you have herniated a disc, the disc slipped out of place or its possible that you pulled a muscle near a disc. You will need a steroid (prednisone) to relieve this swelling if ice doesn't help. You could try alternating ice for 30 minutes then heat for 30 minutes. Don't put any creams on your back if you are going to be using ice or heat. If there is an urgent care clinic near you, you could go in and they will likely test to see how far you can bend, etc and probably do xrays. Your family doctor will most likely want xrays as well. He/she will probably give you prednisone, a muscle relaxant and pain medication. The best thing you can do til you get treatment is taking Advil and trying the alternating heat/ice. If you have someone that could possibly massage your back after you have put the ice on, this would help with any spasms that you may be having. To sleep, try a recliner in the semi-reclined position or lying on your side with a pillow between your knees to help relieve any pressure on your back. You could rub your back with witch hazel before having someone try to massage it, this will also numb it for a bit. Good Luck!
chiropractor definitely!!!
go to the doctor see what they say.....also try to just relax the muscle thats really all you can do
OK... here's the test. Do you have a sharp pain going down either leg? If you do, it's bad news. It means you have damaged a disc. You need to see a neurosurgeon right away. Don't freak, it doesn't mean you'll have surgery. There are a lot of treatments other than surgery. But you DO need to get it taken care of - and quick. If you don't have burning going down either leg, then ice on and off at 20 minute intervals, and get in to see your family dr. as soon as possible. You will probably get muscle relaxers and some pain meds to get you throuhg it in that case.
A muscle relaxant medication might help, but you need to see a doctor for relief.
Go to the doctor
Go to a chiropractor that has a good reputation. He/She will put your back into place and the pain should go away immediately. They charge about $80-$100 for initial xrays and office visits about $25 if uninsured. If insured should cost you maybe $3 a visit. Traditional doctor will give you Vicadin which takes the pain away but cost a heck of a lot more. An ex girlfriend of mine used to be an Army medic and would take her fingers in the small of my back and push until I felt a crack. Then all was good.
I had a chymopapain injection when young and that worked too but off work for 3 months as it was a severly herniated disc. Pain would shoot down my leg. I also used to stoop down and that relieved the pain or curl up in a fetal position to sleep.
its only obvious wat u should do. u should go see a chiropractor
I agree with everyone else. If you've tried everything, go see a chiropractor. If you choose not to, don't walk much and try not to lift anything heavy.
Good luck.
Go see your primary care physician and have him/her refer you to a physical therapist. In the mean time, put a cold pack on it for 20 min every three hours. No heat unless a medical professional instructs you to do so. The above answer about the ibuprophen is good, too.
try using one of those icy hot pads if u don't have one u can purchase them from cvs if that doesn't work see a doctor
honestly you should probably see a doctor. in the mean time you should use heat for about 10 minutes the cool for 10 minutes, and try to keep the muscles loose but do not move more than would hurt. Also don't lift anything. I did this once and I understand what you mean, I got some athletic bandage and wrapped my lower back and stomache to immobilize as much as possible. But by all means go to a doctor, the back is a bad thing to hurt.
go to a chiropractor they can help....best of luck....i know how that feels....God bless.
A good orgasm will help you.
rest %26amp; see a doctor! Maybe see if there's an urgent care nearby who you can see today or tomorrow
go see a chiropractor................
Back pain is one of the most debilitating things in life, you could have seriously injured your back %26amp; I would advise you to see a doctor asap so they can take x-rays. You could have just pulled a muscle, have a pinched nerve, slipped disc, or any number of things.
Try IcyHot. I love that stuff. If it still hurts really bad though I would go to the Emergency Room or consult your Dr. They may be able to prescribe something to make you more comfortable until it gets better. If it hurts to breathe you may have really hurt yourself and should get professional help asap.
stay away from chiro's unless you are rich. take ibuprofen as directed non-stop for two weeks, and tyenol for pain. icy hot patches ( the cheap wal mart brand) help alot. I've been like this for 10 years, but I keep working.
Go to a doctor. That'll be the best solution.
Good luck!
You said it happened only yesterday, putting heat on pulled muscles in the first 72 hours only makes the injury worse, ice only for 20 mins. every 3 hours. Back injuries are always painful as you can't do anything without using your back muscles %26amp; all they want to do is relax, so relax them as much as possible. Don't let anyone talk you into any abrasive massages, ( you wouldn't like to be bashed around if you were in pain %26amp; neither does your muscles ), gentle massage is therapy, %26amp; oh if you are in that much pain please go see your doctor even if only for x-rays to be safe. Good luck I hope you get better soon, by for know.
heat soothes the pain, but you need to rotate between heat and cold (ice packs work best). The cold takes away the inflamation in the muscles. you have do hot/cold trtmt: 15min on /15 min off for each.
chiropractics also helps. (i wrecked myback once at work helping a 280lb cp client out of the tub) when i went to the chiropactor i was surprised how much one tight mucle could throw off other things. my spasm was so tight it caused me to lean to oneside which caused pressure on that side and my adrenal gland, this left me achy and fatigued. A few hot/cold trtmts, massages and adjustments helped way more than the physical therapy prescribed by my doctor.
G E T W E L L S O O N !
Try going to a chiropractor.
Pay special attention to the advice from JeannieMalinda on up the board. Her advice is right on target. My husband has DDD (degenerative disc disease) and has had two back surgeries (thank God he has an excellent neurosurgeon). She is right when she says if you have pain or a burning sensation radiating down either or both legs, it's bad news - my husband had that type of pain before his two surgeries. Go see your doctor as soon as possible so that you can be properly diagnosed. He will probably do X-rays, and possibly an MRI. You may only have (if you're lucky) pulled or strained a muscle. In that case ice will help reduce the pain and swelling. Stay away from a chiropractor until you have been properly diagnosed by a medical doctor. In my husband's case, his medical doctor told him that with his type of back problems, if he were to be treated by a chiropractor, he could easily become paralyzed. So be careful. Better safe than sorry. Good luck to you.
Plenty of rest, plenty of pain relief (follow the instructions in the pack) and a doctor.
You may have herniated a disk, you need to seek medical attention/advice and be properly diagnosed. There's a big difference between a pulled muscle and a herniated disk and how they are treated.
go to the chiropractor if that dont work then go to the doctors
Ice - 20 minutes on - 20 minutes off continue for a couple of days and Ibprofen - 2 every 4 - 6 hours. Your muscle is inflamed - Ibprofen is an anti-inflamatory. Pain pills only mask it - not cure it.I hurt my back really bad, any advice?
Dude all I can say is that just try noo to move i mean if you pulled probably two muscles last night i mean i pulled a leg muscle in weightlifting and ya i put icyhot oon it and some thermalcare patches that helped me maybe you should try it..and pobably move around a lil bit i mean i told you not to but just try mooving a lil bit but not way too much and if it keeps hurting the next few days then go to the doctor's office and see wat he says it could b more serious than wat u expect it is right now...
take care girl
love ya like a sis
-skittlez
It definately sounds like you pulled a muscle in your lower back when you lifted your sister. There is a chance that when you sat up last night, you overcompensated for your back and possibly pulled a chest muscle or a muscle in your side that would cause you to have the difficulty with your breathing. If you can feel a swollen area, chances are you have herniated a disc, the disc slipped out of place or its possible that you pulled a muscle near a disc. You will need a steroid (prednisone) to relieve this swelling if ice doesn't help. You could try alternating ice for 30 minutes then heat for 30 minutes. Don't put any creams on your back if you are going to be using ice or heat. If there is an urgent care clinic near you, you could go in and they will likely test to see how far you can bend, etc and probably do xrays. Your family doctor will most likely want xrays as well. He/she will probably give you prednisone, a muscle relaxant and pain medication. The best thing you can do til you get treatment is taking Advil and trying the alternating heat/ice. If you have someone that could possibly massage your back after you have put the ice on, this would help with any spasms that you may be having. To sleep, try a recliner in the semi-reclined position or lying on your side with a pillow between your knees to help relieve any pressure on your back. You could rub your back with witch hazel before having someone try to massage it, this will also numb it for a bit. Good Luck!
chiropractor definitely!!!
go to the doctor see what they say.....also try to just relax the muscle thats really all you can do
OK... here's the test. Do you have a sharp pain going down either leg? If you do, it's bad news. It means you have damaged a disc. You need to see a neurosurgeon right away. Don't freak, it doesn't mean you'll have surgery. There are a lot of treatments other than surgery. But you DO need to get it taken care of - and quick. If you don't have burning going down either leg, then ice on and off at 20 minute intervals, and get in to see your family dr. as soon as possible. You will probably get muscle relaxers and some pain meds to get you throuhg it in that case.
A muscle relaxant medication might help, but you need to see a doctor for relief.
Go to the doctor
Go to a chiropractor that has a good reputation. He/She will put your back into place and the pain should go away immediately. They charge about $80-$100 for initial xrays and office visits about $25 if uninsured. If insured should cost you maybe $3 a visit. Traditional doctor will give you Vicadin which takes the pain away but cost a heck of a lot more. An ex girlfriend of mine used to be an Army medic and would take her fingers in the small of my back and push until I felt a crack. Then all was good.
