NO GOODY2SHOES 4 this one!! I need some bad*** advice...?

my bfs ex wife is trying to stir up so much trouble...he's completely blind to what she's doing she'll b all nice to him and kiss his familys a** and then told me she'll show me how it is and is since just trying to do ANYTHING to upset me from msging him all the time to becoming best friends with his sis and bro (while they were married she hated his siblings) what can i do? i dont wanna sit here and let her get away with it... i cant talk to him because he gets deensive and mad.. i wana piss her off and get back at her sorry all u nice ppl but this woman has hurt me enough.... i wanna give her a taste of her reciepeNO GOODY2SHOES 4 this one!! I need some bad*** advice...?
As soon as you ';give her a taste'; of her own medicine she has won! She is looking for a reaction from you. She is hoping to cause trouble between you and your boyfriend and you are letting her. Ignore her. It will drive her crazy!NO GOODY2SHOES 4 this one!! I need some bad*** advice...?
You want revenge? Set her up...get a male friend of yours that your bf doesn't know...have him find the ex, get her to sleep with him or suck his -----, take a pic, then send it to your bf. He will remember why he isn't with her and really hate her when he see's those pics. Or here is a website that might give you some ideas. http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com/


or there are plenty of websites like this out there.
You might want to be careful or you will end up an ex also. This is something your bf has to deal with. IF there are kids involved with ex and your bf then theres nothing you can do really. You can put your foot down and tell your bf that he needs to have no contact with her and if he does (if theres no kids) then he needs to choose, you or her. You need to sit down with his bro and sis and let them know that the ex is playing games with them. YOu can record the ex saying to you what she does or have her on speaker phone while she spouts her crap and have your bf listen in. Until he does something about it though, she will continue .
What my wife did was this: (same thing happened with my X)





Kill her with kindness. Write her kind e-mails. And when she responds negatively you have proff that she is really a flat out b*tch! Eventually your husbands family will see who the real bad person is. It's not you, becasue you've been nothing but an adult, mature, and nice about it, but she is acting like a child and being manipulative. Only difference between your situation and mine is that I never stuck up for my X.





But you need to be the good , better person here. Let her continue to be the way she is. They will all see her true colors eventually. DONT stoop to her level. Jsut by being the bigger person and not showing her that it bothers you is the best thing you can do. She'll waste her time and energy trying to trip you up and will eventually fall flat on her own face.





She's playing dirty, you have to play just as dirty but YOU have to be smarter abotu how dirty you play. let your husband's family see who she really is by gatehring all the evidence that can not be fabricated but is genuinely from her, but do it slyly.





Again, be the biger more mature adult in this situation and in time, she will trip up and they will all see what a looser she really is!
You need to get out of that situation. Anything that causes that much trouble is not worth it. Do you really want to have to deal with that for the rest of your life? Be the bigger person and just leave.
The best way to hurt her is to make sure her plan fails. The best way to make sure her plan fails is to NOT do anything! No fighting with BF over her, no telling ANYBODY anything about her. Don't let her getting to you show at all. That will really upset her more than you getting all worked up, because you being upset is what she wants. Sounds like so far she is winning.
Be the better woman and ignore her.
try talking to him, tell him not to get mad and listen to you. ok enough nice sh**. try calling her and using a voice recorder get her saying those things to you then play the recording for him. he can't argue if he hears her for himself.
Seems that your bf wants his ex in his life and his family does too. I'm sorry to say that its something that you will definitely have to deal with. I need to tell you that you put this question out there wanting someone to tell you to kick her butt or how to get back at her but seriously things can be handled at a mature level. Tell them what she is saying if these conversations between you and her are on the phone find a way to record everything she says. Just know this if your bf gets defensive, argues and defends this woman then you need to break it off with him and move on seems that he still has a thing for her and refuses to let her go, but before you leave make sure they see her for the b!tch that she is. Good luck to you sweetie!!!!
Interesting! My father used to say...'keep your friends close but your enemies closer'....in other words, play her at her own game, get really over friendly with her and just when everyone thinks you love her to bits, ditch her. Tell your bf that she said something about his brother that you will never repeat. You decide what that is. Don't tell him for ages but make it something shocking that this ex wife is supposed to have said, cry some croc tears but show your loyalty to his family by having nothing more to do with her. Everyone will be wondering what it is she has said and because you were her 'best pal' and them dumped her suddenly, they will believe you....I feel guilty now...just read some of the other answers and they are all much better. Just ignore this....I got carried away. Your best of course to be the greatest gf in the world, fun, never moaning about the ex wife etc...that would also do it!!!! Sorry.
its not worth your time and energy ,you could be out having fun with friends drop her drama
Is she involved with someone? Maybe if you slept with her new man that would show her...oops but then you'd probably get dumped for cheating on your BF...





