I'm 23 weeks pregnant. I have a very VERY active baby. Strong too. My last prenatal appointment was on the 2nd. Th dr made note that during 6 months of pregnancy, I had gained too much weight, called me fat. I assured her I don't eat as much as you think. But still she told me to eat half as much, half as often. Stop drinkin juices and milk, drink water. I think she's quack but she's got the degree, so I listened. Then I didn't feel the baby move for 2 days. Went to the hospital, she's moving on te monitor, but I can't feel her. The dr telling me to eat much less, the baby is weak, and unable to make strong movements like she normally would. After the Hospitl staff telling me the Dr should have never told me to stop eating.. How do I now deal with what the doctor put me through? What would you do?How to deal with a Dr giving bad advice?
Ask to see a different doctor (it's your right), let them give you a once over and then tell them what you're doctor said and ask if this was sound advise. If your new doctor says the same thing, then you can rest assured that your doctor was right. But if they say something different, i'd change doctors, if that's possible. If it's not, carry on doing what you're doing and eating what you're eating (as long as it's healthy) and ignore what she said!! Of all the people to listen to when you're pregnant, listen to your midwife. Doctors, although they have the degree, don't specialise in pregnancy like midwives do, so listen to her!!!
I think it's awful that the doctor said you've gained too much weight. Even if you had, that's no reason for your baby to be kicking too much!!!! And if you have gained too much weight, unless it's around 1 to 2 stone more than you should, there's nothing wrong with you!! Is she sure it's YOU that's put on the weight and you've not just got a big baby? And therefore a big uterus, more water retention etc? And is she SURE it's your diet, and not something else, like maybe preeclampsia or something else? I hate it when you go to doctors and they say you've put on too much weight, and it MUST be your diet! It could be so many different other things, especially when you're pregnanat!How to deal with a Dr giving bad advice?
Well the only that you can really do is get a new Dr. Maybe even see if its grounds of a law suit! I was told that I hadn't gained enough weight, I was told to eat more... So I did and got GD. Now they want me to curve my eating habits! lol So I'm going to lose what they wanted me to gain... Dr's I tell you. Never know what they want!
I'm not a doctor, but I wouldn't think that's the best advice. You should alter your eating not stop! The baby needs milk and things like that. Maybe switch to skim, keep drinking juices but switch to all natural no sugar added...those kinds of options. Cook your foods differently that's all.
..And they never should of called you fat. Wrong wrong!
Maybe find a different doctor, keep eating the good stuff :)
The only thing you can do is just get yourself a new dr. and report report her to the appropriate pple.
But i can't understand why a dr. would tell you that. Your not fat, for crying out loud, your pregnant. My dr. told me i was now considered obese, but that was after my first pregnancy, not during. Your dr. is ignorant. Get yourself a new dr.
You ALWAYS have the option to decline recommended services when you disagree with your doctor, and obtain another opinion.
On something this drastic, you need that other opinion right away. And you don't have to return to any medical professional with whom you have such strong disagreement. As other posters have suggested -- it's time for a new doctor.
At your next doctor's appointment, tell your doctor what happened and let her know how you felt about her comments and advice. If she does not give you answers that you are happy with, go to another doctor. This is the most important thing you will ever do, you need someone in your corner that you can trust...
NEVER,go to that doctor again,and in the future,never let no body tell you to stop eating,milk is good for you babies bones,eat fruits,drink lots of water,eat healthy.Stay away from junk and drugs.
You will have a nice baby,have a safe delivery !!!
Get a new Dr. if your not comfertable w/her. How much did you gain??
She should havent called you fat......she should have asked you what you eat and how much. That was wrong..... I envey you because I would have slapped the ***** lol....
I say find a new doctor. I know you probably don't want to since you're already more than half way through your pregnancy, but do you really want this doctor delivering your baby????
I would file a report with the state board and find a new doctor ASAP. Just because a doctor tells you to do something doesn't mean don't trust your instincts. Listen to your body first.
Get a new Dr. you need to agree with the Dr. who will be deliver your baby.