I had a chymopapain injection when young and that worked too but off work for 3 months as it was a severly herniated disc. Pain would shoot down my leg. I also used to stoop down and that relieved the pain or curl up in a fetal position to sleep.
its only obvious wat u should do. u should go see a chiropractor
I agree with everyone else. If you've tried everything, go see a chiropractor. If you choose not to, don't walk much and try not to lift anything heavy.
Good luck.
Go see your primary care physician and have him/her refer you to a physical therapist. In the mean time, put a cold pack on it for 20 min every three hours. No heat unless a medical professional instructs you to do so. The above answer about the ibuprophen is good, too.
try using one of those icy hot pads if u don't have one u can purchase them from cvs if that doesn't work see a doctor
honestly you should probably see a doctor. in the mean time you should use heat for about 10 minutes the cool for 10 minutes, and try to keep the muscles loose but do not move more than would hurt. Also don't lift anything. I did this once and I understand what you mean, I got some athletic bandage and wrapped my lower back and stomache to immobilize as much as possible. But by all means go to a doctor, the back is a bad thing to hurt.
go to a chiropractor they can help....best of luck....i know how that feels....God bless.
A good orgasm will help you.
rest %26amp; see a doctor! Maybe see if there's an urgent care nearby who you can see today or tomorrow
go see a chiropractor................
Back pain is one of the most debilitating things in life, you could have seriously injured your back %26amp; I would advise you to see a doctor asap so they can take x-rays. You could have just pulled a muscle, have a pinched nerve, slipped disc, or any number of things.
Try IcyHot. I love that stuff. If it still hurts really bad though I would go to the Emergency Room or consult your Dr. They may be able to prescribe something to make you more comfortable until it gets better. If it hurts to breathe you may have really hurt yourself and should get professional help asap.
stay away from chiro's unless you are rich. take ibuprofen as directed non-stop for two weeks, and tyenol for pain. icy hot patches ( the cheap wal mart brand) help alot. I've been like this for 10 years, but I keep working.
Go to a doctor. That'll be the best solution.
Good luck!
You said it happened only yesterday, putting heat on pulled muscles in the first 72 hours only makes the injury worse, ice only for 20 mins. every 3 hours. Back injuries are always painful as you can't do anything without using your back muscles %26amp; all they want to do is relax, so relax them as much as possible. Don't let anyone talk you into any abrasive massages, ( you wouldn't like to be bashed around if you were in pain %26amp; neither does your muscles ), gentle massage is therapy, %26amp; oh if you are in that much pain please go see your doctor even if only for x-rays to be safe. Good luck I hope you get better soon, by for know.
heat soothes the pain, but you need to rotate between heat and cold (ice packs work best). The cold takes away the inflamation in the muscles. you have do hot/cold trtmt: 15min on /15 min off for each.
chiropractics also helps. (i wrecked myback once at work helping a 280lb cp client out of the tub) when i went to the chiropactor i was surprised how much one tight mucle could throw off other things. my spasm was so tight it caused me to lean to oneside which caused pressure on that side and my adrenal gland, this left me achy and fatigued. A few hot/cold trtmts, massages and adjustments helped way more than the physical therapy prescribed by my doctor.
G E T W E L L S O O N !
Try going to a chiropractor.
Pay special attention to the advice from JeannieMalinda on up the board. Her advice is right on target. My husband has DDD (degenerative disc disease) and has had two back surgeries (thank God he has an excellent neurosurgeon). She is right when she says if you have pain or a burning sensation radiating down either or both legs, it's bad news - my husband had that type of pain before his two surgeries. Go see your doctor as soon as possible so that you can be properly diagnosed. He will probably do X-rays, and possibly an MRI. You may only have (if you're lucky) pulled or strained a muscle. In that case ice will help reduce the pain and swelling. Stay away from a chiropractor until you have been properly diagnosed by a medical doctor. In my husband's case, his medical doctor told him that with his type of back problems, if he were to be treated by a chiropractor, he could easily become paralyzed. So be careful. Better safe than sorry. Good luck to you.
Plenty of rest, plenty of pain relief (follow the instructions in the pack) and a doctor.
You may have herniated a disk, you need to seek medical attention/advice and be properly diagnosed. There's a big difference between a pulled muscle and a herniated disk and how they are treated.
go to the chiropractor if that dont work then go to the doctors
Cramps+track=BAD advice!!!!!?
okay im having my period. i also have track. how can i get rid of cramps so i can run?? i get REALLY bad cramps!!!!Cramps+track=BAD advice!!!!!?
ooo i feel your pain, right now actually :P i get terrible cramps and i have to go to gymnastics.
here's what i do:
-heating pad
-hot bath
-exercise
- Midol (cramp medicine)
personally i find that Midol, works, but not amazing so i got prescription meds from my doctor, now those kick ***.
-good luck,Cramps+track=BAD advice!!!!!?
I know that this sounds OPPOSITE of what you should do, but if you lie on your stomach for a few minutes, the cramps will actually wane and soothe. When my friend told me, I laughed and laughed, but then got desperate and tried it! Cramps go away and stay away!
try taking a painkiller maybe?
like tylenol or advil? at least that's what i do..
ooo i feel your pain, right now actually :P i get terrible cramps and i have to go to gymnastics.
here's what i do:
-heating pad
-hot bath
-exercise
- Midol (cramp medicine)
personally i find that Midol, works, but not amazing so i got prescription meds from my doctor, now those kick ***.
-good luck,Cramps+track=BAD advice!!!!!?
I know that this sounds OPPOSITE of what you should do, but if you lie on your stomach for a few minutes, the cramps will actually wane and soothe. When my friend told me, I laughed and laughed, but then got desperate and tried it! Cramps go away and stay away!
try taking a painkiller maybe?
like tylenol or advil? at least that's what i do..
Is this bad advice? ?
Don't get involved with woman that are bad with money?
good advice or bad advice? I talk about a long term relationship or marriage.
I think it is good advice.Is this bad advice? ?
Very good advice.
Been there. Done that. Lost the t-shirt in bankruptcy.stop pimples
good advice or bad advice? I talk about a long term relationship or marriage.
I think it is good advice.Is this bad advice? ?
Very good advice.
Been there. Done that. Lost the t-shirt in bankruptcy.
Mcy d please stop giving bad advice n get a life?
I couldn't get a life, but I got two points. thanksMcy d please stop giving bad advice n get a life?
WOW!!!!!!Mcy d please stop giving bad advice n get a life?
amen sister!!!!
YEA WHAT HE SAID!
WOW!!!!!!Mcy d please stop giving bad advice n get a life?
amen sister!!!!
YEA WHAT HE SAID!
Mortgage Legal Question U.K Bad advice resulted in loss of home.?
I took a mortgage to buy my council house, and as I was self employed, I had to a private mortgage arranger, who came to our home and there and then, arranged for a non status lender to provide us with a mortgage over the phone. He then dealt with all the surveys, building insurance etc, as these people do, thats how they earn their wage. But, he advised me that as I was self employed, I would not get employment insurance, and if your paying for advice you take it. Some months on I had an accident that resulted in me having to stop working, and as soon as this happened, the lender went straight to work on re-possesing the house. They knew that the benefits agency would not pay the interest on the loan until 28 weeks of being unable to work. Yhe lender refused to wait that long and I was asked how long before I could pay, I simply could not, they took the house. someone said I could have had Insurance,and I had bad advice.Can I be compensated from the advisor?, as I did pay him for thisMortgage Legal Question U.K Bad advice resulted in loss of home.?
Hi,
This is really pathetic. But, you can't claim a compensation from the advisor as it's not possible to produce a proof that he hasn't advised for an insurance. You have to curse your bad luck. You can visit http://www.fundsleader.info to find out if you can come out of this messy situation and redeem your house. Good luck!Mortgage Legal Question U.K Bad advice resulted in loss of home.?
Which one, the ';someone'; who said you could have had insurance, or the ';paid advisor';?
Here in the US, the ';someone'; would be wrong. If they aren't a professional, they offered a nonprofessional opinion, and it didn't effect anything.
The ONLY person you MIGHT have recourse to, is the professional. And if your ';someone'; says, oh, sure, I have no idea what I'm talking about, but they could buy insurance, but the professional says, no you can't, who is the judge going to believe?
Tell ya what - pretend the disability didn't happen. Start calling around. See if you can find someone to give you that coverage, WITHOUT a waiting period (as 1-3 months is a standard wait before coverage kicks in here across the pond). If you can't, then you KNOW someone was wrong.
And in any case, you'll have to pay your solicitor to bring suit - my guess is, if you couldn't pay the mortgage, you won't be able to pay the solicitor, either - in which case, you won't be able to sue.
Hi,
This is really pathetic. But, you can't claim a compensation from the advisor as it's not possible to produce a proof that he hasn't advised for an insurance. You have to curse your bad luck. You can visit http://www.fundsleader.info to find out if you can come out of this messy situation and redeem your house. Good luck!Mortgage Legal Question U.K Bad advice resulted in loss of home.?
Which one, the ';someone'; who said you could have had insurance, or the ';paid advisor';?
Here in the US, the ';someone'; would be wrong. If they aren't a professional, they offered a nonprofessional opinion, and it didn't effect anything.