I'm not being nice when I tell you to not stoop to her level. Mainly because you can't sink low enough to pizz her off so that she will stop.





What will happen is it will escalate until you get dumped because your man already has one psycho ex to deal with and he isn't going to want another psycho in his life.





The only thing you can do is ignore her and not let her get under your skin. If you can't do that, then maybe you should rethink being with him.





I'm assuming that there are children involved in which case she is ALWAYS NOW AND FOREVER going to be a part of your life for as long as you are with him. Through school, through college, through weddings, through grandchildren...she will be there as long as they share a genetic link through their children and grandchildren.





If you're past all of that and you are in this for the long haul, then work on forging your own relationship with his relatives so when she starts to bad mouth you they know she's a liar.





If there are no children involved: then your problem is with your man. Why is a crazy ex still a part of his life? Why doesn't he get a restraining order against her? Are they still married and he hasn't told you? Are they still having sex and he hasn't told you? If they are over then why is she behaving like a jealous girlfriend? Why is he getting defensive about it?





something is very fishy here...





BTW: NO MAN is worth the drama of a psycho ex. I don't care how good he is, that is my one personal deal breaker.
Revenge is a dish best served cold my dear. She is winning because she has your panties in a wad. The more you retaliate the more she wins.





The best way to get revenge is to look hot and be a great person that everyone loves. Go to the gym and work out, look your best all the time. Blow her off. There is a reason why she is an ex wife because they didn't work out.





Bad things to do? hmmmmm How about signing up her email address and physical address and phone for a bunch of promotions. She will get tons of calls and emails. LOL





That's all I got. I don't have ideas on how to waste your energy on energy suckers. Because they SUCK!
WARNING! If you do something to her that's even just the slightest bit mean, she's probably going to tell him that you're picking on her...even if you're only doing it self-defense. I would just sit there and enjoy being with your boyfriend...because that's what's going to get her goat! And when you're around his family, be nice to them. Then she'll have to hear from them, ';Oh, she's the nicest girl!'; I think that's where you'll get your true revenge.
ya um you need to discuss that w/ your BF! Cuz why the heck is he still talking to her in the first place? do they have kids together! or does he still have feelings for her?? CUT OFF ALL CONTACT BETWEEN THEM! If hes not ok w/ that then you need to move on...your just sloppy seconds! Hey you said no good two shoes! :)
I think she's doing this on purpose to make you look bad when you do retaliate. Then, she's made it inside the circle and can point out how evil a woman you are because you did a, b, and c. Don't give her the satisfaction. Just let her do her thing. As for your bf, just like my hubby when I tried to tell him how his ex was using him and manipulating him AND bragging to me about it when we were engaged...to which he said I was ';making it up'; because she'd never ';been that kind of person';....he found out the hard way. I stopped telling him OR listening to her, and he had to find out years later by it all blowing up on him. Boy was he mad. All I could do is say, ';I tried to tell you, but I was a liar.'; Just let them play their stupid games. If it's too much drama for you, or he is choosing her side, perhaps you need a new bf.
why don't you just leave that drama..? if your boyfriend gets all defensive then that should tell you all you need to know.

I messed up pretty bad..advice?

I am pmsing pretty bad, and said some pretty mean things to my boyfriend. I wish I could take the words back..


But, I don't know what to say.


He is trying to sleep right now..


I don't wanna break up and he has been talking about it.


Said he wasn't sure if he loves me anymore which he has been saying the last 3 or 4 days.


I've been starting a bunch of fights.


I don't know what to do.


I don't wanna lose him.


I know this is kind of a difficult question because


you don't know our situation very well but any help would be niceI messed up pretty bad..advice?
we all lose it at times , just try to go and do fun things together and things that make both of you happy , maybe get some time to yourself doing girl things , good luck

Ugg i feel so bad. advice please?

ok sorry ahead of time but this is probably going to be pretty long. so im almost 15 and a sophomore. ive never had a bf and guys really arent interested in me. im not ugly, i dont ask but people tell me im really pretty (sorry i dont want to sound conceited). im an a+ student and kind of a nerd, but not the stereotypical fanny pack and suspenders nerd. lol.... anyways it kind of doesnt matter to me and im just not ';interested'; in boys. im definately not a lesbian even though people sometimes say that i must be. like it seems crazy to me, i have the rest of my life to get a bf and i dont need one to be happy with myself. i feel really uncomfortable when people ask about who i like or who id go out with and stuff and they just dont seem to drop it when i say that i dont like anyone and dont want a bf...... sooo now heres the story.