This is a case of malpractice ! Get yourself a good malpractice attorney and sue!
Switch docs!
I lost my first little girl to bad Dr advice...personally I wish that pain on NO ONE. First of all Change doctors. Second write a letter of complaint to the administration of the hospital that stupid quack B**** is in and attach a letter from the new doctor about the state of the baby and how she may have endangered it. You might think that it's nothing but when you walk away and they tell you everything is fine...but then a few days later you lose her/him. It's devastating because you will always blame yourself for not knowing...and for listening to her even when you had doubts.
i also had a doctor tell me that I was getting too ';fat'; and gaining to much weight and it would be me that would have to get all this weight off after the baby (*funny thing she said this though, i worked at Dunkin Donuts at the time and she came driving through there almost every week to get her coffee and doughnut lol*).. I gained about 45 pounds with my first pregnancy and i know that was more than i should have but it was also less then i could have Ive heard of people who gained more.. it really upset me and hurt my feelings but i was to afraid to say anything to the hospital or the rest of the staff there because i was so embarrassed and i thought maybe they would think the same thing.. I never went back to that doctor and i talked to people who made me feel better and told me that i was doing fine! Definitely dont listen to this doctor! Eat what you need to for your baby!
After my Aunty nearly died of cancer(because a doctor got it wrong ) she taught me a very valuable lesson.
';Doctors are human ...they get it wrong....go with your gut....trust yourself....nobody knows your body like you do!';
She lived to tell me this because she fought to be heard..... she believed in herself and when the doctors didnt listen she MADE them.
She couldnt fix her problem without doctors help...but you can!
You can find a new doctor(who will support you) and you can do what is was that you were doing before to make your baby strong.
I am fat! I have carried two Healthy babies to term being fat. Big people have babies everyday....there are whole cultures who are large. They are still populated!
Being overweight and pregnant can have risks but a good doctor would have outlined these....not just called you fat.
Besides what one person thinks is fat varies.
EAT! Look after yourselve and your precious baby!
Get yourself a new doctor....just cause she has a degree does not make her right!
Is it possible that you misunderstood your doctors advice?? By cutting back on your food and juice intake, you would be making yourself weak, not the baby so quickly....the baby will get first choice of the nutrients for a while.....I think if you followed a healthy diet, lots of fruits, veggies, whole grains, yougart, etc. you would be fine and so would your baby.....First you said the doc said eat half as much and half as often....but then you say he said to stop eating....which is it...??? And if you did stop eating, then you are not a very smart woman.....common sense would tell you that it doesn't sound right.....Plus, if you can ask this forum what to do after the fact, you could have asked for opinions on that advice before you followed it!!
how dare she!!! you are never supposed to ';diet'; while prego and any real dr. would know that. I am not a dr, but a mother of 2 boys and i gained a lot of weight wit my last and my dr. loved it! I say go back to what your were doin at 1st to make your baby have his/her energy back, they need it. The baby weight will come off and the baby will be healthy and i would find another dr. ASAP!!!! Some dr.s are in it only for the money not the care of the patient. sounds like you were doin fine sweetie and your baby was enjoying you eating. Hope this helps and i hope you continue doin well!!!
if the baby is weakened or suffers permanent damage from the ';doctor';'s bad advice, get a lawyer and get a copy of your medical file. however, unless you severely restricted your caloric intake, 2 days should not make that much of a difference in the long run. go back to eating to meet yours and the baby's needs.
don't forget, your body will nourish the baby first. so whatever you eat will go to her, then the leftovers to you. so if you felt ok, then you probably didn't restrict your eating enough to harm her either.
This is exactly why I no longer go to people with degrees. Just because they are the ';experts'; does not mean that they are. Doctors and teachers and many others that take care of people are not treating people, they are treating the disease or by the book. Each individual is different and different things are for different people. It took me 35 years to realize and now have done my own research on things. People thumbs down me a lot, especially on my immunization answers, but I researched and found out. Doctors are NOT God and the government has scared us into things. You need to find another doctor or better yet, a midwife. I will keep you and your baby in my prayers.