The ONLY person you MIGHT have recourse to, is the professional. And if your ';someone'; says, oh, sure, I have no idea what I'm talking about, but they could buy insurance, but the professional says, no you can't, who is the judge going to believe?
Tell ya what - pretend the disability didn't happen. Start calling around. See if you can find someone to give you that coverage, WITHOUT a waiting period (as 1-3 months is a standard wait before coverage kicks in here across the pond). If you can't, then you KNOW someone was wrong.
And in any case, you'll have to pay your solicitor to bring suit - my guess is, if you couldn't pay the mortgage, you won't be able to pay the solicitor, either - in which case, you won't be able to sue.
I know it sounds bad, but I need some advice on how to steal my friends girlfriend..any help?
I really like her...alot, andthe thing is, he doesn't deserve her, he completely ignores her, but she is totally blind to it, her and I are already pretty close as friendsI know it sounds bad, but I need some advice on how to steal my friends girlfriend..any help?
well i guess . you should let her see . the good things that you will provide her and compare her boyfriend to you and what a better guy you are then him .I know it sounds bad, but I need some advice on how to steal my friends girlfriend..any help?
Let her come to the conclusion first that he doesn't deserve her. Just be there for her, and show her how much you care for her. Just because she might come to the conclusion that he is a jerk doesn't mean that she will fall for you. So, don't mess up your friendship, and possibly their relationship on a wim, because you don't really know their relationship through and through. All you can do is show her that you are a good guy, and you care for her. The rest is up to her.
I have some advice for you, yes. You can not ';steal'; someone away. If she is interested in you, she will break up with her boyfriend and let you know. It's very sweet that you recognize that she is being treated badly, and think she deserves better. However, if she's happy, she's happy. Furthermore, as unfair as it is, if she starts dating you, she will likely be thought of in even a worse light than you will be. If she decides to break up with him in the future, and later on becomes interested in you, great. In the meantime, you may want to think about gently encouraging your ';friend'; to be a bit nicer to her.
Good luck.
Then let her see it on her own, and then after they break up make your move. If you guys are close as you say you are, then just listen to her and give her advice but don't try to butt in too much into their relationship. If you try to get involved she might not like it and end up hating you. If you really like her be patient, and if her relantionship is as bad then they wont last.
ok first off you should find out if she really cares for him cuz if you manage to break her and your friend up but she still has feelings for him it could be a mess and you could end up getting dumped, but if he really treats her bad then talk to her and just tell her that even though you care about your friend he's not treating her the way he should then after you get her to realize that just be there for her you'll be surprised at how fast she realizes your the one she wants
Dude, it's happend to me too.
a couple options.
1. tell him straight out you've got a crush on her, but make sure you include that you will back off until he is through, no matter how he treats her, he's you friend and deserves respect if he is.
2. tell her first. not the best choice but if you can trust her let her know.
3. best one, just flirt with her alot but don't say anything, because their going to break up sooner or later if that's how he treats her, and when they do, then she's pretty much deffinetly going to like you if you've been good to her.
hope it helps.
Not only does it sound bad, it IS bad... I can sympathize with you, but this is the hand you've been dealt, and you have to play - can't GO FISH, and pluck a card from someone else's hand without cheating. You need to wait till they've broken up to make a move, and, if he treats her that poorly, it shouldn't take long. And, if she DOESN'T, THAT'S a sign to you, in itself - DO NOT ENTER.
You called yourself a friend, yet you wish to steal his girl? You will never know what it means to have a friend until you learn to be one. Ever heard of ';bros not hoes';? If she left him for his friend what kind of girl is she anyway? There are lots of people in this world. Find someone who is not already taken and you won't have to steal from your friends.
I am a girl so i can take this personally. She is caught in the middle. If she loves him then just wait. You have to think of her feelings too. If they brake then talk to him first because he might actually fell like he claims her for a while, its jealousy. its bad to steal her from him. there are so many people out there.
be cautious about what you do
if you come on too strong..esp being his friend..shell think your a total dick even if you are close
sart spending more time with her..gradually..but as much as you can and cautiously flirt
dont talk..it will get back to her and to him..dont try to break them up..if he really is that bad they will break up soon...then you can steal her
be patient
do you really want to give up your best friend for a girl?! if you do wana risk all that dont do anything to break them up just wait and see if they break up or something and tell her hoe you feel dont try to break them up bc ull probably lose ur best friend and the girl i repeat DONT TRY TO BREAK THEM UP!!!!!!!!!!!!
hmmm...
well it happened to me too...
i like my guy friend...
but he likes another girl...
but i chose to ignore my feelings because i dont want to ruin our friendship...okay...not helping...sorry bout that... =)
i think you should tell her how you really feel about her...
and make her realize that the guy she likes isn't worth it...
you won't know what'll happen unless you try...
well for 1 you should confront you friend about it.
or just show her that your worth taking the time for.
be her SECRET admirer. send her roses once and awhile get her email or msn and tell her its you who is sending all this
i dunno. there's just some thoughts
hope it helps
. emmalouise
well, sorry bro. but it's too late.
u can't steal her cause then u won't be friends with the guy anymore, and then she won't talk to you cause she'll find out that u backstabbed ur friend.
so u should have done it before they dated.
there's other fish in the sea.
Let him screw things up and then ask if he'd be okay with you dating her before you charge in and try to break them up unless your willing to lose this friend for one shot at a girl which in all likelihood won't be the girl you'll marry.
You need to be a true friend and forget about the whole thing. That is one of the worst things anyone could do. I hope that if you do and try to take her away that you end up with neither of them.
talk to her about it. how serious is she about your friend. how good is your friendhip with you guy pal? be prepaired to lose the guy if you takr the girl.
Bad Idea.Why would you want something/someone that doesn't belong to you? Trust me,you might feel good for a month or two after you get her...but things like this backfire.
wow ur a nice friend..geez but i guess just tell er how u think she could b treated and tell her how u feel..haha it actually worked for me no joke...but is it worth losing ur friend over a girl? yea he will b pisssed
Why would you want to date a girl who would leave he boyfriend as soon as some sweet-talker came along? If she's that kind of girl, your relationship isn't going to last long anyway.
Tell her that he's a douche and that she deserves better. She will see how much you care about her and might possibly give you a chance
Tell her you love and wana marry her... You wana see her raising your kids!
hopefully this will scare her off and open up your friends eyes to u, u ******* dick.
well if you want to STEAL your FRIEND'S girlfriend, then you are NOT HIS friend by any means.
show her how much of a prick he is and show her how kind u are and give her a shoulder to cry on and make ur happy and feel safe and ur good good luck bro save her from the dumb A@@
Hes going to find out then beat the living **** out of you. I would rather look for another girl...
Let her realize this herself lest she do the same to you.
you just wait and keep implyin that ur friend is an asshole. eventually she will realize you are a better person.
flirt with her. once they break up make a move
flirt with her and ask her on a date. your friend is a stupid idiot
well i guess . you should let her see . the good things that you will provide her and compare her boyfriend to you and what a better guy you are then him .I know it sounds bad, but I need some advice on how to steal my friends girlfriend..any help?
Let her come to the conclusion first that he doesn't deserve her. Just be there for her, and show her how much you care for her. Just because she might come to the conclusion that he is a jerk doesn't mean that she will fall for you. So, don't mess up your friendship, and possibly their relationship on a wim, because you don't really know their relationship through and through. All you can do is show her that you are a good guy, and you care for her. The rest is up to her.
I have some advice for you, yes. You can not ';steal'; someone away. If she is interested in you, she will break up with her boyfriend and let you know. It's very sweet that you recognize that she is being treated badly, and think she deserves better. However, if she's happy, she's happy. Furthermore, as unfair as it is, if she starts dating you, she will likely be thought of in even a worse light than you will be. If she decides to break up with him in the future, and later on becomes interested in you, great. In the meantime, you may want to think about gently encouraging your ';friend'; to be a bit nicer to her.
Good luck.
Then let her see it on her own, and then after they break up make your move. If you guys are close as you say you are, then just listen to her and give her advice but don't try to butt in too much into their relationship. If you try to get involved she might not like it and end up hating you. If you really like her be patient, and if her relantionship is as bad then they wont last.
ok first off you should find out if she really cares for him cuz if you manage to break her and your friend up but she still has feelings for him it could be a mess and you could end up getting dumped, but if he really treats her bad then talk to her and just tell her that even though you care about your friend he's not treating her the way he should then after you get her to realize that just be there for her you'll be surprised at how fast she realizes your the one she wants
Dude, it's happend to me too.
a couple options.
1. tell him straight out you've got a crush on her, but make sure you include that you will back off until he is through, no matter how he treats her, he's you friend and deserves respect if he is.
2. tell her first. not the best choice but if you can trust her let her know.
3. best one, just flirt with her alot but don't say anything, because their going to break up sooner or later if that's how he treats her, and when they do, then she's pretty much deffinetly going to like you if you've been good to her.
hope it helps.
Not only does it sound bad, it IS bad... I can sympathize with you, but this is the hand you've been dealt, and you have to play - can't GO FISH, and pluck a card from someone else's hand without cheating. You need to wait till they've broken up to make a move, and, if he treats her that poorly, it shouldn't take long. And, if she DOESN'T, THAT'S a sign to you, in itself - DO NOT ENTER.