sometimes guys flirt with me, but its just to mess around with me and they dont actually LIKE me. this is the only thing that ever happens so i kind of got used to it. there was this guy (hes older) who i dont like at all, very creepy, kind of stalkerish, not cute. He pretended to like me and went WAAAY too far with it. I started to get really uncomfortable and then today he said really loud I DONT LIKE YOU! i kind of figured he didnt b.c nobody ever does but it feels really bad that he was just doing it to make fun of me. i didnt really feel like talking when they were joking around and asked if they can just drop it (but nicely)... . they were really mean about it and told me i need to lighten up and learn to take a joke, which i tried to take really well even though it wasnt funny. i dont know, i just kind of feel like crap right now i just need some advice or something to make me feel better. maybe some people are in my situation????? thanks so muchUgg i feel so bad. advice please?
Hey hun! I am so sorry! I totally can understand. I was in a very similar situation. Dearest, at 15 the boys are still quite immature. I am currently 20 and have never had a boyfriend and I promise I am no lesbian! (although I must clarify, I have nothing against them) I am not going to say that I have never had a crush on a boy and that I haven't had my fair share of boys who have liked me, but here are a few things I think you need to be told (or reminded) about


1. You are 15, no matter what other people say it is perfectly normal, even healthy to not have a boyfriend yet. As you said, you have your whole life for dating, now you should continue to focus on your school and you will be preparing for your future. Get into a good college where the boys will be smart, mature, possibly more attractive, rational, and quite possibly wealthy :D


2. As I mentioned before boys at 15 are quite immature. The reason I never had a boyfriend in high school was because of this. You are probably like I was and just have the maturity level of a college student and thus it would make sense that older boys would be more appropriate for your mental level, but its illegal for you to really date them so just wait! It will be fabulous! Also, about the boys that just make fun of you, PLEASE don't let high school boys give you a bad feeling toward men in general. I promise, they get better as they get older!


3. Always remember that you are a wonderful person and you deserve a wonderful person. Don't settle just because it seems like the norm. You will be better off staying true to yourself!





Hope that helped! Good luck!Ugg i feel so bad. advice please?
if they do that, slap them. They cant slap you back coz theyd be sissy's :P and theyd get soooooooooooo embarassed.


Hope i helped


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awwww! don't feel bad! those guys are jerks! don't listen to them! they're stupid. and i love what you said about having the rest of your life to get a bf! i am not in this situation right now, but i think that you should just forget about it and move on. once you move on, those jerks will too. ignore them and sure enough they will get the point. to feel better you should go in your room and blast some awesome music. it could help you to just forget about it. i really hope that i helped... fell better girl!


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i understand. i'm 14 and never had a bf but about 90%of my school has. people always joke with me and call me the lezzy and stuff but i just simply not into hte whole dating thing and i'm too lazy to get up and put on makeup just to waste two hours at a movie with a guy when i could just hang out with my friends or chill at my house.


i think he was rude :P i'd just ignore it. the time will come when all of us normal girls will prevail!! MWAH HA HA








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1st of all, good for you to not be all ga ga over boys. If you are happy with yourself, by yourself you have achieved what most women wish they could. And your good self confidence is fantastic.


Be yourself, concentrate on your studies, get good grades so when you are out in the real world you won't have to depend on anyone.


As for your issue. I know it sounds cliche but just ignore it. Seriously. Don't engage these ';bullies'; at all. Don't look at them, don't say a word to them, pretend like there not there. They will eventually stop bothering you as they like to get your attention and get you going.


They may actually like you but because you are not in the ';popular circle'; they may be embarrassed to admit they find you attractive or a cool chick.


Don'tt sweat them and keep being you cuz in the end that is what matters and is respected. High School is just really tough and kids are so mean.
Umm, when was the last time someone walked around in suspenders and a fanny pack?
do u honestly think im gna read all that .......





and dis is a rant not question - reported.

Help i need really bad advice?

okay ive been together with my girlfriend for 3 months n she says she says she loves me alot n dat shes in love n i know im in love with her but i dont know i have doubt in her feeling the same way i feel and im worried about it but we do talk on the phone for 5 or 4 hours daily all night almost and text eachother all day but our for my birthday she says she dont wanna be with me and she said she would rather be hanging out with her friends dat day instead and im wondering if this is normal that she doesnt wanna be with me on the day of my birthday since she says she loves me alot and i have doubt in it can someone give me some advice because and is she really into me like she says she is ?? is it normal shed rather be with her friends on the day of my birthday?? of maybe could shes just be planning something ??? please i need advice from other girls im hurting inside cause of this should i worry?? what should i do??Help i need really bad advice?
You need bad advice? You've come to the right place.





If you're talking on the phone to your girlfriend for 4-5 hrs a day, then you need to get a life. Dependency is not sexy. Take a step back, develop your own interests, give her some space and her interest will return.Help i need really bad advice?
She might be planning a surprise party for you, or it might be that she has special and specific plans with her friends (not just routine hanging out).





Try not to worry about it.
thats sounds really odd that she dosent want ot seeu on ur birthday or maybe she is planning a suprise or present, dont really no if peopel on here dont no the person

High school GPA pretty bad advice please?

Hello i am in the 10th grade with a GPA of 2.55 bad i know i am going to go into the 11th grade and do alot better because for the past 2 years i have been a heavy marijuana user sadly o well,,, Like my question is i know i anit going to go to a great college but i will do really good for my undergrad is it possible to get into a better college for my MBA if i do good on the BA?? I plan to bring my high school GPA to atleast a 3.1 and im gonna study my butt off to get good SAT scores please help ((although i am good at math had B+ for the past 2 math courses and my stock market returns are spotless with average yearly returns in excess of 100%))High school GPA pretty bad advice please?
Yes, it is possible to get into a better school for your MBA if your college grades are really good, but you need to make sure you stay clean for the next 10 years or so. Your stock market returns won't help you if your grades are not good.High school GPA pretty bad advice please?
Yes, it's possible to go to a better university for your MBA and frequently, people do. You should probably stay in-state for school, save yourself and your parents some money, and do really well, then go to a better graduate program. 2.55 isn't amazing, but at least get it near 3.0 and focus on your SAT (and ACT) scores too, and join in clubs and sports if you can. Good luck!
it's great to set goals and all but you should accept whatever school you can get into and work on the weed habit. nothing sticks to a brain addled by drugs (in case you haven't noticed).





PS your stock market returns are largely good luck. don't get too full of your math skills
yes, it is possible to get into a good graduate program...as long as you do better in your undergraduate studies. Graduate addissions look at college GPA, letters of recommendation from professors and GRE scores
You need to first worry about getting into an undergrad institution. With the GPA you described, you won't be going anywhere great. My suggestion is go to a community college and transfer to a 4 year university afterwards. Community colleges accept everyone so you won't have a problem there.





Example: I'm from California, so I don't know how it is in other states, but a LOT of people go to community college, do well, and transfer to the UC system, which has some good schools, i.e. UCLA, Berkeley, San Diego. When you transfer, your high school grades and SAT scores won't matter. I suggest you talk to a guidance counselor at your school first.

Filed as ';married'; on bad advice; how to fix without incurring big penalty?

I fully supported my girlfriend in 06 and 07; tax guy said I should file as ';married';; I wanted to use ';qualifying relative'; if possible.





She did not work at all those years nor was she claimed on anyone else's taxes. Problem is now I believe it will hurt her FAFSA financial aid eligibility (she wants to go back to school in Fall 09).





Also will I risk being audited for 06 and 07 if we both file in 08 as ';single';?





What should I do; I'm now unemployed, as of early 09, and getting aid for school would be really nice for both of us.





I really can't afford a tax penalty? How should I have handled my 07 and 07 returns (as well as my 08 return do in October)?Filed as ';married'; on bad advice; how to fix without incurring big penalty?
Filing illegally is not an excuse for failing to amend.





1. You amend back to single with a dependent. You lose both the other half of the joing deduction and the doubled tax brackets. Yes, you will owe when you are done.





2. FASFA will make you correct it.





3. Unless you live in one a few common law marriage states in which case, you may find you are now married.Filed as ';married'; on bad advice; how to fix without incurring big penalty?
You maybe able to do a amended return for those years. I don't want to give you any bad advice but talking with a CPA could get you straight. I don't know about this one but seeing how this person talked you into bad advice you may be able to talk to an IRS agent for advice. I hear some don't know what is going on but one time I was in trouble and the agent I talked to didn't burn we and told me what to do. I think you should check with a CPA for help. Some states have free legal advice let's hope the rightperson sees this. Whatever you do is double check everything I see plenty of bad advice people want to help but haven't got the right info you already know that there is so much misinformation going around and they believe whatever they are told. Luck

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I screwed up so bad.advice?