You called yourself a friend, yet you wish to steal his girl? You will never know what it means to have a friend until you learn to be one. Ever heard of ';bros not hoes';? If she left him for his friend what kind of girl is she anyway? There are lots of people in this world. Find someone who is not already taken and you won't have to steal from your friends.
I am a girl so i can take this personally. She is caught in the middle. If she loves him then just wait. You have to think of her feelings too. If they brake then talk to him first because he might actually fell like he claims her for a while, its jealousy. its bad to steal her from him. there are so many people out there.
be cautious about what you do
if you come on too strong..esp being his friend..shell think your a total dick even if you are close
sart spending more time with her..gradually..but as much as you can and cautiously flirt
dont talk..it will get back to her and to him..dont try to break them up..if he really is that bad they will break up soon...then you can steal her
be patient
do you really want to give up your best friend for a girl?! if you do wana risk all that dont do anything to break them up just wait and see if they break up or something and tell her hoe you feel dont try to break them up bc ull probably lose ur best friend and the girl i repeat DONT TRY TO BREAK THEM UP!!!!!!!!!!!!
hmmm...
well it happened to me too...
i like my guy friend...
but he likes another girl...
but i chose to ignore my feelings because i dont want to ruin our friendship...okay...not helping...sorry bout that... =)
i think you should tell her how you really feel about her...
and make her realize that the guy she likes isn't worth it...
you won't know what'll happen unless you try...
well for 1 you should confront you friend about it.
or just show her that your worth taking the time for.
be her SECRET admirer. send her roses once and awhile get her email or msn and tell her its you who is sending all this
i dunno. there's just some thoughts
hope it helps
. emmalouise
well, sorry bro. but it's too late.
u can't steal her cause then u won't be friends with the guy anymore, and then she won't talk to you cause she'll find out that u backstabbed ur friend.
so u should have done it before they dated.
there's other fish in the sea.
Let him screw things up and then ask if he'd be okay with you dating her before you charge in and try to break them up unless your willing to lose this friend for one shot at a girl which in all likelihood won't be the girl you'll marry.
You need to be a true friend and forget about the whole thing. That is one of the worst things anyone could do. I hope that if you do and try to take her away that you end up with neither of them.
talk to her about it. how serious is she about your friend. how good is your friendhip with you guy pal? be prepaired to lose the guy if you takr the girl.
Bad Idea.Why would you want something/someone that doesn't belong to you? Trust me,you might feel good for a month or two after you get her...but things like this backfire.
wow ur a nice friend..geez but i guess just tell er how u think she could b treated and tell her how u feel..haha it actually worked for me no joke...but is it worth losing ur friend over a girl? yea he will b pisssed
Why would you want to date a girl who would leave he boyfriend as soon as some sweet-talker came along? If she's that kind of girl, your relationship isn't going to last long anyway.
Tell her that he's a douche and that she deserves better. She will see how much you care about her and might possibly give you a chance
Tell her you love and wana marry her... You wana see her raising your kids!
hopefully this will scare her off and open up your friends eyes to u, u ******* dick.
well if you want to STEAL your FRIEND'S girlfriend, then you are NOT HIS friend by any means.
show her how much of a prick he is and show her how kind u are and give her a shoulder to cry on and make ur happy and feel safe and ur good good luck bro save her from the dumb A@@
Hes going to find out then beat the living **** out of you. I would rather look for another girl...
Let her realize this herself lest she do the same to you.
you just wait and keep implyin that ur friend is an asshole. eventually she will realize you are a better person.
flirt with her. once they break up make a move
flirt with her and ask her on a date. your friend is a stupid idiot
Something bad happened to me in october 06 and now I hate dogs. Can someone give me some advice?
In October of 2006, I was in the backyard with my mom working on my pullups for gymnastics. Out of the blue, my dog, who was normally sweet and caused no harm, came up and attacked me.(Yes, it was severe, I had to get stitches.) I don't know why, I was never mean to him. My mom said it was a freak accident, and my dad took him to the humaine society thinking I was over reacting.
Well it turned out I had to get titches, and some of the bites developed infections, it hurt a lot! And after time grew apart, sadness turned into pain, pain into sickness, and sickness into FEAR and RAGE and ANGER. It so happens now that I was sad my dog had to be taken away, It hurt so much and caused so much harm and pain that now I am afraid and hate dogs. I need advice on how to manage this, and how to be less angry and afraid. Can someone please help?Something bad happened to me in october 06 and now I hate dogs. Can someone give me some advice?
The only suggestion I can offer is to first heal, then forgive. When you are able to forgive your pooch for resorting to his wild side, you will lose your fear. Then, when the time is right, start introducing yourself to dogs that you know have a sweet disposition. Take it slowly, allowing yourself to develop trust. It is the same with any kind of attacker, it takes time. If it had been a human that attacked you in this manner, you would still have to go through the same steps.Something bad happened to me in october 06 and now I hate dogs. Can someone give me some advice?
Well what i do is forget about it because thats another dog that did it to you not the one your gonna get
the only way you are going to ver come your fear, is by being around another dog. see if you have a local animal shelter around where you live where you could visit and kinda get the feel of being around dogs again. you might also try some therapy to deal with your anger. dont rush into getting another pet if your not ready.
I say depending how old you are and what kind of dog it was, i would say get over it. I have a 174 pound bull mastiff and it has biten me numerous times some of which i deserved some not. But i dont send her to the humaine society. get o yorkie if you cant handle a regular sized dog.
Dogs are creatures like us.
Dont let a few rotten apples, ruin the entire orchard. Most dogs are very calm and submissive when they are properly trained. Dogs dont attack for no reason. Whatever that reason was, it led your dog to attack you and leave you not only with scars physically, but also emotionally. It might take some time to recover, but once you see a dog, you cant start panicking and becoming tense, because then that makes the dog around you feel the same way, and it might attack. When you see a dog, just be calm, it will only attack you if you think it will. You have to calm your ENTIRE body though, because if you are screaming in your head that there is a dog in the same room as you, its almost as if it can read your mind. I hope you do well in the future, good luck!
i dont know this but im sure dogs will snap just like humans will snap. dont be afraid of dogs, each dog has its own personality, good luck getting over that
Get a peekapoo puppy.
I got bit by a nice dog that I knew. Turns out he had a brain tumor and it wasn't his fault (he couldn't help it, it was a tumor!). Your parents should have taken him to the vets instead of just having him die at the Humane society. I got bit under my arm and got a big scar there, but I didn't blame the dog (he was an Airdale) because he couldn't help it. I still love dogs, just because one hurt me is no reason for me to hate all dogs. If I get hurt, instead of being afraid, I ignore my fear.
After all, not all dogs go mental and attack. This was the only time I ever got attacked, and I've been around dogs all my life. People go nuts and kill as well, does that mean we should be afraid of all people 'just in case'? Being afraid just makes you miss out on life.
I almost got bit by a horse, but I'm not afraid of them either. Fear is a natural reaction, but you can't let it rule (and ruin) your life. Maybe you are secretly mad at your parents for whatever reason, and you are transferring it to dogs instead.
Good luck!
If you can make note of as much of the attack as you can remember..it may be a little scary but if you can recall what happened you can then study some dog behavior and find out why. Knowing why should give you peace of mind.
Well it turned out I had to get titches, and some of the bites developed infections, it hurt a lot! And after time grew apart, sadness turned into pain, pain into sickness, and sickness into FEAR and RAGE and ANGER. It so happens now that I was sad my dog had to be taken away, It hurt so much and caused so much harm and pain that now I am afraid and hate dogs. I need advice on how to manage this, and how to be less angry and afraid. Can someone please help?Something bad happened to me in october 06 and now I hate dogs. Can someone give me some advice?
The only suggestion I can offer is to first heal, then forgive. When you are able to forgive your pooch for resorting to his wild side, you will lose your fear. Then, when the time is right, start introducing yourself to dogs that you know have a sweet disposition. Take it slowly, allowing yourself to develop trust. It is the same with any kind of attacker, it takes time. If it had been a human that attacked you in this manner, you would still have to go through the same steps.Something bad happened to me in october 06 and now I hate dogs. Can someone give me some advice?
Well what i do is forget about it because thats another dog that did it to you not the one your gonna get
the only way you are going to ver come your fear, is by being around another dog. see if you have a local animal shelter around where you live where you could visit and kinda get the feel of being around dogs again. you might also try some therapy to deal with your anger. dont rush into getting another pet if your not ready.
I say depending how old you are and what kind of dog it was, i would say get over it. I have a 174 pound bull mastiff and it has biten me numerous times some of which i deserved some not. But i dont send her to the humaine society. get o yorkie if you cant handle a regular sized dog.
Dogs are creatures like us.