I can't even type this because I convinced myself this didn't happen. I screwed up really bad last night. I made the worst mistake of my life and now I'm lost. I don't know what to do. I can't sleep , I feel sick.





I cheated on my boyfriend. The best thing that ever happened to me. I'm not the kind of person who would cheat ever.





I was drunk last night at my best friends house. With her , her boyfriend and his best friend. Were all really good friends. My best friend has it in her head that my boyfriend is a bad boyfriend, doesn't treat me good etc. She's never met him. She just hears the bad stuff, when were fighting and when I'm venting. She kept telling me to hook up with Dave.





They left us alone in his bedroom. Being drunk we ended up having sex. A minute into it He asked me if I was ok and I sat up and Bawled my eyes out. Then I left. I told her when went I went home.





she keeps saying 'either you tell him or you break up with him.. you can't put him through that. She practically made me do it.





I know it's my fault Drunk or not. It is 100% my fault. It was my decision I know.But I can't hurt him. He's so good to me. It's not the fact that I'm scared he's going to break up with me.It's that, I can't put him through the pain.





i don't want to be without him, so i can't just break up with him. the sex lasted literally 2 minutes before i started bawling. but he was the only guy I ever had sex with. and now that's ruined. we were supposed to get married and have him be the only one.





I can't explain the guilt I feel right now. I wish I could take it back more then anything in the world.I can't live i screwed over the one person in my life that hasn't screwed me over. Ive been with him for three years. I'm seventeen , he's twenty.


I don't know what to do. I feel so bad, Advice please?I screwed up so bad.advice?
Would you rather he heard it from you now, or from someone else at a later date. Although it puts it off, it'll be far worse when he actually finds out. I would tell him. Let him know you're sorry. Then it's his call. If he leaves, let him. You've screwed up big time. However, if he loves you that much he should be able to look past it. If you don't tell him, I just get the impression your ';friend'; might let something slip to get rid of your boyfriend, something she seems to be trying already.





Edit: You don't mention whether you used a condom in your post, but if not you might want to get tested for stds just in case. It's unlikely, but something to be aware of just in case.I screwed up so bad.advice?
your going to have to hurt his feeings either way... but tell him the truth!! Tell him all that you wrote down here... i hope it works out 4 you :(
well, I've never met your bf either and I can say that he's a bad bf if he dumps you. You aren't in the right, even for a moment, but if he doesn't love you enough to get through this, then you deserve better anyway. A man who would hold things against you is no real man. but, let him have his anger, he does deserve that much, and then let it go from there. If he dumps you, know you're better off. Cause there are men in the world who would be willing to make it through this. And if you are willing to wait and look, you'll find one too.
Well, hiding it from him will be worse if he somehow does find out. Then you'll have hurt him twice - the act and the lying. If you tell him why you feel so bad and how you regret it, it'll be up to him to decide how to react.





Maybe you should change your profile info while you're at it:


';i rarely regret anything.';
The same thing happened to me in September except the guy I cheated with was my bestfriend and I told my boyfreind when I got home because the guilt overwhelmed me. But he forgave me. I was drunk and he was drunk and now we are past it. I think that you should tell. Honestly I thought about not telling but the guilt ate me alive..and I didn't wanna get married or have a child on a lie. I think that you shouls tell him and tell him how much he's means to you. One thing that that experience gave me was I realized how much I really cared for my boyfriend and how much I loved him. Either way you should tell him. I know that I hurt him b/c he remembered the exact day and I didn't. Good Luck.
I'm all about honesty usually but look, you're young you're going to make mistakes.If you reeeally regret it that much, why hurt him with the information, it's not need to know if it wont happen again.


Don't let it happen again, don't tell him and just forget it completely.


You're only 17 so relax a bit!!
You had the nerve to cheat? People like you make me absolutely SICK. there is no excuse for what you did to your bf. If you have any morals you will tell him directly what you did and do not sugarcoat it he will decide your fate. This is absolutely vulgar behaviour and no man should tolerate it you're lucky he isn't me. i'd slap you in the face and dump your *** on the sidewalk
ur a f*cking w*ore btw but if ur rlly srs ab getting married then dnt tell him nd go on with life
i feel bad 4 u i rlly do, but if ur 17 u shldnt be drinking or having sex! with anyone! and anyways u should seve sex for marriage!