Dont let a few rotten apples, ruin the entire orchard. Most dogs are very calm and submissive when they are properly trained. Dogs dont attack for no reason. Whatever that reason was, it led your dog to attack you and leave you not only with scars physically, but also emotionally. It might take some time to recover, but once you see a dog, you cant start panicking and becoming tense, because then that makes the dog around you feel the same way, and it might attack. When you see a dog, just be calm, it will only attack you if you think it will. You have to calm your ENTIRE body though, because if you are screaming in your head that there is a dog in the same room as you, its almost as if it can read your mind. I hope you do well in the future, good luck!
i dont know this but im sure dogs will snap just like humans will snap. dont be afraid of dogs, each dog has its own personality, good luck getting over that
Get a peekapoo puppy.
I got bit by a nice dog that I knew. Turns out he had a brain tumor and it wasn't his fault (he couldn't help it, it was a tumor!). Your parents should have taken him to the vets instead of just having him die at the Humane society. I got bit under my arm and got a big scar there, but I didn't blame the dog (he was an Airdale) because he couldn't help it. I still love dogs, just because one hurt me is no reason for me to hate all dogs. If I get hurt, instead of being afraid, I ignore my fear.
After all, not all dogs go mental and attack. This was the only time I ever got attacked, and I've been around dogs all my life. People go nuts and kill as well, does that mean we should be afraid of all people 'just in case'? Being afraid just makes you miss out on life.
I almost got bit by a horse, but I'm not afraid of them either. Fear is a natural reaction, but you can't let it rule (and ruin) your life. Maybe you are secretly mad at your parents for whatever reason, and you are transferring it to dogs instead.
Good luck!
If you can make note of as much of the attack as you can remember..it may be a little scary but if you can recall what happened you can then study some dog behavior and find out why. Knowing why should give you peace of mind.
Do you think sometimes your parents give you bad advice?
I don't get advice as much as I get opinions but all is welcome. :)Do you think sometimes your parents give you bad advice?
Well they are human like everyone else so they can make mistakes. but depending on how old you are, they usually make the best choices for you if you're young. There is so many bad influences in the world today, they just want to protect you. Now if you are 18 or older, you are old enough to make adult decisions. You should know for yourself what is really right or wrong for you.Do you think sometimes your parents give you bad advice?
No! parents never give us bad advice. The advice that is bad in our thinking after some time we will realize that who much true they were at that time because they are parents they love us so much and most important is that their experiences of lie is more then us.
not on purpose! i mean sometimes their advice is wrong...but it doesn't mean they wanted to give me a bad/wrong advice...maybe they thought that was the right thing to do...but no parents would give their kids a bad advice if they knew it was bad...!
Yes, when they say i should do clubs i dont want to do. I wanted to do surf club but my dad wanted me to take newspaper.
I try to communicate with them whenever we disagree on something. Works the best.. Not easy though. :)
Bad Advice %26gt; No Advice
Trust me.
Never on purpose., but hey, parents are people, too!
its been awhile. all i remember was something about not killing people that didnt need killing
They never give me advice i get the advice from friends :d
They never did or never will give bad advice! :)
Yeah, they always complain. They even try to control our careers.
I often do think that, and sometimes I'm right.
i never go to my parents for advice because that is what i am afraid of lolstop pimples
Well they are human like everyone else so they can make mistakes. but depending on how old you are, they usually make the best choices for you if you're young. There is so many bad influences in the world today, they just want to protect you. Now if you are 18 or older, you are old enough to make adult decisions. You should know for yourself what is really right or wrong for you.Do you think sometimes your parents give you bad advice?
No! parents never give us bad advice. The advice that is bad in our thinking after some time we will realize that who much true they were at that time because they are parents they love us so much and most important is that their experiences of lie is more then us.
not on purpose! i mean sometimes their advice is wrong...but it doesn't mean they wanted to give me a bad/wrong advice...maybe they thought that was the right thing to do...but no parents would give their kids a bad advice if they knew it was bad...!
Yes, when they say i should do clubs i dont want to do. I wanted to do surf club but my dad wanted me to take newspaper.
I try to communicate with them whenever we disagree on something. Works the best.. Not easy though. :)
Bad Advice %26gt; No Advice
Trust me.
Never on purpose., but hey, parents are people, too!
its been awhile. all i remember was something about not killing people that didnt need killing
They never give me advice i get the advice from friends :d
They never did or never will give bad advice! :)
Yeah, they always complain. They even try to control our careers.
I often do think that, and sometimes I'm right.
i never go to my parents for advice because that is what i am afraid of lol
Is it bad that I go to my ex boyfriend for advice on present relationships?
Me and him are just friends now, i swear. nothing more.. but i go to him with all of my problems.. like, i told him i think i'm ready to give my virginity away to my new boy.. idk.. is it weird that i talk to him about this stuff??Is it bad that I go to my ex boyfriend for advice on present relationships?
it's ok.ur ex bf loved u before. he knows what ur feel,that will help u better undertake ur self.Is it bad that I go to my ex boyfriend for advice on present relationships?
I've seen it happen with my friends before. It's totally normal.
yes it is bad
it's ok.ur ex bf loved u before. he knows what ur feel,that will help u better undertake ur self.Is it bad that I go to my ex boyfriend for advice on present relationships?
I've seen it happen with my friends before. It's totally normal.
yes it is bad
If you get some bad advice on here can you sue yahoo?
No.If you get some bad advice on here can you sue yahoo?
No, for you don't HAVE to follow it.
Another sue-happy human....that is what is wrong with the morals of the world today. People are only out for trhemselves and will do anything to get money.If you get some bad advice on here can you sue yahoo?
No, nor can you sue the person who gave you the advice.
This is all covered in the fine print of the agreement that you clicked on as having read before you were able to open your account on Yahoo Answers. You can find it if you read the rules again.
Use any advice you get here at your own risk!
HOW about suing your parents for not teaching you all about personal responsibility ?????
I can ask for advice... and people can give it... BUT it is up to me whether or not I accept and follow their advice.
I am so sick of pathetic people TRYING to make monetary gain because they do something stupid and then try and blamed other people for it.....
try being responsible for your own actions and decisions .. YOU never know it might just make you grow up some ...
don't like my advice??? SO SUE ME **ROLLS EYES**
I doubt it - it's the trolls on here who cause trouble for Yahoo, not Yahoo itself.
People sue all the time for stupid things, don't see why this would be any different.
most likely there is something agenst such in the TS you agried to...
Sure, why not?But then that means I should also be allowed to start charging for all the good advice I give.
No, it's written at the bottom of every page.
';Yahoo! does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any Yahoo! Answers content. Click here for the Full Disclaimer.';
Just scroll down and you'll see it.
Yeah... I reckon you can.
I have this really good lawyer who got me gazillions for slipping over in a supermarket.
I threw a jar of pickles at this idiot who told me that kitty litter was in aisle 5... It was in aisle 6. (You can imagine how angry THAT made me!)
I slipped over on one of the pickles when the jar missed the target, and I had to chase the idiot to pummel him with a french stick I got from aisle 3.
Anyhoo, just email me your bank account details, drivers license number, date of birth, and any other details of a personal nature that may be relevant. (Just so I can hook you up with this amazing lawyer of course)
Everything will be fine... Trust me
Nope, wasn't yahoo answers that gave it to you
No
LOL. IF YOU HAVE THE MONEY YOU COULD. ^^
Do you think a big company like Yahoo would take a risk like that? This site is for entertainment purposes only ... read the fine print!
Cheers :-)
You Americans and suing everyone and everything.
anythings worth a try.....
Not for bad advice, no.
...you can sue anyone you want... you can get the Lawyer who represented the guy in Washington D.C. (the judge) who sue'd the Cleaners for $6,000,000 about his pants... or the guy who just sue'd God... whatever you think you can afford.
Well, there is no law against it. People sue for pretty much anything now days and im sure it could if someone took it seriously enough. The real question is, could he win? I doubt it.
You can sue anybody for anything. The real question is can you win? I don't think so!
No, for you don't HAVE to follow it.
Another sue-happy human....that is what is wrong with the morals of the world today. People are only out for trhemselves and will do anything to get money.If you get some bad advice on here can you sue yahoo?
No, nor can you sue the person who gave you the advice.
This is all covered in the fine print of the agreement that you clicked on as having read before you were able to open your account on Yahoo Answers. You can find it if you read the rules again.
Use any advice you get here at your own risk!
HOW about suing your parents for not teaching you all about personal responsibility ?????
I can ask for advice... and people can give it... BUT it is up to me whether or not I accept and follow their advice.
I am so sick of pathetic people TRYING to make monetary gain because they do something stupid and then try and blamed other people for it.....
try being responsible for your own actions and decisions .. YOU never know it might just make you grow up some ...
don't like my advice??? SO SUE ME **ROLLS EYES**
I doubt it - it's the trolls on here who cause trouble for Yahoo, not Yahoo itself.
People sue all the time for stupid things, don't see why this would be any different.
most likely there is something agenst such in the TS you agried to...
Sure, why not?But then that means I should also be allowed to start charging for all the good advice I give.
No, it's written at the bottom of every page.
';Yahoo! does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any Yahoo! Answers content. Click here for the Full Disclaimer.';
Just scroll down and you'll see it.
Yeah... I reckon you can.
I have this really good lawyer who got me gazillions for slipping over in a supermarket.
I threw a jar of pickles at this idiot who told me that kitty litter was in aisle 5... It was in aisle 6. (You can imagine how angry THAT made me!)
I slipped over on one of the pickles when the jar missed the target, and I had to chase the idiot to pummel him with a french stick I got from aisle 3.
Anyhoo, just email me your bank account details, drivers license number, date of birth, and any other details of a personal nature that may be relevant. (Just so I can hook you up with this amazing lawyer of course)
Everything will be fine... Trust me
Nope, wasn't yahoo answers that gave it to you
No
LOL. IF YOU HAVE THE MONEY YOU COULD. ^^
Do you think a big company like Yahoo would take a risk like that? This site is for entertainment purposes only ... read the fine print!
Cheers :-)
You Americans and suing everyone and everything.
anythings worth a try.....
Not for bad advice, no.
...you can sue anyone you want... you can get the Lawyer who represented the guy in Washington D.C. (the judge) who sue'd the Cleaners for $6,000,000 about his pants... or the guy who just sue'd God... whatever you think you can afford.
Well, there is no law against it. People sue for pretty much anything now days and im sure it could if someone took it seriously enough. The real question is, could he win? I doubt it.
You can sue anybody for anything. The real question is can you win? I don't think so!
Any good home remedies or advice for a 8 1/2 month old infant with a bad cold....?
My daughter has a very runny nose, cough and a slight fever and isn't eating much...any help would be greatly appreciated as I want to make her as comfortable as possible and get her over this. I would take her to her pediatrician but I am out of the state due to a family emergency. Thank you for the help!!!!Any good home remedies or advice for a 8 1/2 month old infant with a bad cold....?
If she has a high temperature (over 100), if her symptoms get worse in the next day, if she's screaming all night (could be an ear infection caused by excess fluid) - take her to the doctor/urgent care or at the VERY least, call your pediatrician.
If its just a regular old cold there are only a couple things you can do...
%26gt;Saline nose drops: (same as saline solution for contacts) Squeeze up her nose, then get an aspirator to suck the boogars out. She'll HATE it. Every baby does.
%26gt;Humidifier: get a humidifier for the room. We use a basic Vicks humidifier (don't use any menthol or medicated drops in the water). Put a little salt in the water to increase the steam flow.
%26gt;Prop up the mattress: You can put a pillow under one end of the crib mattress to lift it just a bit so its elevated.
%26gt;Steam room: Turn the hot water on in the shower and stand in the bathroom. The steam may help clear her throat.
%26gt;Increase fluids: If she's not eating, she may want to nurse or bottle feed more.
%26gt;LOTS of LOVE: it'll make her feel better, it always does!
Hope that helps. THey say the first baby cold is always the worst. My son had a bad cold when he was about 4 months old - it was awful but now I know what to do!Any good home remedies or advice for a 8 1/2 month old infant with a bad cold....?
I heard a couple of months ago that if you rub Vick's on the bottom of their feet the cough isn't as bad. I have never tried it but it is worth a try when you are desperate for a remedy! Good luck %26amp; I hope your baby feels better soon!
Saline spray works if she has a little stuffy nose as well with the runny nose. Saline spray you can use as much as needed
You can also take make your own with one cup of the warm water and 1/4 tsp of salt mix together and take a nose bulb or another small dropper and give her only a few drops of this a couple times per day.......
Infants tylenol or motrin is also great when they are running a fever....now if the fever gets over 101 I would call your doc still and tell them the situation..They can always help you no matter where you are. I would probably give them a call tomorrow anyway...would call them now if she has a higher temp then 102
A humidifier works wonders as well...can pick this up anywhere...When she sleeps at night make sure you have her propped up as it helps everything to drain and makes breathing easier for them.
Plug in the vaporizer (cold air). Use saline drops for the nose and keep it cleaned out. There's no medication in these drops so you don't have to worry about side effects. Give her infant tylenol for fever. My son has had a cold a I've done this with him. He's getting better and I don't have all the side effects that cold medicine can give. Also, there is vicks baby rub. Rub it on her chest and it'll help her breath as well.
yes do everything Jenn above said she was 100% on what I would say. My 3 month old is sick as well. Do not get a cold air humidifier that is just for people with allergies warm is for colds and such (the Pharmacist just told me this when I asked the diff the other day) But I will tell you I bought the vicks bc it was a cheap one and it hardly works, you get what you pay for and I read really bad reviews on it from everyone.
If she has a high temperature (over 100), if her symptoms get worse in the next day, if she's screaming all night (could be an ear infection caused by excess fluid) - take her to the doctor/urgent care or at the VERY least, call your pediatrician.
If its just a regular old cold there are only a couple things you can do...
%26gt;Saline nose drops: (same as saline solution for contacts) Squeeze up her nose, then get an aspirator to suck the boogars out. She'll HATE it. Every baby does.
%26gt;Humidifier: get a humidifier for the room. We use a basic Vicks humidifier (don't use any menthol or medicated drops in the water). Put a little salt in the water to increase the steam flow.
%26gt;Prop up the mattress: You can put a pillow under one end of the crib mattress to lift it just a bit so its elevated.
%26gt;Steam room: Turn the hot water on in the shower and stand in the bathroom. The steam may help clear her throat.
%26gt;Increase fluids: If she's not eating, she may want to nurse or bottle feed more.
%26gt;LOTS of LOVE: it'll make her feel better, it always does!
Hope that helps. THey say the first baby cold is always the worst. My son had a bad cold when he was about 4 months old - it was awful but now I know what to do!Any good home remedies or advice for a 8 1/2 month old infant with a bad cold....?
I heard a couple of months ago that if you rub Vick's on the bottom of their feet the cough isn't as bad. I have never tried it but it is worth a try when you are desperate for a remedy! Good luck %26amp; I hope your baby feels better soon!
Saline spray works if she has a little stuffy nose as well with the runny nose. Saline spray you can use as much as needed
You can also take make your own with one cup of the warm water and 1/4 tsp of salt mix together and take a nose bulb or another small dropper and give her only a few drops of this a couple times per day.......
Infants tylenol or motrin is also great when they are running a fever....now if the fever gets over 101 I would call your doc still and tell them the situation..They can always help you no matter where you are. I would probably give them a call tomorrow anyway...would call them now if she has a higher temp then 102
A humidifier works wonders as well...can pick this up anywhere...When she sleeps at night make sure you have her propped up as it helps everything to drain and makes breathing easier for them.
Plug in the vaporizer (cold air). Use saline drops for the nose and keep it cleaned out. There's no medication in these drops so you don't have to worry about side effects. Give her infant tylenol for fever. My son has had a cold a I've done this with him. He's getting better and I don't have all the side effects that cold medicine can give. Also, there is vicks baby rub. Rub it on her chest and it'll help her breath as well.
yes do everything Jenn above said she was 100% on what I would say. My 3 month old is sick as well. Do not get a cold air humidifier that is just for people with allergies warm is for colds and such (the Pharmacist just told me this when I asked the diff the other day) But I will tell you I bought the vicks bc it was a cheap one and it hardly works, you get what you pay for and I read really bad reviews on it from everyone.
Will people ever sue yahoo questions/answers because they asked for advice and followed some body's bad advice
?People sue for everything now so I wanted to see what everyone thought.Will people ever sue yahoo questions/answers because they asked for advice and followed some body's bad advice
if they sue for too hot coffee, pickles that burn their mouths, getting injured amidst committing burglaries and the fast food industry for making them 'fat'... it's inevitable.Will people ever sue yahoo questions/answers because they asked for advice and followed some body's bad advice
If yahoo edited the responses, in any way or form, yes. They could be sued.
If anyone decided to sue Yahoo I don't think they would win. It is their choice to follow advice that they have been given, so it would be their responsiblity. It would be like someone trying to sue a stranger for advice given - they would be looked upon as having a marble or two loose!
It is just a general question and answer section. If you are not smart enough to figure out what is wrong or right or dangerous, then you shouldn't be here.
You can not sue someone for something that is free. If you paid for this advise then you could. When you drive down the road and see a sign for male enhancement and it makes you go blind don't mean you can sue the person that put up the sign does it? No you sue the person that gave you the advise. But then again it is free advise so you have no law sute there either.
no its their decision wether to follow advice or not
NO you cannot sue Yahoo.
Read the fine print, Yahoo is not responsible for the content or the answers and questions on this site. They do not guarantee that the answers given will be beneficial in any way.
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Another words what you post, display, say, or show is done at your own risk and Yahoo cannot be held responsible for it. I can't find a specific section that protects the answerer, but if Yahoo won't claim any responsibility then neither will the answerer. It specifically states that you use the content on this site at your own risk.
no because you were the one who asked the questions and got results and went with it
I am sure someone will sue someone because of yahoo answers, dont know if it will be yahoo though.
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I'm sure there are people who would try to sue Yahoo.
I usually try to provide questioners with an answer that's correct to the best of my knowledge, and based on my somewhat novice, but observant experience. But from time to time when I see a question that's asked by someone who obviously fails to ever read the agreements when he or she agrees to use something, I won't hesitate to let the person know, and fall on the floor lmfao at them. READ THE AGREEMENT!!
Most of the questions, especially regarding Yahoo Mail beta obviously come from people who don't even know what a beta release program is, and they cry because their ';new version of Yahoo Mail'; doesn't work. THEY SHOULD HAVE READ THE AGREEMENT!!
They must be from California, and they can sue THIS!!
The suit wouldn't go anywhere, Yahoo doesn't endorse any of the opinions given here. If I told you to jump off a bridge and you did, whose fault would it be? You would have been the one to decide to jump. People need to take responsibiliy for their own actions, don't you think?stop pimples
if they sue for too hot coffee, pickles that burn their mouths, getting injured amidst committing burglaries and the fast food industry for making them 'fat'... it's inevitable.Will people ever sue yahoo questions/answers because they asked for advice and followed some body's bad advice
If yahoo edited the responses, in any way or form, yes. They could be sued.
If anyone decided to sue Yahoo I don't think they would win. It is their choice to follow advice that they have been given, so it would be their responsiblity. It would be like someone trying to sue a stranger for advice given - they would be looked upon as having a marble or two loose!
It is just a general question and answer section. If you are not smart enough to figure out what is wrong or right or dangerous, then you shouldn't be here.
You can not sue someone for something that is free. If you paid for this advise then you could. When you drive down the road and see a sign for male enhancement and it makes you go blind don't mean you can sue the person that put up the sign does it? No you sue the person that gave you the advise. But then again it is free advise so you have no law sute there either.
no its their decision wether to follow advice or not
NO you cannot sue Yahoo.
Read the fine print, Yahoo is not responsible for the content or the answers and questions on this site. They do not guarantee that the answers given will be beneficial in any way.
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Another words what you post, display, say, or show is done at your own risk and Yahoo cannot be held responsible for it. I can't find a specific section that protects the answerer, but if Yahoo won't claim any responsibility then neither will the answerer. It specifically states that you use the content on this site at your own risk.
no because you were the one who asked the questions and got results and went with it
I am sure someone will sue someone because of yahoo answers, dont know if it will be yahoo though.
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I'm sure there are people who would try to sue Yahoo.
I usually try to provide questioners with an answer that's correct to the best of my knowledge, and based on my somewhat novice, but observant experience. But from time to time when I see a question that's asked by someone who obviously fails to ever read the agreements when he or she agrees to use something, I won't hesitate to let the person know, and fall on the floor lmfao at them. READ THE AGREEMENT!!
Most of the questions, especially regarding Yahoo Mail beta obviously come from people who don't even know what a beta release program is, and they cry because their ';new version of Yahoo Mail'; doesn't work. THEY SHOULD HAVE READ THE AGREEMENT!!
They must be from California, and they can sue THIS!!
The suit wouldn't go anywhere, Yahoo doesn't endorse any of the opinions given here. If I told you to jump off a bridge and you did, whose fault would it be? You would have been the one to decide to jump. People need to take responsibiliy for their own actions, don't you think?
Have you ever known you were getting bad advice but you did it anyways?
i just did. grahhh!!!!... let's just say i should see a nice hike in my auto insurance...Have you ever known you were getting bad advice but you did it anyways?
Yep, I did it once, only because I didn't know what else to do (which was why I asked for the advice in the first place). I don't think it ever works out because no one knows you as well as you know yourself. You should always just go with your gut! Sorry you had to learn the hard way!!Have you ever known you were getting bad advice but you did it anyways?
yes, rarely but yes it sucks..
Yep, I did it once, only because I didn't know what else to do (which was why I asked for the advice in the first place). I don't think it ever works out because no one knows you as well as you know yourself. You should always just go with your gut! Sorry you had to learn the hard way!!Have you ever known you were getting bad advice but you did it anyways?
yes, rarely but yes it sucks..
Bad advice needed? what the he-- is going on here?
well since you asked....
here's the advice
the next time you're out to eat make sure to send the food back to the kitchen 2 or three times, this way the Chef and all the staff will know that you are a discerning and sophisticated diner and that they better watch their step. this way you will get the best possible food and service.Bad advice needed? what the he-- is going on here?
We try to have input on your question, maybe even something you havn't thought of. So just put it in words.Bad advice needed? what the he-- is going on here?
Not sure what you are asking. All I can say is don't do anything stupid and if you are looking for bad advice - do something stupid.
the real question here is :
what the hell are YOU talking about?
paranoidd muchh ? (:
Happens to me all the time.
Really. We need more info.
You're a virgin who's never had a girlfriend, that's what.
Just go to bed. Sleep it off.
the question is what the hell are you asking???
YES... YES... MAYBE.... AND NEVER... HOPE YOU ARE SORTED NOW...
here's the advice
the next time you're out to eat make sure to send the food back to the kitchen 2 or three times, this way the Chef and all the staff will know that you are a discerning and sophisticated diner and that they better watch their step. this way you will get the best possible food and service.Bad advice needed? what the he-- is going on here?
We try to have input on your question, maybe even something you havn't thought of. So just put it in words.Bad advice needed? what the he-- is going on here?
Not sure what you are asking. All I can say is don't do anything stupid and if you are looking for bad advice - do something stupid.
the real question here is :
what the hell are YOU talking about?
paranoidd muchh ? (:
Happens to me all the time.
Really. We need more info.
You're a virgin who's never had a girlfriend, that's what.
Just go to bed. Sleep it off.
the question is what the hell are you asking???
YES... YES... MAYBE.... AND NEVER... HOPE YOU ARE SORTED NOW...
How do I cancel the bad friendships I am in. With people I shouldn't be hanging out with anymore. Advice?
Only serious answers please.
I still text and answer the calls to people that I know I shouldn't but it's hard... Any good advice. Because i've tried everything but I know I need to get my life straight...
Thanks...How do I cancel the bad friendships I am in. With people I shouldn't be hanging out with anymore. Advice?
I have been in the exact same situation and i think its great that you realize what you need to do..
You need to just start avoiding them.. stop responding to most of their texts and calls only responding randomly if you really can't help it.. and do not agree to any specific plans with them.
Find new (if you don't already have some) loyal friends and start hanging out with them much more. If you already have them (assuming that you do) surround yourself with them and keep busy.
If these bad friends question your behavior you can give a semi honest opinion or again, ignore it all together.. The texts will slow and probably eventually stop.
Then as much as i would say it sucks.. change your number. That is the best way to totally refresh your life with only the important people in your life having access to you.
Good Luck!How do I cancel the bad friendships I am in. With people I shouldn't be hanging out with anymore. Advice?
how bad is the friendship first?
You need to totally ignore these people. If need be, tell them straight up that you don't want to be friends any more.
loose the phone for a few days, then have someone delete the msgs. Or cancel the testing on the phone. Block it. If you ignore them......they will go away
you are just going to have to force yourself not to. Tell yourself that its for the best. Delete there numbers from your phone book, there email addresses, if you have a myspace(etc.) delete them. Don't even read the texts. just delete them. thats the only thing I know to do. Its going to be hard, but you're going to have to remind yourself everytime they contact you thats its for the best.
do him in the butt
Don't worry im been in the same problem. What I did is that I told the people or group that im done and i told them that im not going to hang out with them anymore and im going to chage and do the right thing don't worry its going to feel good you just have to do it!!!
My advice is a little repetitive....but definitely be honest with them. If they are mean to you, or take it badly, then know they aren't good enough to be your friends. make some new ones! when you know you're with people you trust and like, you'll know it, and you won't feel guilty, unsure, and you'll be happy.
How about getting a new phone number?
tell them
You need to just stand up for yourself and make sure you stay true to what you want. If someone calls you and you don't answer, you don't need to feel guilty. It's your choice who you want to talk to, who you want to spend time with. I've had the exact same situation-- still have it, actually-- and I've finally figured out how to deal with it. Good luck. Be true to who you want to be.
Talking is the key. It's what makes things better. You tell them about what you feel towards them and start to give them the idea that it might not be such a great idea to hang out as friends. Do not ignore and leave them in the dark thinking you hate them that is the last thing you would do. Tell them straight to the face is better than just ignoring them. You shouldn't yell unless you really start to lose it. After that, if you really don't want to text or call them then block them after you talk to them! No friendship is easy but that's okay if you know how to handle it.Good luck!
Change your number if you have to. If they knock on your door, don't answer. If you see them out, walk the other way. If these people are bad influences on you, the only way to break the ties with them is to do it fully. You've got to do it all at once and stick to it.
Think about it like this. If you're going to chop down a tree would it be easier to do it with tons of little chops or would it be better to swing hard and get it down in one swift blow?
Good luck!
Well.... Change your way of being you or something!
I'm in the same place you are! My best friend went to jail today! My mom has told me to leave her alone for years! I would probably just tell you to delete them from your phone %26amp; block them from calling you! I guess i need to take my own advise! :-)~
It's really good that you relies these people aren't good for you and are trying to straighten out. What I would suggest is just slowing breaking yourself away from them. Don't be rude, just occupy yourself with other things and eventually they'll stop asking you to hang out or whatever and the relationships will fizzle out, hopefully.
Dont take those calls and texts it is just gonna give that person the thought that you still want to be friends and that you are still friends. Just try to start hanging out with other people.
you have to stop answering the texts/calls..maybe not all at once but slowly. Gradually distance yourself from them until they just move on to someone who is more active in their life. Thats what I've done..
slowly stop talking to them and stop hanging out with them...
Stop returning texts and calls and they will eventually get the hint. And anything worth doing is not easy but must be done.
I had to do the same thing so i get it. First (obviously) is stop answering their texts and calls. Call your cell network and have them block their numbers if you have to. Also, tell them straight up that they're not good influences for you and that you can't have them in your life while they're still doing that stuff. If it's still not working switch environments, take yourself away from the bad influences. Also, meet new people, if you have a lot of good influences you won't feel like you need the bad ones so much. Hope this helps =D
There is no magic to it. You basically have to grow a backbone and say ';no more!';
I've been in this situation before. Its a lot better to get away from bad friends before something happens that'll screw up your life. I.e.: getting arrested, an unexpected pregnancy, motivating you to stay away from educational achievement, etc.
Why are you doing something you dont really want to? Ask yourself that question. Nobody can make you do anything if you dont want to..it's all in your hands.
slowly back off
%26amp;start hanging out with different people
they'll probably get the idea sooner or later
%26amp;you might wanna talk it out too
Just talk it out with them and try to fix things up.. explain ur feelings to them :D good luck
If they ask to you hang out, tell them you can't or that you're busy, answer their calls and messages less, drift slowly away from them, find new friends to occupy yourself with. Good luck!
gradualy stop talking to them and hang out with other people
First off congratulations with wanting to get your life in order, I know it can be hard to end friendships with negative influences.
I don't necessarily think you have to cut off all contact with these people unless they make it impossible for you to get your own life in order. (what i mean by this is to keep in contact only through emails or something not by hanging out with them)
The easiest thing I could tell you to do is to write (or email) these friends a letter saying that you need to do some work on yourself, apologize and tell them that it is nothing personal (even if it is). Don't burn any bridges because it might make it hard for you later on in life to show these people that your dessions really were for your best interest (meaning you might need to set an example one day).
Don't take any phone calls or make plans to hang out with them.
When I stopped doing drugs I tired to stay friends with all my pot buddies and all they wanted to do was, you guessed it, smoke up and it made it hard to stay friends with them because we had no common ground for a close friendship anymore. After my life got on track i was able to talk to them again, but that was very hard for me because they really were my best friends.
The best advice i can give you is to take it one day at a time and keep your eyes on the big picture, which is getting your life on the right track.
Good luck
Erase their numbers from your phone, AIM, and websites like facebook and myspace, if you have any of those.
I was in the same situation over the summer and i still would hangout with them, rarely, and communicate with them through the computer.
But since college has started up again, I go to school 5 days a week and go to work part time, it keeps me really busy. Just find ways to keep yourself preoccupied and you won't even bother to think of them.
Best of luck to you!
make new friends
then start hanging out with your new friends
and slowly but surely your old ones will dissappear.
I still text and answer the calls to people that I know I shouldn't but it's hard... Any good advice. Because i've tried everything but I know I need to get my life straight...
Thanks...How do I cancel the bad friendships I am in. With people I shouldn't be hanging out with anymore. Advice?
I have been in the exact same situation and i think its great that you realize what you need to do..
You need to just start avoiding them.. stop responding to most of their texts and calls only responding randomly if you really can't help it.. and do not agree to any specific plans with them.
Find new (if you don't already have some) loyal friends and start hanging out with them much more. If you already have them (assuming that you do) surround yourself with them and keep busy.
If these bad friends question your behavior you can give a semi honest opinion or again, ignore it all together.. The texts will slow and probably eventually stop.
Then as much as i would say it sucks.. change your number. That is the best way to totally refresh your life with only the important people in your life having access to you.
Good Luck!How do I cancel the bad friendships I am in. With people I shouldn't be hanging out with anymore. Advice?
how bad is the friendship first?
You need to totally ignore these people. If need be, tell them straight up that you don't want to be friends any more.
loose the phone for a few days, then have someone delete the msgs. Or cancel the testing on the phone. Block it. If you ignore them......they will go away
you are just going to have to force yourself not to. Tell yourself that its for the best. Delete there numbers from your phone book, there email addresses, if you have a myspace(etc.) delete them. Don't even read the texts. just delete them. thats the only thing I know to do. Its going to be hard, but you're going to have to remind yourself everytime they contact you thats its for the best.
do him in the butt
Don't worry im been in the same problem. What I did is that I told the people or group that im done and i told them that im not going to hang out with them anymore and im going to chage and do the right thing don't worry its going to feel good you just have to do it!!!
My advice is a little repetitive....but definitely be honest with them. If they are mean to you, or take it badly, then know they aren't good enough to be your friends. make some new ones! when you know you're with people you trust and like, you'll know it, and you won't feel guilty, unsure, and you'll be happy.
How about getting a new phone number?
tell them
You need to just stand up for yourself and make sure you stay true to what you want. If someone calls you and you don't answer, you don't need to feel guilty. It's your choice who you want to talk to, who you want to spend time with. I've had the exact same situation-- still have it, actually-- and I've finally figured out how to deal with it. Good luck. Be true to who you want to be.
Talking is the key. It's what makes things better. You tell them about what you feel towards them and start to give them the idea that it might not be such a great idea to hang out as friends. Do not ignore and leave them in the dark thinking you hate them that is the last thing you would do. Tell them straight to the face is better than just ignoring them. You shouldn't yell unless you really start to lose it. After that, if you really don't want to text or call them then block them after you talk to them! No friendship is easy but that's okay if you know how to handle it.Good luck!
Change your number if you have to. If they knock on your door, don't answer. If you see them out, walk the other way. If these people are bad influences on you, the only way to break the ties with them is to do it fully. You've got to do it all at once and stick to it.
Think about it like this. If you're going to chop down a tree would it be easier to do it with tons of little chops or would it be better to swing hard and get it down in one swift blow?
Good luck!
Well.... Change your way of being you or something!
I'm in the same place you are! My best friend went to jail today! My mom has told me to leave her alone for years! I would probably just tell you to delete them from your phone %26amp; block them from calling you! I guess i need to take my own advise! :-)~
It's really good that you relies these people aren't good for you and are trying to straighten out. What I would suggest is just slowing breaking yourself away from them. Don't be rude, just occupy yourself with other things and eventually they'll stop asking you to hang out or whatever and the relationships will fizzle out, hopefully.
Dont take those calls and texts it is just gonna give that person the thought that you still want to be friends and that you are still friends. Just try to start hanging out with other people.
you have to stop answering the texts/calls..maybe not all at once but slowly. Gradually distance yourself from them until they just move on to someone who is more active in their life. Thats what I've done..
slowly stop talking to them and stop hanging out with them...
Stop returning texts and calls and they will eventually get the hint. And anything worth doing is not easy but must be done.
I had to do the same thing so i get it. First (obviously) is stop answering their texts and calls. Call your cell network and have them block their numbers if you have to. Also, tell them straight up that they're not good influences for you and that you can't have them in your life while they're still doing that stuff. If it's still not working switch environments, take yourself away from the bad influences. Also, meet new people, if you have a lot of good influences you won't feel like you need the bad ones so much. Hope this helps =D
There is no magic to it. You basically have to grow a backbone and say ';no more!';
I've been in this situation before. Its a lot better to get away from bad friends before something happens that'll screw up your life. I.e.: getting arrested, an unexpected pregnancy, motivating you to stay away from educational achievement, etc.
Why are you doing something you dont really want to? Ask yourself that question. Nobody can make you do anything if you dont want to..it's all in your hands.
slowly back off
%26amp;start hanging out with different people
they'll probably get the idea sooner or later
%26amp;you might wanna talk it out too
Just talk it out with them and try to fix things up.. explain ur feelings to them :D good luck
If they ask to you hang out, tell them you can't or that you're busy, answer their calls and messages less, drift slowly away from them, find new friends to occupy yourself with. Good luck!
gradualy stop talking to them and hang out with other people
First off congratulations with wanting to get your life in order, I know it can be hard to end friendships with negative influences.
I don't necessarily think you have to cut off all contact with these people unless they make it impossible for you to get your own life in order. (what i mean by this is to keep in contact only through emails or something not by hanging out with them)
The easiest thing I could tell you to do is to write (or email) these friends a letter saying that you need to do some work on yourself, apologize and tell them that it is nothing personal (even if it is). Don't burn any bridges because it might make it hard for you later on in life to show these people that your dessions really were for your best interest (meaning you might need to set an example one day).
Don't take any phone calls or make plans to hang out with them.
When I stopped doing drugs I tired to stay friends with all my pot buddies and all they wanted to do was, you guessed it, smoke up and it made it hard to stay friends with them because we had no common ground for a close friendship anymore. After my life got on track i was able to talk to them again, but that was very hard for me because they really were my best friends.
The best advice i can give you is to take it one day at a time and keep your eyes on the big picture, which is getting your life on the right track.
Good luck
Erase their numbers from your phone, AIM, and websites like facebook and myspace, if you have any of those.
I was in the same situation over the summer and i still would hangout with them, rarely, and communicate with them through the computer.
But since college has started up again, I go to school 5 days a week and go to work part time, it keeps me really busy. Just find ways to keep yourself preoccupied and you won't even bother to think of them.
Best of luck to you!
make new friends
then start hanging out with your new friends
and slowly but surely your old ones will dissappear.
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